Can’t do it with my wife ….

[honeybear69]

It's 6am Monday morning brother.

That explains so much.....this is my last beer.....LOL
HB69....was here!?!?!

 

[Jabba]

This thread has been a very entertaining read. From people pre-judging, to back and forth angry posts, language changes.....(I had to use Google translate). Each of us does what we do for our own reasons. If people want to pre-judge me.....meh.....Go ahead.....your opinion. But remember for the most part nobody really knows each other outside of here. Might be your neighbour, your boss, co-worker, guy who just made your espresso at Star Bucks, or the guy who just cut you off on the Queensway, in the end we are people. Just like the ladies who either as MA/SP/ or Hybrid, have their reasons for doing what they do.....you can go ahead and do the same....pre-judge them. In the end we are all doing the same thing. BUT!!! Always a BUT! You CAN'T call out others for doing what you are doing for their own reasons....and then hold yourself up on a pedestal and say you are better. You are the same.....and yes that is HB69.....at the base of your pedestal with a sledge hammer about to swing again!! "MIC DROP!!". I hope this all makes sense I have been drinking......don't judge me....holiday Sunday!!
HB69......was here!?!?!

I agree with you. IMO the poster is entitled to share his opinion, but I was left asking myself why he is a member when the majority of hobbyists and providers here are at odds with his code of ethics.

 

[Candymancan]

My wife said that she doesn't enjoy sex. She got mad at me for wanting it once a week when younger, then once a month, so I gave up asking. She stopped when she was in her late 50's. So my question is, is this cheating if I'm having sex with a SW as my wife won't have sex me? I waited many years and now she thinks I go out to a RMT on a regular basis. Is this cheating?

 

[Joyrection]

My wife said that she doesn't enjoy sex. She got mad at me for wanting it once a week when younger, then once a month, so I gave up asking. She stopped when she was in her late 50's. So my question is, is this cheating if I'm having sex with a SW as my wife won't have sex me? I waited many years and now she thinks I go out to a RMT on a regular basis. Is this cheating?

Depends who you ask. It is between you and your wife, she made an arbitrary decision that affected you both, the opinions of others does not matter. Whether you go to an physiotherapist, psychiatrist, psychologist, RMT, MA or a SP it is all therapy for body and mind in my book, you have to take care of you.

 

[massman]

My wife said that she doesn't enjoy sex. She got mad at me for wanting it once a week when younger, then once a month, so I gave up asking. She stopped when she was in her late 50's. So my question is, is this cheating if I'm having sex with a SW as my wife won't have sex me? I waited many years and now she thinks I go out to a RMT on a regular basis. Is this cheating?

Of course it is cheating (unless she is aware and is ok with it). On the other hand tho, I think that in an intimate relationship such as a marriage that monogamy comes with a reasonable expectation that both partners be willing to try to meet each other’s emotional and physical needs. It’s actually in most typical wedding vows.

 

[Alison_xox]

Well that thread surely have very interesting posts.
I can vouch for the gentlemen that are saying that even if they partake into this world of providers , they are deeply and truly IN LOVE with their wives. They talk about their wives with affection and respect.

I think it might exist a psychological barrier that separates the sex and the emotions.
Sex is physical and a basic human need & love is something completely different.

I get that .. As a provider I also have a psychological barrier that permits me to separate my provider’s life from my real personal life. So it’s like we both provider & client are in one side of that barrier and once we get back to our life , we jump to the other side of this Barrier.

I guess we become the naughty us and explore fantasies together. That’s kinda kinky …

 

[Joyrection]

We all wish our SO were a unicorn spouse who satisfied all of our needs and joined us in our adventures whatever and wherever.

 

[marshman]

This discussion reminds of a joke that may be relevant for some folks:

A guy visits his Dr and says:
“I have a sexual problem. I can't get it up for my wife anymore.

"Mr. Thomas, bring her back with you tomorrow and let me see what I can do

."The next day, the worried fellow returned with his wife. "Take off your clothes, Mrs. Thomas," the medic said. "Now turn all the way around. Lie down please. Uh-huh, I see. Okay, you may put your clothes back on.

"The doctor took the husband aside. "You're in perfect health," he said. "Your wife didn't give me an erection either."

 

[curiousm7]

I don't have a wife, but my most 3 significant long time relationships ended all because of no more CIM, SW, no Greek or lack of excitement. Things turned to boring missionary and zero sensuality. Only fun was with Doggy, which is a must!

Lots of fun stuff before the ring then, bam, vanilla and boring.

 

[thedude35]

My wife said that she doesn't enjoy sex. She got mad at me for wanting it once a week when younger, then once a month, so I gave up asking. She stopped when she was in her late 50's. So my question is, is this cheating if I'm having sex with a SW as my wife won't have sex me? I waited many years and now she thinks I go out to a RMT on a regular basis. Is this cheating?

I'm probably in the minority here, but I would say it is NOT cheating. She is withholding a highly important part of a relationship from you, and you have zero say in that matter. So she has zero say in how you go about getting this missing piece.

To be fair, there are many men that also do this to their wives/partners. Believe me, I've seen it. The desire for them is gone for whatever reason, so they stop being intimate. It's not just a male thing, but it's likely more predominate.

The thing most people don't get is that it's not always about the sex. It's the intimacy, the touch, the feeling of being wanted/needed/desired in a way that we respond to. That's usually sexually, like it or not. It's a hug or a kiss, some laughter and ass-slapping. Even when we go into these things knowing it's about the $$$, it still gives us a sense of being needed. It's rather sad when you stop and think about it. But there it is.

When our partners decide to stop with their side of contributing to intimacy, sexual or otherwise, what is the other person supposed to do?

Furthermore, sex is NOT hard (in most cases). If you're physically able, it should be happening. The worst that will happen is that you make your partner happy. Sounds awful! And if they're as giving as you are, they'll make it up in ways that benefit you. Duh. Happy wife (husband), happy life. The amount of people, not just women, who decide they are no longer doing this or that blows my mind and it's selfish. We all have needs - both people. Cater to them, and you SHOULD get back what you give. That's literally the entire point of partnering up with somebody. It's a mutually beneficial arrangement all around. Once one side stops providing what their partner needs, all bets are off. And the reason is usually "because I don't like that anymore" or "I don't want to." Well it's not always about YOU...

rant over lol

 

[Candymancan]

Thank you for the responses. It's not penetration. No cuddling, no BJ, no HJ. She thinks that once you get to 60 you don't need anything.

 

[Joyrection]

Thank you for the responses. It's not penetration. No cuddling, no BJ, no HJ. She thinks that once you get to 60 you don't need anything.

Had a chat with a friend who is the same as me and she confessed that she no longer had sex with her husband because since she hit menopause it was too painful, plus who needs sex now that she is a grandmother. I was like WTF, I suggested that she go talk to her doctor because a healthy sexlife is important to a marriage and it probably explains why her husband drinks too much, and passes out on weekends because he knows he ain't getting laid. Also probably explains why he is not always pleasant with her due to resentment.

 

[William St]

I’m not the one who can’t sustain a normal adult relationship with a grown woman who still sees escorts on the down low but yeah please go on…..

Now, now guys. Quiet down. Life's too short to snipe at each other over issues like this.

 

[Joyrection]

Now, now guys. Quiet down. Life's too short to snipe at each other over issues like this.

But, but he started it!

 

[MikeO]

I'm probably in the minority here, but I would say it is NOT cheating. She is withholding a highly important part of a relationship from you, and you have zero say in that matter. So she has zero say in how you go about getting this missing piece.

To be fair, there are many men that also do this to their wives/partners. Believe me, I've seen it. The desire for them is gone for whatever reason, so they stop being intimate. It's not just a male thing, but it's likely more predominate.

The thing most people don't get is that it's not always about the sex. It's the intimacy, the touch, the feeling of being wanted/needed/desired in a way that we respond to. That's usually sexually, like it or not. It's a hug or a kiss, some laughter and ass-slapping. Even when we go into these things knowing it's about the $$$, it still gives us a sense of being needed. It's rather sad when you stop and think about it. But there it is.

When our partners decide to stop with their side of contributing to intimacy, sexual or otherwise, what is the other person supposed to do?

Furthermore, sex is NOT hard (in most cases). If you're physically able, it should be happening. The worst that will happen is that you make your partner happy. Sounds awful! And if they're as giving as you are, they'll make it up in ways that benefit you. Duh. Happy wife (husband), happy life. The amount of people, not just women, who decide they are no longer doing this or that blows my mind and it's selfish. We all have needs - both people. Cater to them, and you SHOULD get back what you give. That's literally the entire point of partnering up with somebody. It's a mutually beneficial arrangement all around. Once one side stops providing what their partner needs, all bets are off. And the reason is usually "because I don't like that anymore" or "I don't want to." Well it's not always about YOU...

rant over lol

Very well presented and accurate. My ex-wife decided she preferred to sleep alone... so she could watch TV in bed, Facebook with friends, and forego any pleasure we could have given each other. We separated before I started hobbying, but the game has been upped after that. Signed... Harrison Butker!

 

[smartdick]

You just can not have home made food everyday.... you have to find a delicious cuisine once in a month at least !

 

[DaveMikos]

Had a chat with a friend who is the same as me and she confessed that she no longer had sex with her husband because since she hit menopause it was too painful, plus who needs sex now that she is a grandmother. I was like WTF, I suggested that she go talk to her doctor because a healthy sexlife is important to a marriage and it probably explains why her husband drinks too much, and passes out on weekends because he knows he ain't getting laid. Also probably explains why he is not always pleasant with her due to resentment.

I'm pretty much headed in that direction and I'm 32! My wife same age. I'm basically here to scout the scene ahead of the inevitable separation.

 

[thedude35]

I'm pretty much headed in that direction and I'm 32! My wife same age. I'm basically here to scout the scene ahead of the inevitable separation.

I divorced around that age. Ex wife did the same thing, no more intimacy. I gave her everything she asked for over the years, stayed in shape, the whole nine. Turned out she was cheating. Together since we were 17, and she was bored of the same old - same old. Meanwhile our sex life while together was very vanilla - because that's what she wanted. Very little experimentation, same two positions, blowjobs hurt her jaw so those stopped entirely, cum was "icky" (didn't even want it on her hand). Crazy thing is she wanted this daily, sometimes more than once. Until it didn't.

 

[strip club guy]

I'm pretty much headed in that direction and I'm 32! My wife same age. I'm basically here to scout the scene ahead of the inevitable separation.

Lol ur 32 and ur surfing for escorts lmao

 

[strip club guy]

I divorced around that age. Ex wife did the same thing, no more intimacy. I gave her everything she asked for over the years, stayed in shape, the whole nine. Turned out she was cheating. Together since we were 17, and she was bored of the same old - same old. Meanwhile our sex life while together was very vanilla - because that's what she wanted. Very little experimentation, same two positions, blowjobs hurt her jaw so those stopped entirely, cum was "icky" (didn't even want it on her hand). Crazy thing is she wanted this daily, sometimes more than once. Until it didn't.

Why would she cheat if she doesn't want sex with you lol maybe ur a chump but then this site is full of them