Falsely accused by ugly female colleague of inappropriate staring

[Paprika]

Cough cough.

In my day we would call that ignoring but I am not cool and with it. I was cool and with it but then it changed and now I find it frighting and scary.

It feels alienating, because when there's something like a Christmas party, you won't be comfortable sitting with that person in the same room.

From my end, I never forgave her for going above the ranks to complain about my "disrespect for her experience", and with this staring allegation, no way in hell I will ever talk to this person again.

 

[NotADcotor]

that is not what is normally meant by ghosting, and he did not say that was the ghosting.

Maybe he isn't hip to the lingo. It's close enough kinda that it makes sense to me. All these new words, who can keep up.

 

[NotADcotor]

Did I read that right...you ratted that they were on thier cell phones?

Fuck lol.

Don't let Ghostface find out.

 

[Beagle_]

2. After that at some point, I got questioned about my time management by the direct supervisor regarding a job, I considered it a double standard, and complained about excessive cellphone usage by other members, which includes butterface. After that, cellphone usage declined but butterface started to look at me in a hateful manner, sometimes walking right past me without saying "Good Morning".

Of course she hates you. Just fuck off man lol.

 

[superstar_88]

... no way in hell I will ever talk to this person again.

She's ghosted you so you're correct in that assessment. You will not be able to talk to her again.

 

[Paprika]

Of course she hates you. Just fuck off man lol.

How about this? Don't ever fucking cross me by complaining to the department manager to make me look bad.

 

[Beagle_]

Don't ever fucking cross me by complaining to the department manager to make me look bad.

That sentence doesn't make much sence. Although, I think I got what your saying...

Did this happen first? Why did she complain to the manager to make you look bad and what did she say?

Your still a snitch but I'm hoping you have something good to say brother.

 

[Paprika]

That sentence doesn't make much sence. Although, I think I got what your saying...

Did this happen first? Why did she complain to the manager to make you look bad and what did she say?

Your still a snitch but I'm hoping you have something good to say brother.

Read the early post, she went above ranks to complain to my department manager about me "not respecting her 20 years of experience", so I had to apologize to her because the department manager now had concerns about my interpersonal skills. So basically she forced my hand by snitching to my department manager. A few months later somebody complained about her cellphone usage. What doesn't make sense?

 

[Darts]

Got to be really careful in the workplace.

One time I was giving a young woman her performance appraisal. She got really upset and as she was passing by me to get to the door, I instinctively put my hands gently on each of her shoulders. She continued out the door. Fortunately, she did not make an issue of it. Otherwise, my excellent career could have suffered a hit.

Actually, that same afternoon back in the main office she came over to my desk as if nothing happened and we simply just carried on with our jobs. No, no ghosting. No, no complaining to the big boss. No, no complaining to HR, Legal, HRC and/or police.

 

[Jenesis]

that is not what is normally meant by ghosting, and he did not say that was the ghosting.

He actually refused to clarify it multiple times.

I guess he needed time to make up an excuse since his post was already quoted and he couldn’t just delete the ghosted comment.

You don’t get “ghosted” in the workplace.

 

[xix]

Workplaces has become a BAD battle warfare zone everywhere in the 2020s'.
Even here.

@notadoctor #79
Ghosting - I can see been used in general, like everyone thought it was only for dates. Ignoring is the old days I guess,

I got ignore at work by a bunch of women because I started to help the men that need help and these men have health issue. What ever happen to " service to others in need".?

@Paprika #66
Yeah I see your mistake by defending your position about the manager. Your response to her should have been .... "well I see what you mean and understand", then walked away. Your come back to her from her POV felt threating to her.

I mentioned before on this board that PEOPLE lie on their RESUME.
Also it may sound like she wants your manager's job. Also it feels that she may have tried to make a move on you and it went sideways.

Just be careful with her because she is forever your ENEMY. She will never be anything else.

I was at a 12 step meeting, for a year I place everything on the table, then returned everything to the cabinets, never complained just out of my heart and goodness. One day I decided not do it. The hot Chick said to me..." items need to be put away"...I responded,,,," Yes you are right"... I walked away and she never mentioned it and she showed more courtesy after that.

 

[Beagle_]

Read the early post, she went above ranks to complain to my department manager about me "not respecting her 20 years of experience", so I had to apologize to her because the department manager now had concerns about my interpersonal skills. So basically she forced my hand by snitching to my department manager. A few months later somebody complained about her cellphone usage. What doesn't make sense?

Just your earlier sentence…but I got it…your just angry.

Read what you wrote and be likeable. Straight up...you do come off behaving like an asshole. I’m trying to find out why for your benefit.

Who is the senior at the company you or her? What initially happened that made her complain you are not respecting her 20 years of experience…did you do something? You said you had to apologize lol (asshole). It’s too bad your manager sounds right having concerns about your interpersonal skills. So basically she forced your hand by snitching to your department lol (asshole).

This is too much… Please tell me butterface is being a bitch because you make more money then her. Like give me something good…so somebody can advise how to give it to them up the ass if they deserve it lol. Or even better…be liked lol.

Sounds like you are at war with your coworkers and your having a horrible experience. Maybe take a vacation to give people time to cool off…come back and get on peoples good side which could take some time.

 

[massman]

OP, you clearly have an issue with your coworker, and resent that she is in the position that she is, and that she is fucking the dog at work, so you have probably been glaring at her for that, and she called you out, but (totally unfairly I agree) put a harassment spin on it.
You should just do your job and mind your own business, making comments about how she doesn’t deserve the position (whether she does or not) will never help you, and will more likely lead to more trouble, as it has. Concentrate on your own work, let your bosses police the rest of the employees.

As for the “ghosting” remark, I think you meant that she “blanked” you (ie ignored you at work) rather than ghosting, which usually refers to stopping responding to someone’s messages, or cutting off all communication unexpectedly.

 

[massman]

Sheesh this ordeal keeps getting weirder.

Lol.

Urban Dictionary: Fucking the dog

When someone is on the clock (at work) and they stand around acting busy and actually do nothing.

www.urbandictionary.com

 

[NotADcotor]

I was at a 12 step meeting, for a year I place everything on the table, then returned everything to the cabinets, never complained just out of my heart and goodness. One day I decided not do it. The hot Chick said to me..." items need to be put away"...I responded,,,," Yes you are right"... I walked away and she never mentioned it and she showed more courtesy after that.

One sort of rule in a charity I was sort of involved with back in the ancient past, if you suggest it, you just volunteered to do it.

 

[NotADcotor]

I am reminded of a story as told by the person this happened to

This guy was accused of eye humping some chick at the gym

He is blind. Cane, local government ID, the works. Didn't matter, IIRC gym kicked him out even after he explained himself.

 

[Jenesis]

I am reminded of a story as told by the person this happened to

This guy was accused of eye humping some chick at the gym

He is blind. Cane, local government ID, the works. Didn't matter, IIRC gym kicked him out even after he explained himself.

I know that guy! He told me he saw a purple people eater before he went blind.

You don’t need proof of anything when you “know a guy”. LOL.

Sorry but without a link to the an actual story like this - I call bullshit.

 

[PeteOsborne]

I know that guy! He told me he saw a purple people eater before he went blind.

You don’t need proof of anything when you “know a guy”. LOL.

Sorry but without a link to the an actual story like this - I call bullshit.

Here you go, it happened when he was 17, he had 4% vision at the time.
The second article contains the interaction between him and the woman who accused him of staring.
https://www.ladbible.com/news/blind...ter-being-accused-of-creeping-346556-20230622
https://www.sportskeeda.com/health-and-fitness/blind-man-gets-kicked-gym-staring-woman
He is now, at 21, a psychology and counseling student as well as a You Tube content creator.

 

[Darts]

Here you go, it happened when he was 17, he had 4% vision at the time.
The second article contains the interaction between him and the woman who accused him of staring.
https://www.ladbible.com/news/blind...ter-being-accused-of-creeping-346556-20230622
https://www.sportskeeda.com/health-and-fitness/blind-man-gets-kicked-gym-staring-woman
He is now, at 21, a psychology and counseling student as well as a You Tube content creator.

Maybe he humped the girl in his imagination. That is a no no in our toxic society.

Would any red blooded male not look at the woman in the pic below?

 

[Jenesis]

Here you go, it happened when he was 17, he had 4% vision at the time.
The second article contains the interaction between him and the woman who accused him of staring.
https://www.ladbible.com/news/blind...ter-being-accused-of-creeping-346556-20230622
https://www.sportskeeda.com/health-and-fitness/blind-man-gets-kicked-gym-staring-woman
He is now, at 21, a psychology and counseling student as well as a You Tube content creator.

Thank you. Context matters.

I will admit I read the first line wrong. I thought NotADoctor knew this person personally but he must have just listened to the podcast as he is a content creator.

So to me it sounded like “ I know this guy and he told me …….” Type story, instead of a documented occurrence. So that was my bad.

He should have sued the place and got her kicked out. Hell it wasn’t that long ago, I would still sue.