Cancelling a date....

[Titalian]

Money exchanged for time spent together only
So no time (whatever reason) equals no money

Or does someone want to come up with a more explicit contract?

Hey, how would you feel showing up to an appointment and nobody being there? Should you be compensated ?

 

[TeeJay]

Hey, how would you feel showing up to an appointment and nobody being there? Should you be compensated ?

And again as posted above have you ever seen a SP who did compensate you?
Many run late or even no show for various reasons (heck even name SPs, not just talking about backpage garbage here)

But in that situation you just call the next one
Same idea as if a restaurant you want to eat at is closed
There are many many more out there

 

[GPIDEAL]

You emailed her ? Why wouldn't you call her to make sure rather than email. Maybe she didn't check her email right away. It's much more considerate to call than just email.

Ya. If it's an emergency cancellation, phoning is best. It even is more sincere.

P.S. I've voluntarily paid a cancellation fee on a few occasions over the years. In one case, a new gal I wanted to see didn't believe me when I offered to send her a little money, and thought it was a joke or trick, and told me to never call her again even though it was NOT a cancellation but me just being late (I felt bad & tried to re-assure her that it was no trick but she rejected the idea - she was jaded or had issues - still feel bad and wish her well is all I can say).

 

[stevieray]

Ya. If it's an emergency cancellation, phoning is best. It even is more sincere.

P.S. I've voluntarily paid a cancellation fee on a few occasions over the years. In one case, a new gal I wanted to see didn't believe me and thought it was a joke and told me to never call her again (I felt bad & offered to email her money but she rejected the idea - she was jaded or had issues - still feel bad and wish here well is all I can say).

Thanks everyone for your comments. Yes, I will totally admit, I was an ass h..., first class, for e-mailing and not phoning her. I dunno what I was thinking. Oh well, live and learn I guess. IF, I somehow get the chance to meet her again, I will FOR SURE make it up to her: bottle of wine, flowers, extra tip, or all of the above...?

 

[Titalian]

And again as posted above have you ever seen a SP who did compensate you?

But in that situation you just call the next one
Same idea as if a restaurant you want to eat at is closed
There are many many more out there

On your first point yes I have been compensated, more than once and sometimes for situations that clearly wasn't their fault.
On your second point, Comparing them to a restaurant, again classifies them as being a commodity.
We are all different, I am not the type to have a plan B. My focus is on the woman I have chosen to see.
And that's probably because most of my appointments are done way in advance and I only concentrate on one woman at a time.

 

[Oriental Ziri]

I was stood up just tonight. Guy booked an hour date later than I wanted to go and I even cancelled two half hours who called while I was waiting for him.
He never showed or even called.

I don't waste time even being pissed off at these kind of people anymore. They aren't worth a second more of my time.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I was stood up just tonight. Guy booked an hour date later than I wanted to go and I even cancelled two half hours who called while I was waiting for him.
He never showed or even called.

I don't waste time even being pissed off at these kind of people anymore. They aren't worth a second more of my time.

I guess, sometimes it comes with the territory. Hopefully it's rare or infrequent.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

I guess, sometimes it comes with the territory. Hopefully it's rare or infrequent.

It's rare and infrequent with regulars, but unfortunately it happens a lot otherwise and unlike the poster who stated "next", it's not that simple for us to fill that spot. Usually it means that we're out the money.

As a provider who never cancels on clients it gets very frustrating and like Miss Croft, I have never been offered a cancellation fee, nor have I ever asked for one. I did however recently have a client who accidentally short changed me for a multiple hr appointment, mail me the amount owed. Very classy on his part! On the one occasion that I messed up the time due to my new fangled cell that I've now more or less mastered, I offered an hr for the price of a half to make it up to them. I felt it was only right.

Professional SPs aren't unnecessarily cancelling or no showing on clients, but members who are skipping out from work, or sneaking around behind a SOs back, etc., often end up cancelling. It's the nature of the beast, but it could be better handled by many, salvaging a possible relationship with the SP in question. Believe you me, I want to take clients at their word, but with time that becomes harder to do so. Like Ziri said, it's not worth stressing over. I simply put them on the backburner or B list and if they continually cancel or waste my time, they go on the DNB list and problem solved.

It's simple really, try to treat others as you'd like to be treated!