Ask us anything

[VivAuclair]

On the whole, loosely speaking.
Do you think men in general understand intimacy?

And with respect to your personal ATFs you mentioned. Or any other provider that is reading. Was there a noticeable difference between which side of the spectrum they fell on.

This is such an interesting question. In my experience, the men I’ve dated in my civvie life understood intimacy and it wasn’t just narrowed down to sex.
As for clients, (during my agency days) I believe all of them thought intimacy is just sex, and quite possibly didn’t understand what it really meant.
Although, the dynamic with my clients definitely changed when I became Indy. Most of my regulars tend to book longer dates and we spend most of the time just talking, laughing, caressing, etc... So to answer your question, it really just depends on the man’s personality/ what stage they are in their lives/ what your exact definition of intimacy is.

As for which side of the spectrum they fell on, again it’s hard to make sweeping generalizations of this kind and really depends on the individual.

 

[Not getting younger]

Can you expand on your response?
Intimacy could be the moments you share on a bed lying and talking about everything. It could be those inside jokes you have. The laughs you share. It is not just sex, it’s everything that makes you feel connected to the person.

The ability to be completely open. Laugh, cry, bare your soul. Know each other intimately

 

[LC18]

The ability to be completely open. Laugh, cry, bare your soul. Know each other intimately

You get it

 

[kherg007]

True. Sometimes it's easier to talk to a pro secret keeper..

 

[superman12]

Really fascinating responses here regarding intimacy from an sp point of view. Continuing on with that- on a first date with a client do you prefer that he is vulnerable with you and opens up about things that he may not share with anyone else? For example, do you look at your client in a different light and are more attracted to him when he opens up about some of the challenges he may be facing in his personal life or with an SO or is that all too much for a first date and ends up being a mood killer?

 

[JohnnyWishbone]

How many clients do you see in an average month? How many are regulars?

 

[LC18]

How many clients do you see in an average month? How many are regulars?

How many clients do you see in an average month? How many are regulars?
20/month which is perfect for me because I have other engagements. People tend to book longer dates with me so I don’t need to see many. 40% are regulars but it doesn’t mean they come back every week, it could be a business man who has to travel to Montreal for work and will book me every time he’s in the city.

 

[great8]

STD's
How do you protect yourself against catching anything?
Do you worry about STD's?
Do you get checked? If you do, regularly?
Have you ever refused service to someone because you had a suspicion he(she?) had an STD?
Do you have any kind of screening for a client before having sex in terms of STD's?

The standard in this industry, at least in Canada is BBBJ (I've traveled extensively in Latin America where the standard is CBJ). This is risky (IMO) & basically only prevents against catching AIDS.
I usually - but not always - play things safe & go for covered BJ.
Some STD's - like Syphilis & Genital Warts - can't even be prevented when using a condom.

Years ago I had a condom break while having sex with a paid lady - it didn't scare me too much, but it made me worry & I decided to get tested. The lady said she was clean & I needn't worry - but I can't trust words & just made it a point to not have sex for about a month & then get tested. Also what made her so confident I was clean(I was & I knew it 100%).


Forgive if it's already asked here, I tried looking but couldn't find it.
Many thanks for any answers & opinions.
I know it's an awkward question but I'm dying to ask since I saw this thread.
🥲

 

[Adam_hadam]

How long sans bj should I go before I start separation/divorce proceedings?

 

[LC18]

@Not getting younger

I have specifically stated in the very first post of this thread that we do not want to be asked those kind of questions. No one wants to relive their trauma. Kindly refrain from asking any similar questions in the future.

Please no questions about abuse or worst experience.

 

[Not getting younger]

@Not getting younger

I have specifically stated in the very first post of this thread that we do not want to be asked those kind of questions. No one wants to relive their trauma. Kindly refrain from asking any similar questions in the future.

Missed that. I’ll edit

 

[eazy]

What is your preference, circumcised or uncircumcised penises?

 

[LC18]

What is your preference, circumcised or uncircumcised penises?

What is your preference, circumcised or uncircumcised penises?

It doesn’t matter, as long as it’s clean and healthy.

 

[eazy]

Have you ever had anyone that you known from your past come through as a client?

 

[y2kmark]

Who lives in a pineapple under the sea???

 

[aventurier]

I will try to get other swer to join this thread. Please ask us all the questions related to this job you’ve always wanted. I and the swer that want to join will try to answer as honestly as possible.

Please no questions about abuse or worst experience.

How serious are compliments an SP gives you on say your looks/appearance (for example - oh you're handsome etc...)? or vocalizes how much you feel good during the act etc...

I have always taken them with a grain of salt, not because I don't believe them....I do like myself too lol but simply because I always remember that this is a hobby...and avoid giving myself the wrong ideas...

 

[LC18]

How serious are compliments an SP gives you on say your looks/appearance (for example - oh you're handsome etc...)? or vocalizes how much you feel good during the act etc...

I have always taken them with a grain of salt, not because I don't believe them....I do like myself too lol but simply because I always remember that this is a hobby...and avoid giving myself the wrong ideas...

How serious are compliments an SP gives you on say your looks/appearance (for example - oh you're handsome etc...)? or vocalizes how much you feel good during the act etc...

I only give meaningful compliments whether it’s on your looks, the way you smell or your humour. If I don’t mean it, I won’t say it.

I compliment most of my clients and they always seem surprised.

 

[petite lover]

How serious are compliments an SP gives you on say your looks/appearance (for example - oh you're handsome etc...)? or vocalizes how much you feel good during the act etc...

I have always taken them with a grain of salt, not because I don't believe them....I do like myself too lol but simply because I always remember that this is a hobby...and avoid giving myself the wrong ideas...

Personally, when I give a compliment, I am genuine. The reason being, I am on a date with you because the way you contacted me showed me that we would enjoy each other company. While enjoying your company and sharing things with you, I will vocalize everything I find great you. It could be about your life, your looks, or how great you are in bed.

Same happens when I am enjoying a nice conversation with a fan on my onlyfans and we exchange photos etc.

To me, it is really hard to not give compliments when it is due. Even in my personal life.

 

[aventurier]

Personally, when I give a compliment, I am genuine. The reason being, I am on a date with you because the way you contacted me showed me that we would enjoy each other company. While enjoying your company and sharing things with you, I will vocalize everything I find great you. It could be about your life, your looks, or how great you are in bed.

Same happens when I am enjoying a nice conversation with a fan on my onlyfans and we exchange photos etc.

To me, it is really hard to not give compliments when it is due. Even in my personal life.

Thanks for providing your perspective…I always appreciate the compliments but there’s a side of me that’s also skeptical about its genuineness or maybe view it as an “act” in the context of the “nature” of the meeting.

At the end of the day, regardless of whether it is in real life, or in this industry, compliments/appreciation are always well received and we are all humans experiencing the same things, and that is what you have to ultimately remember. That’s the reason why, to me, mutual respect is very important, being aware and never crossing each other’s boundaries is also equally important

 

[DaMan1975]

Have you ever had a Lady only encounter and if so how does dies it differ from a man