Stop being so picky

bazokajoe

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I see you chose to read in diagonal. I never said you should book someone that doesn’t turn you on, I said if you’re so picky that you can never find the “perfect SP” maybe you should consider going slightly out of your usual criteria.
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@KittyCaterina: It's my understanding that your advertised description is accurate. If that were always true, most guys would be satisfied, almost all of the time. 'Little white lies' in a description are fine, like understating weight or age by not more than 15%, some photoshop to even out skin tones, etc. Some guys want what's familiar, others want what they can't otherwise have, whether that be in appearance or services. Many aren't looking for the same type of experience in each appointment.

I'm only disappointed if the product has been falsely advertised.
Yes, I'm honest with my description and as far as I know, I haven't disappointed anyone.


My post was regarding the original subject, if someone came to visit me knowing my stats even though my stats weren't to their specific tastes.
 
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I would never want a client to see me who, for example, really really dislikes tattoos but is trying to "broaden his horizons" and I am left feeling like he is not attracted to me during our session because I can sense his body language and verbal cues.
If the client normally prefers someone without tattoo and he can’t find one, the only option that checks most of his criteria is one that a small tattoo or maybe two. He should not close the door.

There are some deal breakers, if you don’t like tattoos, don’t go and see someone who has sleeves just because.
 
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I've read the entire thread and all of the responses, and I'm still confused by it. What exactly shouldn't we be picky about?? And how is going out of my comfort zone would help me have a better experience? If this thread was about managing expectations, then sure, I 100% agree. We usually expect too much and get disappointed in the process. SPs are just girls who're trying to make a living. I treat everyone with courtesy and respect, and my miles are usually very good. As far as being "picky" - we pay, so we get to be picky. Btw, assuming that a 45-50 year old man can't pickup a hot 30 year old is nonsense.
 

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Obviously, if you are looking to book an escort, you should be able to pick the woman of your dreams (or close to). It is all part of the fantasy after all, calling a girl that you’d probably be too shy to approach in a bar. Meeting up with a woman half your age. Getting a pretty girl on her knees.

However, I fear some of you are unnecessarily picky. Let me explain myself and you can agree or judge respectfully after.

Yes the looks are important when choosing a companion but there’s more to it. There are many providers that don’t exactly look like Adriana Lima in her prime time but that would give you the experience of a lifetime. An addictive personality, a magnetic charm and just amazing bedroom skills.

By closing your mind to seeing white women only, Asian women only or black women only, you are potentially preventing yourself from getting a great experience.

Same for the folks saying they don’t want to meet anyone who isn’t
. I have a lot of things to say about that but for the sake of this thread I’ll just say that booking someone who is able to rent a car (25 and older) isn’t going to hurt you especially if you are above 45, what difference does it make? A 30 year old woman is still already 15 years younger than you. Would a woman 15 years younger respond to your flirts if you approached her in a bar?

Start progressively, if you’re always looking for a 110 lbs woman, start looking for a 115 lbs. if you’re always looking for a 19 year old, start looking for a 20 year old.

TLDR: Keep an open mind, having a narrow vision and being too focused on finding the perfect woman will keep you away from amazing experiences.
I mostly agree with everything above.

I’d been pushing myself for years to lower my standards and I’ve learned to like women who are 5-6 facially if they have great bodies.
But I still can’t do fat (definitely cannot repeat) and most get fat when older. Also as they age they tend to get fake body parts which I’m not a fan of.

If only I was able to get an erection while with a fat old woman I’d marry rich and be the happiest man in the world…
 

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Skipping the semantics of calling it being picky; I would say due to our limited time (and to most, money), it would make sense for someone to pick someone they THINK its to their liking.

Even if one had enough time in their life to spare and not care about using their time to "broadening their views", there is the aspect of negative experience and then being embedded in your head. Which I think TERB is amazing because we can see the experience different people have, knowingly YMMV, but at least it gives us a glimpse about their potential demeanor and the overall experience.
 
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Most guys have different standards for women with whom they would have sex as opposed to women whom they would pay to have sex with them. I personally don't pay three figures for what I can get for Tim's and a TTC token.
 
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Obviously, if you are looking to book an escort, you should be able to pick the woman of your dreams (or close to). It is all part of the fantasy after all, calling a girl that you’d probably be too shy to approach in a bar. Meeting up with a woman half your age. Getting a pretty girl on her knees.

However, I fear some of you are unnecessarily picky. Let me explain myself and you can agree or judge respectfully after.

Yes the looks are important when choosing a companion but there’s more to it. There are many providers that don’t exactly look like Adriana Lima in her prime time but that would give you the experience of a lifetime. An addictive personality, a magnetic charm and just amazing bedroom skills.

By closing your mind to seeing white women only, Asian women only or black women only, you are potentially preventing yourself from getting a great experience.

Same for the folks saying they don’t want to meet anyone who isn’t
. I have a lot of things to say about that but for the sake of this thread I’ll just say that booking someone who is able to rent a car (25 and older) isn’t going to hurt you especially if you are above 45, what difference does it make? A 30 year old woman is still already 15 years younger than you. Would a woman 15 years younger respond to your flirts if you approached her in a bar?

Start progressively, if you’re always looking for a 110 lbs woman, start looking for a 115 lbs. if you’re always looking for a 19 year old, start looking for a 20 year old.

TLDR: Keep an open mind, having a narrow vision and being too focused on finding the perfect woman will keep you away from amazing experiences.
Well when we talk about fantasy...it's quite clear where we get the fantasies from...Men are visual creatures in general...what they saw on the screen, (pretty woman, basic instinct, jessica rabbit etc etc) the options are almost endless.... fantasies can go from Pamela Anderson (baywatch) to Lucy Liu (payback)....IMO we can be picky if we're spending out $$$ to get on with a hot babe...if the experience is dull...then we should live with the mistake we just made...
 
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I understand the argument being raised, but I think it's not taking the male sex drive into consideration.

Men are not like a lawnmower where you pull a cord at the back and we start going. That natural "drive" has to be there.

I've done the "Just try someone" approach and the usual end result is I leave unsatisfied. Not bad service but not satisfying.
 
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I've done the "Just try someone" approach and the usual end result is I leave unsatisfied. Not bad service but not satisfying.
Not just anyone but if you’re into dark brown hair and someone matches your list of criteria with the exception of her hair, let’s say light brown hair instead. Why not try?
 
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Not just anyone but if you’re into dark brown hair and someone matches your list of criteria with the exception of her hair, let’s say light brown hair instead. Why not try?
Most men would not exclude seeing an sp for something as trivial as hair colour.
 

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For me, personality is much more important than anything else when booking with someone. Even my perception of someone's attractiveness will skyrocket if I find them genuinely kind so I won't look much at face/body scores when reading reviews.

But I don't think my approach makes sense for everyone. A lot of people see SPs for very specific reasons e.g. to enjoy being with someone of a specific physical type or engage in a specific service. For these people, not being picky defeats their purpose of seeing an SP.
 
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Obviously, if you are looking to book an escort, you should be able to pick the woman of your dreams (or close to). It is all part of the fantasy after all, calling a girl that you’d probably be too shy to approach in a bar. Meeting up with a woman half your age. Getting a pretty girl on her knees.

However, I fear some of you are unnecessarily picky. Let me explain myself and you can agree or judge respectfully after.

Yes the looks are important when choosing a companion but there’s more to it. There are many providers that don’t exactly look like Adriana Lima in her prime time but that would give you the experience of a lifetime. An addictive personality, a magnetic charm and just amazing bedroom skills.

By closing your mind to seeing white women only, Asian women only or black women only, you are potentially preventing yourself from getting a great experience.

Same for the folks saying they don’t want to meet anyone who isn’t
. I have a lot of things to say about that but for the sake of this thread I’ll just say that booking someone who is able to rent a car (25 and older) isn’t going to hurt you especially if you are above 45, what difference does it make? A 30 year old woman is still already 15 years younger than you. Would a woman 15 years younger respond to your flirts if you approached her in a bar?

Start progressively, if you’re always looking for a 110 lbs woman, start looking for a 115 lbs. if you’re always looking for a 19 year old, start looking for a 20 year old.

TLDR: Keep an open mind, having a narrow vision and being too focused on finding the perfect woman will keep you away from amazing experiences.
Obviously when I'm looking for someone to reach out to I'm looking at the physical attributes and if they are my type. (I think no different than regular dating). However she can be a 10/10 on the looks/body parts if she's not personable, friendly, or if there's little connection on a personable level, I won't be back. There's lots a providers I have seen where physically something was off or maybe not what I was expecting however if I had a good time with her I would always come back. Half of this is in the mind:)
 
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Back to picky - I think it also refers to blokes imagining a flawless beauty, and then holding it against the lady. In fact, real women have the occasional stretch mark or extra roll or a touch of dimpling (cellulite?). Given I'm not perfect, I never hold it against the lady and in fact I find it humanizes them (after all, I'm punching above my weight on visits with these angels). Baby signs also render them special in that they gave life. Thus baby belly signs, a sag here or there, absolutely not a problem (unless the pics are way, way misleading). (BTW one exception for me is lactation. Makes me ill thinking about it).

I assume the pics I see in the ad are representing the lady in the very best possible light. I clearly expect a bit different when i meet in person and I'm almost never disappointed that way.
 

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Not just anyone but if you’re into dark brown hair and someone matches your list of criteria with the exception of her hair, let’s say light brown hair instead. Why not try?
I don't see that as an issue or much of a difference. The looks you are describing is very similar.

Let me rephrase your question. Lets say I'm into dark curly hair, but this provider has short straight blonde hair. That can be enough for me to say, "it's not what I'm looking for".

If it's not what I'm looking for, why force it? Especially when the cost comes out of my pocket?

I could say more but don't want to make this too long.
 
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DesRicardo

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To me, picky is when guys complain about only getting a cbj, not being able to DFK/LFK or no DATY/DATO.

These things are very trivial in my eyes and shouldn't be a reason not to see provider. But so many guys use this as make or break reasoning.

It hilarious to me that a peice of 1mm thick plastic will turn guys off to a woman.
 
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Obviously, if you are looking to book an escort, you should be able to pick the woman of your dreams (or close to). It is all part of the fantasy after all, calling a girl that you’d probably be too shy to approach in a bar. Meeting up with a woman half your age. Getting a pretty girl on her knees.

However, I fear some of you are unnecessarily picky. Let me explain myself and you can agree or judge respectfully after.

Yes the looks are important when choosing a companion but there’s more to it. There are many providers that don’t exactly look like Adriana Lima in her prime time but that would give you the experience of a lifetime. An addictive personality, a magnetic charm and just amazing bedroom skills.

By closing your mind to seeing white women only, Asian women only or black women only, you are potentially preventing yourself from getting a great experience.

Same for the folks saying they don’t want to meet anyone who isn’t
. I have a lot of things to say about that but for the sake of this thread I’ll just say that booking someone who is able to rent a car (25 and older) isn’t going to hurt you especially if you are above 45, what difference does it make? A 30 year old woman is still already 15 years younger than you. Would a woman 15 years younger respond to your flirts if you approached her in a bar?

Start progressively, if you’re always looking for a 110 lbs woman, start looking for a 115 lbs. if you’re always looking for a 19 year old, start looking for a 20 year old.

TLDR: Keep an open mind, having a narrow vision and being too focused on finding the perfect woman will keep you away from amazing experiences.
I do agree that being too picky means gents are probably missing out on some great experiences but on the other hand when a gent is booking an sp there probably looking for a specific fantasy they want fulfilled which means there looking for a specific body type, race, age etc. You can see where the pickiness comes into play. If your a guy who is just looking for a quick fuck then it doesn't make sense to be so picky because all you need is a pussy and a girl who can give you a bj.
 
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