Has this ever happened to you? Ok, one of my all time favorites was coming to town, (she only comes to K-town maybe once or twice a year, if lucky..) So, I e-mail her early, to get a good time slot, we agree on a time, come the day, she e-mails the location,....anyway, on the same day, wouldn't you know, `real life` has to kick in...first a medical app right after work, that goes on waaay to long, then MY CAR BREAKS DOWN! Ahhh...Sooo, tired and exhausted, with less than 2hrs left, I very reluctantly, very apologetically, e-mailed her to tell her I couldn't keep our date. Haven`t heard anything back from her. I guess my question is, am I now on her `black list` of dates? I really feel terrible that I may have financially ruined her trip here! Any suggestions?
Cancelling a date....
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I would offer her cancellation fee or even the whole donation. I think it's just fair. Less than 2 hrs would probably not enough for her to replace you with another client. Personally I had cancelled a day ahead due to illness, and offered to pay her the full donation. She thanked me but declined the offer. We continue to see each other.
I hate to say this and may get attacked (all opinions welcome) but I find that when I have to cancel I'm always expected to 'make up for it' (discounts). And I do. But when guys cancel on me, I never, ever receive any sort of compensation at all. Never. Even though my entire evening could be ruined and I may have turned away another client.
Attack away but sometimes I feel it's very one-sided.
Sorry, not trying to attack the OP who sounds genuinely bad about it. Just talking in general.
Attack away but sometimes I feel it's very one-sided.
Sorry, not trying to attack the OP who sounds genuinely bad about it. Just talking in general.
That's a valid point, Miss Croft.
To the original poster, I think a phone call or text would have been a quicker way to cancel.
I would offer her a cancellation fee in this instance.
Financially ruined?
lol
We all know you weren't giving her that much
When you no show she went on to the next guy
Funny how other providers all jump in saying "give her a cancel fee" lol
If the pro had of posted she had issues I can guarantee you no provider would say give away money since you ruined the guys nights
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We all know you weren't giving her that much
When you no show she went on to the next guy
Funny how other providers all jump in saying "give her a cancel fee" lol
If the pro had of posted she had issues I can guarantee you no provider would say give away money since you ruined the guys nights
I had a guy cancel on me (on very short notice) twice in a row. Both appts. were long dinner date bookings and when he cancelled on me, my evening was a waste. On the third attempt, I had to cancel on him because I was not feeling well and he asked for a discount. I was reluctant given the situation but I did not argue at all and offered to take $200 off of the next date. He agreed and then proceeded to no-show me.
He then tried to book me again still expecting the discount and I declined the appointment. He wasted three of my nights yet I was still supposed to compensate him?
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Mikehorn
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I never expect that. And I try to avoid cancelling at all costs for that very reason (plus I worry about being "black listed"). Unless I think I have something contagious, wouldn't want to make anyone else sick.
I have had to cancel once due to bad weather and I have been late to one appointment due to bad weather in all the time I hobby (last 19 years), in both cases I was sincerely apologetic and tried to make it up to both the SP's.
The time I was late I called her about 2 hours prior to my appointment and told her that the roads are bad and it could take a long time to get to the appointment which she said is fine, when I was late I paid for a full hour as per our appointment scheduled and I only stayed for about 25 minutes as she had another appointment coming, now this specific day the roads were so bad that a 40 minute drive took me 2 hours and 15 minutes so I don't know how her next appointment was able to make it on time, but I got the feeling that the SP just said that her appointment was waiting so that she didn't have to provide services for a full hour. And I have never seen her again although she texted me on a few occasions that she had appointments available.
The time I cancelled my appointment it was with a french touring girl and I cancelled my appointment the night before as there was a snow storm coming the following day (which turned out to be as not as bad as expected but I didn't want to take the chance of being late or cancelling last minute) although I gave her enough notice the next time I tried booking an appointment with her when she was in town she mentioned the cancellation about the last appointment which is fine but I assured her that it was a one time thing and due to the weather. I ended up seeing her and it was for an hour and right on the hour mark she told me my time was up and I didn't get to finish my 2nd SOG.
After the appointment was done she told me that I should pay her an extra amount for the last appointment that I had cancelled and for even seeing me again, I advised her that it was due to the weather and that I had provided her enough notice (as it was cancelled the night before) that she could have booked someone else which more than likely she did. Anyways she gave me some attitude and I have never booked an appointment with her again nor do I want to. Both of these girl's have great reviews on TERB and are some of the well known independent SP's.
SP's are constantly running late for appointments and being late is an issue with the majority of SP's. I can honestly say with indy or agency girls an SP's appointment starting within 10 minutes of the appointment is very normal.
I have had numerous independent SP's cancel on me last minute and usually majority don't even provide an explanation about why, and the majority don't even make up for it on the next date they pretend like they have short term memory loss or they don't know what happened with the last appointment.
If an SP can make a note on her phone that a client cancelled an appointment on her she can surely make a note that a client's appointment was cancelled by herself so she can make up for it next time. So yes it is one sided in the favor of SP's.
When i make an appointment with an SP I have to make sure someone is working and handling my business and what needs to be done and I take time out of my busy work schedule to see an SP so until the majority of the SP's start respecting clients time I do not see myself ever paying a cancellation fee.
Now there are some SP's who make up for cancelled appointments to their clients but there is very few of them the majority of girls just don't, but Misscroft I am glad that you value your clients time that you make up for cancelled appointments.
Doggystyle's right, it's a two-way street. If the only recourse for a client is to pay a cancellation fee should he have to cancel, then why wouldn't a similar recourse be expected when an SP cancels?
Regardless, I'm of the opinion that if the reason for cancellation is out of the client or SP's hand, then all that's truly owed is an explanation. Thankfully I've only ever had to cancel once (with over 24 hours notice) and I've never been cancelled on, so my opinion may not be the most educated here. But still, it seems to me that expecting recourse in these instances from either party, where no one is at fault, is is an example of inflated ego.
That's not to say some small gesture of apology wouldn't be appreciated, and would be a good idea in the event you plan on maintaining a relationship.
Things would be quite different if circumstance suggests the cancellation was voluntary. Then some kind of compensation is definitely in order, especially if it's last minute.
Geez, must be nice--I've been cancelled on by more than one SP (sometimes as I'm walking out the door) and no one has ever offered to "make up for it". I guess that's why it would never occur to me to offer any compensation to a lady if I ever had to cancel.
Out of the last 20 or so appointments I have booked, probably at least 10 have cancelled. Short notice (a few hours before) usually. No apology in most cases.
I understand why it would upset you. For me it's an inconvenience when an appointment gets cancelled. I have to find a Plan B, or just stay home and save my money. For you, it's financial and must hurt, especially when it happens frequently. I don't understand how guys do that so easily--personally, I would walk through fire to get to my appointments. In hundreds of visits to SP's I've never had to cancel yet.
I had a guy cancel on me (on very short notice) twice in a row. Both appts. were long dinner date bookings and when he cancelled on me, my evening was a waste. On the third attempt, I had to cancel on him because I was not feeling well and he asked for a discount. I was reluctant given the situation but I did not argue at all and offered to take $200 off of the next date. He agreed and then proceeded to no-show me.
He then tried to book me again still expecting the discount and I declined the appointment. He wasted three of my nights yet I was still supposed to compensate him?
LOL
All I'm saying is that it happens over and over again. If I cancel, I am obligated to 'make up' for it. Fine. But I get screwed around all the time with no compensation.
Your right Chloe. I've heard this so often, from my close regulars. Gentlemen these women are human, not commodities !!!!
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