Advice from married guys

[1ns3rt]

Ah got you, that's sweet. Even though offensive but that's the reality of life I suppose. This should be on a Hallmark card

Life is definitely not black and white. Humans are inherently flawed and tv, books and movies has us holding ourselves to puritanical standards that aren't realistic for this day and age. Our parents raised us for a world that doesn't exist anymore.

 

[Tinmachine]

Would you guys say your wife is still an emotionally supportive person in your life, like a friend? Even a best friend?

Yes. In a way my wife is more like a sister or close friend now. No physical attachment whatever. We sleep in seperate rooms

 

[kinkystinky]

Yes. In a way my wife is more like a sister or close friend now. No physical attachment whatever. We sleep in seperate rooms

That's good. You guys are not at all miserable in your lives. All I really want is a close friend, sex is not all that important for me, esp after seeing all these sps, the allure of women is gone, I see them for who they are and if they are going to treat me like a good friend.

 

[Random dude]

Would you guys say your wife is still an emotionally supportive person in your life, like a friend? Even a best friend?

100%. We have a great relationship, except that sex has evaporated in the last couple of years. She acknowledges it, and says she wants to do it more, but there are no actions that follow those words. When we were dating, it was every other day or so. Then we moved in and things slowed down almost right away to a couple times a week. That lasted for quite awhile until marriage, then kids, then it was weekly MAYBE for a few years. The last couple of years, it's hardly once a month, and there's little to no enthusiasm about it at all. It's sad, because we do have a great relationship otherwise!

 

[Tinmachine]

100%. We have a great relationship, except that sex has evaporated in the last couple of years. She acknowledges it, and says she wants to do it more, but there are no actions that follow those words. When we were dating, it was every other day or so. Then we moved in and things slowed down almost right away to a couple times a week. That lasted for quite awhile until marriage, then kids, then it was weekly MAYBE for a few years. The last couple of years, it's hardly once a month, and there's little to no enthusiasm about it at all. It's sad, because we do have a great relationship otherwise!

Me and my SO havnt had sex in 6 years. We sleep in seperate rooms now. Like u though i know exactly the trajectory. First dating it was sex all the time (for the first year). Then we moved in together and got married and became few x a month. Then once a month. Then kids came along. Then once a month became a lofty goal. Then a few x a year. (After 15 years or so) . She has zero interest. Everytimr I bring it up it's my fault . So I just gave up trying. (And no it's not my fault)

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Me and my SO havnt had sex in 6 years. We sleep in seperate rooms now. Like u though i know exactly the trajectory. First dating it was sex all the time (for the first year). Then we moved in together and got married and became few x a month. Then once a month. Then kids came along. Then once a month became a lofty goal. Then a few x a year. (After 15 years or so) . She has zero interest. Everytimr I bring it up it's my fault . So I just gave up trying. (And no it's not my fault)

You should start calling her Oz.

 

[xix]

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[Callmerey]

I’d say, women wants it as much as men, the only problem that occurs is the responsibilities on a married woman along with children. If a women is freed from everything, she’ll be your gf forever or else it will turn into a sexless marriage

 

[Orangebook]

Thanks for all the tips. Really insightful.

 

[jalimon]

Its the mmmm curse.

At first you have sex morning and midnight. Then it switches to Monday… Then March if lucky May as well. And then its My best Memory!

 

[kinkystinky]

To sum up the lesson I learned for the young guys and horny guys.

Find a woman that's gonna be your friend, don't fall for just sex and do things in pursuit of sex. Aim for friendship, mutual respect, and partnership/trust.

 

[xix]

I’d say, women wants it as much as men, the only problem that occurs is the responsibilities on a married woman along with children. If a women is freed from everything, she’ll be your gf forever or else it will turn into a sexless marriage

This idea is one of many ideas or characters. The mission is to figure out which one she / he is.
I know women who are married and get laid every other week because the kids are with the father some where else or during the day
Or another women divorce every other week.
Other women no sex with husband, or nor does she have side boy.

You get the idea. Some people don't want or like sex.

 

[Callmerey]

This idea is one of many ideas or characters. The mission is to figure out which one she / he is.
I know women who are married and get laid every other week because the kids are with the father some where else or during the day
Or another women divorce every other week.
Other women no sex with husband, or nor does she have side boy.

You get the idea. Some people don't want or like sex.

Absolutely! Every person is different

 

[Param2000]

I started as a very faithful husdand. She was the only woman I had ever been with till I was 32. But slowly she started making me feel guilty for having a higher sex drive. I started thinking of sex as a bfd and feel jeoulous of people who seemed to be having more sex, even in homemade porn.

That is when the SPs helped.

I remember the liberating feeling driving back from my first time with an SP. I paid her double as it meant so much to me. She saved my marriage.

Marriage is not about sex. I now beleive it's okay to be in a sexless marriage than to be alone. If I were to do it all over again, maybe I'd choose a more "sexually compatible" partner. But nothing stays forever.

Now my wife thinks I have lost my libido to age. She sometimes doesn't get her share of "once a month" but is okay with it. I just smile and say "Sorry I have a headache!" and we burst into laughter.

 

[Tinmachine]

I started as a very faithful husdand. She was the only woman I had ever been with till I was 32. But slowly she started making me feel guilty for having a higher sex drive. I started thinking of sex as a bfd and feel jeoulous of people who seemed to be having more sex, even in homemade porn.

That is when the SPs helped.

I remember the liberating feeling driving back from my first time with an SP. I paid her double as it meant so much to me. She saved my marriage.

Marriage is not about sex. I now beleive it's okay to be in a sexless marriage than to be alone. If I were to do it all over again, maybe I'd choose a more "sexually compatible" partner. But nothing stays forever.

Now my wife thinks I have lost my libido to age. She sometimes doesn't get her share of "once a month" but is okay with it. I just smile and say "Sorry I have a headache!" and we burst into laughter.

Marriage is a union, nothing more. If sex is part of it, and is important to both partners, great. But in the end it's a unit, that's binds ppl together financially and emotionally. If it works, even without sex, it works

 

[Soccersweeper]

Here to second the general wisdom that a marriage can be otherwise fine but still have little to no sex, so escorts are a better solution than an affair. Yes the affair will be more intense physically and emotionally. Best sex I've ever had was in affairs, but there's also the risk they go nutty and go somewhere between threatening/extortingyour hard earned life to boiling bunnies Fatal Attraction style. Glad I had those experiences but wouldn't even consider it now after seeing all the other wonderful, more discrete and professional options available, especially in Toronto. The last few years I've come to regularly see a number of reliable women, whether dancers at strip clubs or escorts in their hotel rooms. Is it as good as what I wanted from my marriage? No, but it's one hell of a next best alternative that gives me memories I will cherish in old age.

 

[Orangebook]

Here to second the general wisdom that a marriage can be otherwise fine but still have little to no sex, so escorts are a better solution than an affair. Yes the affair will be more intense physically and emotionally. Best sex I've ever had was in affairs, but there's also the risk they go nutty and go somewhere between threatening/extortingyour hard earned life to boiling bunnies Fatal Attraction style. Glad I had those experiences but wouldn't even consider it now after seeing all the other wonderful, more discrete and professional options available, especially in Toronto. The last few years I've come to regularly see a number of reliable women, whether dancers at strip clubs or escorts in their hotel rooms. Is it as good as what I wanted from my marriage? No, but it's one hell of a next best alternative that gives me memories I will cherish in old age.

How often would you see SPs to keep it discrete enough?

 

[xix]

How often would you see SPs to keep it discrete enough?

How much money do you have and how horny are you?
- can you hide the money from the partner?

I would see different SP's the most I would see the same SP's is 3 times but everyone is different.

 

[LaVerga]

I have really enjoyed this thread. As mentioned, it helps one not feel so ashamed or guilty in this life. I'm flawed to the core, have a beautiful family great marriage, and still have sex with my wife, but I’ve been a horny mofo since a young age. I'm in my fifties, but I have always eaten clean and been very active, so I look much younger (great genes also help tremendously).
I get attention from the opposite sex. Impressed to say I have never had an affair, but I have had many opportunities. Weirdly, this is where I draw the line. I have heard too many horror stories. I never want to ruin the relationship with my wife and family. This hobby is much safer, cleaner, and more respectful—the lesser of the poisons. Nobody gets hurt, but I understand it is still wrong. The ladies I visit always have a great time, and I leave feeling like a million bucks. Not sure how else to control this high sex drive while keeping other aspects of life in check (marriage, children, job, relationships, etc).

 

[jigga]

I'm a horny dude and I was just about to get into hobbying when I met my now wife... We had lots of sex while dating, but it became a sexless marriage soon after the nuptials... It took me 8 years to fuck another (married) women and 1 more year after that to see an escort. Both were amazing experiences and the experiences after were not bad either.... Stay in your marriage ONLY if you want to have children with that woman.

Are you still married to her?