So it is his MO, his choice, doing it knowingly and while also knowing she has a boyfriend and you have turned this in a female hobby problem? Am I getting that right?????Milking the 'friendship' line.
I know the problem lies with the guy. We have a family member who has seldom had any girlfriend. His problem is that his strategy for getting the girl is to help her night or day to move, buy things, be at her beck and call for errands. The idea is that the target of his affection will realize that her boyfriend who isn't at her side for every whim will lose and she will pick him for the warm heart he has. Of course it never happens. And her get out of jail card 'You are an amazing friend who I know isn't trying to get me in bed' which basically to her means 'you aren't my type but I love the attention' is a sign to him the strategy is working.
I have tried to reason with him. 'XXXX you are being played. If not - hit the reset button and tell her that you are interested in more than friendship - how about a date ?' He never does. The fact that she dates other guys doesn't phase him. I wouldn't be surprised if he shaves his legs and becomes her bridesmaid so that he is there when she realizes he is the one.
The reason it is up on the girl's hobby that I find unattractive is that many of these girls know these guys want a sexual relationship but enjoy using them to assist in their chores. Maybe it's nice to have a slave - I'm not sure what the motivation is.
There is a beautiful young graduate that started in our office. She told me she doesn't have a boyfriend and she is in no rush. She told me that there is a guy at her beck and call that will do anything for her but she would never date him. I asked her why she doesn't tell him. She said she has/ he knows but it seems to make him happy.
So if you have one of these adoring little puppies - set them free. As long as they are on the hook - they will never find a real girlfriend.
I think you didn't read the ops questionYou play with dead animals....why am I not surprised?
What does this have to do with people having hobbies?Milking the 'friendship' line.
I know the problem lies with the guy. We have a family member who has seldom had any girlfriend. His problem is that his strategy for getting the girl is to help her night or day to move, buy things, be at her beck and call for errands. The idea is that the target of his affection will realize that her boyfriend who isn't at her side for every whim will lose and she will pick him for the warm heart he has. Of course it never happens. And her get out of jail card 'You are an amazing friend who I know isn't trying to get me in bed' which basically to her means 'you aren't my type but I love the attention' is a sign to him the strategy is working.
I have tried to reason with him. 'XXXX you are being played. If not - hit the reset button and tell her that you are interested in more than friendship - how about a date ?' He never does. The fact that she dates other guys doesn't phase him. I wouldn't be surprised if he shaves his legs and becomes her bridesmaid so that he is there when she realizes he is the one.
The reason it is up on the girl's hobby that I find unattractive is that many of these girls know these guys want a sexual relationship but enjoy using them to assist in their chores. Maybe it's nice to have a slave - I'm not sure what the motivation is.
There is a beautiful young graduate that started in our office. She told me she doesn't have a boyfriend and she is in no rush. She told me that there is a guy at her beck and call that will do anything for her but she would never date him. I asked her why she doesn't tell him. She said she has/ he knows but it seems to make him happy.
So if you have one of these adoring little puppies - set them free. As long as they are on the hook - they will never find a real girlfriend.
I can assure you this is not a hobby. Using people is not a hobby. Besides… if you’re only helping a friend in the hopes of getting some pussy then maybe not getting the pussy is your karma for only helping with ulterior motives?Milking the 'friendship' line.
I know the problem lies with the guy. We have a family member who has seldom had any girlfriend. His problem is that his strategy for getting the girl is to help her night or day to move, buy things, be at her beck and call for errands. The idea is that the target of his affection will realize that her boyfriend who isn't at her side for every whim will lose and she will pick him for the warm heart he has. Of course it never happens. And her get out of jail card 'You are an amazing friend who I know isn't trying to get me in bed' which basically to her means 'you aren't my type but I love the attention' is a sign to him the strategy is working.
I have tried to reason with him. 'XXXX you are being played. If not - hit the reset button and tell her that you are interested in more than friendship - how about a date ?' He never does. The fact that she dates other guys doesn't phase him. I wouldn't be surprised if he shaves his legs and becomes her bridesmaid so that he is there when she realizes he is the one.
The reason it is up on the girl's hobby that I find unattractive is that many of these girls know these guys want a sexual relationship but enjoy using them to assist in their chores. Maybe it's nice to have a slave - I'm not sure what the motivation is.
There is a beautiful young graduate that started in our office. She told me she doesn't have a boyfriend and she is in no rush. She told me that there is a guy at her beck and call that will do anything for her but she would never date him. I asked her why she doesn't tell him. She said she has/ he knows but it seems to make him happy.
So if you have one of these adoring little puppies - set them free. As long as they are on the hook - they will never find a real girlfriend.
Reminds me of a conversation I had with a buddy back in the 70's when we had both moved from Calgary to Toronto. Not together. Anyway I wasn't all that thrilled with Toronto at the time and said I wanted to go back to Calgary. He said " Toronto's ok, you just need to have money to enjoy it." I said What would you do in Toronto if you had money?" He said, "I would get the fuck out of Toronto" lol.What does this have to do with people having hobbies?
For an actual answer, i find “travelling” as a hobby to be obnoxious.
Travelling is great. It can be lots of fun. But it isn’t a “hobby” and people who talk like they can’t go 2 months without flying somewhere make me suspect they’re just unhappy and trying to run away from something.
I love changing hair colours!Decorative fake nails is definitely a hobby
Changing hair colour monthly as a hobby!
The thread is about hobbies that you find unattractive in women.You play with dead animals....why am I not surprised?