Terbites,
This should go without saying, but apparently there is a need to state here what I feel is normal and obvious, but clearly is not to many others in today's world.
When a bank, grocery store or any other business states their hours of operation on their doors, do you think that 9 am - 5 pm means that they allow people in before 9 am or past 5 pm? I would hope that your answer would unequivocally be no and most assuredly in the case of banks as we all know their 9 am or 5 pm is not our 9 am or 5 pm. So why do you think that "I start answering my personal cell at 8 am, begin seeing clients at 10 am & stop answering my cell at 9 pm, the end of my work day, Monday to Friday" means that I see my last client starting at 9 pm or start answering my cell before 8 am or on weekends, etc.?
Do you go into a bar/lounge that has a dress code/age limit and argue with them as to why that is? You may not like it, but unless you're going to take on that big bouncer, and chances are if you're sober you won't, you accept that and go somewhere else. Why then do I get so many young men private messaging, emailing and texting me, etc. as to why I prefer men a certain age or older? I have my reasons and should not have to explain them to anyone! Please accept that and move on.
Do you ask your server, who is super friendly and professional like myself, what their real name is, just in case their using a made up one on their name tag, how long they have been a waitress/bartendress, if they are in a relationship or not, where they live, if they rent or own, how much their rent or mortgage is, etc. upon first meeting them and after sitting in their section or at their bar for only five minutes? Okay, some might, especially if into their cups and she is really cute, again like me, but I am sure most would not. I get the need to feel like you know me on some level, but why ask me these very personal and really inappropriate questions without even assessing whether we are compatible in other more basic ways first or if you even plan on seeing me again? This is equivalent to a dancer asking if you want a dance before you have even sat down and gotten a drink. I know better than to pry into client's private lives unless invited to do so and would ask for the same understanding!
Do you go into a restaurant and ask the server if you can substitute cauliflower for broccoli, which is not even listed anywhere on the menu, not because of an allergy, but simply because you prefer cauliflower, when the menu clearly states no substitutions unless due to an allergy. If we are going to be honest here, some people would lie and say they have an allergy just to try and get what they want, but most people could live without their preference that one time or would simply go to a restaurant that does serve cauliflower. How then does "if I do not list it, please do not request it, as I do not partake of/in it" translate into any multitude of requests for things not listed on the "Services" page of my website or even things that I flat out say I do not do? Trust me when I say that buttering me up first with compliments about how hot I look in my pictures and how great my reviews are is not going to get you carte blanche menu wise! It may get you other things, but not that.
When you see any other professional whose services you really need/enjoy with a limited amount of time to devote to you, do you then proceed to try to chat them up for fifteen minutes after the end of your session/meeting in an attempt to prolong the time you have with them? My guess would be yes, but that when they say sorry your time is up as I have other people waiting or I really have to go somewhere/do something you respect that and leave. Why then do you not listen when I say the same thing? I deserve the same respect that they do and this goes for cancellations as well! Just because I cannot/do not charge for cancellations like some doctors/dentists do, does not mean that I do not deserve the same consideration when cancelling.
I know that what is common sense to me may not be so to others and that most problems arise from peoples sheer laziness/inability to properly read ads, etc., but common courtesy is a must in any relationship, especially one so intimate! How one approaches a situation can mean the difference between getting what they really want and not and this industry is no exception to that rule. Unfortunately many seem to have forgotten this.
I have tried to use everyday examples to put some men's behaviour into perspective for them, so that they can see how absurd their actions come across to myself and I think all of us Ladies, using some tongue in cheek of course to lighten the message. I hope that they can approach it with an open mind and take it as it is intended, which is not a rant, but an attempt to educate!
After all that, THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART to those of you who Truly are GENTLEMEN and who RESPECT my Boundaries and Comfort Level and APPRECIATE what it is that I try to do for you!
Sincerely,
Miss Sinful Sophia
This should go without saying, but apparently there is a need to state here what I feel is normal and obvious, but clearly is not to many others in today's world.
When a bank, grocery store or any other business states their hours of operation on their doors, do you think that 9 am - 5 pm means that they allow people in before 9 am or past 5 pm? I would hope that your answer would unequivocally be no and most assuredly in the case of banks as we all know their 9 am or 5 pm is not our 9 am or 5 pm. So why do you think that "I start answering my personal cell at 8 am, begin seeing clients at 10 am & stop answering my cell at 9 pm, the end of my work day, Monday to Friday" means that I see my last client starting at 9 pm or start answering my cell before 8 am or on weekends, etc.?
Do you go into a bar/lounge that has a dress code/age limit and argue with them as to why that is? You may not like it, but unless you're going to take on that big bouncer, and chances are if you're sober you won't, you accept that and go somewhere else. Why then do I get so many young men private messaging, emailing and texting me, etc. as to why I prefer men a certain age or older? I have my reasons and should not have to explain them to anyone! Please accept that and move on.
Do you ask your server, who is super friendly and professional like myself, what their real name is, just in case their using a made up one on their name tag, how long they have been a waitress/bartendress, if they are in a relationship or not, where they live, if they rent or own, how much their rent or mortgage is, etc. upon first meeting them and after sitting in their section or at their bar for only five minutes? Okay, some might, especially if into their cups and she is really cute, again like me, but I am sure most would not. I get the need to feel like you know me on some level, but why ask me these very personal and really inappropriate questions without even assessing whether we are compatible in other more basic ways first or if you even plan on seeing me again? This is equivalent to a dancer asking if you want a dance before you have even sat down and gotten a drink. I know better than to pry into client's private lives unless invited to do so and would ask for the same understanding!
Do you go into a restaurant and ask the server if you can substitute cauliflower for broccoli, which is not even listed anywhere on the menu, not because of an allergy, but simply because you prefer cauliflower, when the menu clearly states no substitutions unless due to an allergy. If we are going to be honest here, some people would lie and say they have an allergy just to try and get what they want, but most people could live without their preference that one time or would simply go to a restaurant that does serve cauliflower. How then does "if I do not list it, please do not request it, as I do not partake of/in it" translate into any multitude of requests for things not listed on the "Services" page of my website or even things that I flat out say I do not do? Trust me when I say that buttering me up first with compliments about how hot I look in my pictures and how great my reviews are is not going to get you carte blanche menu wise! It may get you other things, but not that.
When you see any other professional whose services you really need/enjoy with a limited amount of time to devote to you, do you then proceed to try to chat them up for fifteen minutes after the end of your session/meeting in an attempt to prolong the time you have with them? My guess would be yes, but that when they say sorry your time is up as I have other people waiting or I really have to go somewhere/do something you respect that and leave. Why then do you not listen when I say the same thing? I deserve the same respect that they do and this goes for cancellations as well! Just because I cannot/do not charge for cancellations like some doctors/dentists do, does not mean that I do not deserve the same consideration when cancelling.
I know that what is common sense to me may not be so to others and that most problems arise from peoples sheer laziness/inability to properly read ads, etc., but common courtesy is a must in any relationship, especially one so intimate! How one approaches a situation can mean the difference between getting what they really want and not and this industry is no exception to that rule. Unfortunately many seem to have forgotten this.
I have tried to use everyday examples to put some men's behaviour into perspective for them, so that they can see how absurd their actions come across to myself and I think all of us Ladies, using some tongue in cheek of course to lighten the message. I hope that they can approach it with an open mind and take it as it is intended, which is not a rant, but an attempt to educate!
After all that, THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART to those of you who Truly are GENTLEMEN and who RESPECT my Boundaries and Comfort Level and APPRECIATE what it is that I try to do for you!
Sincerely,
Miss Sinful Sophia
