Falsely accused by ugly female colleague of inappropriate staring

[xix]

You give a good example but there are some key differences between your story and mine.

4. I refuse to communicate with the person due to the allegation in any way. Things are not normal.

5. The only thing I can do is to document my whereabouts, or anything strange about the other person.

6. The lunch break issue is not petty, we were all told to manage our time, yet this person takes long breaks, which lows morale of the workplace and creates a double standard.

7. There is no misunderstanding, there person previously made a complaint to the department manager about me not respecting her previous work experience, I did some investigation about her work experience and found out she lied on her resume.

So my strategy is simply to undermine the person's credibility. I already found out she has social anxiety disorder, so she's basically a compulsive liar.

4. Just Hello or Good morning when I enter work is how I treat my enemies at work they don't like it and they avoid me. But I show sign of respect and they don't bother me.

5. Strange? of course she is strange she is a woman. Women do weird things at work and so do crazy, selfish, entitled, egotistic Narcissist men. Sounds like she is a Narc.

6. She is testing the water, same thing at my work place, but every men takes advantage of this by taking early breaks as the women at my workplace. The boss hasn't say anything because he knows it's his fault. We all know that if boss bitches about this to a single person why the long break.. he knows the single person will point a finger to the woman taking the long break. The Art of War. Read the book.

7. Everyone lies on their resume. Specially people over 5'-9" they buy their graduation diploma from a Chinese guy on the street. I found out 6 / 10 women at my work place got the job because they slept with one of the managers, before the interview. And HR know this. Women sense this from guys who knows this and the women keep away from guys like me or who know that they slept around.

So grow up. It is life, leave her alone. But YES watch your back and keep your distance. Get a hobby like see SP's once every 12 days.

 

[Joyrection]

Well, should you be let go from your job don't say we did not warn you. There are a lot of us here with decades of work life experience telling you the same thing in many different ways, and you refuse to heed our warnings so do as you please.

 

[Paprika]

So grow up. It is life, leave her alone. But YES watch your back and keep your distance. Get a hobby like see SP's once every 12 days.

If you can make this allegation go away I will absolutely leave her alone. You think I enjoy documenting all the bullshit?

To give you an example, the other day she walked past me from behind with less than 10 cm of distance, if I didn't pay attention I would have bumped into her. Then she could say I touched her, so immediately I sent manager an email containing a disclaimer saying if any physical contact, she initiated it.

 

[xix]

If you can make this allegation go away I will absolutely leave her alone. You think I enjoy documenting all the bullshit?

To give you an example, the other day she walked past me from behind with less than 10 cm of distance, if I didn't pay attention I would have bumped into her. Then she could say I touched her, so immediately I sent manager an email containing a disclaimer saying if any physical contact, she initiated it.

Your account is private so I can't DM you.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

You give a good example but there are some key differences between your story and mine.

1. The harassment allegation is very serious and it's a hot potato issue that nobody knows how to deal with, including my current management team.

2. The matter is not considered closed. Another complaint of the same nature would land me with HR.

3. There is not one person but two people involved, in which one is backing up what the other person is saying, which might tip the scale in an investigation.

4. I refuse to communicate with the person due to the allegation in any way. Things are not normal.

5. The only thing I can do is to document my whereabouts, or anything strange about the other person.

6. The lunch break issue is not petty, we were all told to manage our time, yet this person takes long breaks, which lows morale of the workplace and creates a double standard.

7. There is no misunderstanding, there person previously made a complaint to the department manager about me not respecting her previous work experience, I did some investigation about her work experience and found out she lied on her resume.

So my strategy is simply to undermine the person's credibility. I already found out she has social anxiety disorder, so she's basically a compulsive liar.

Having social anxiety doesn’t make her a compulsive liar. Get on psychology today and do real reading not memes

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

If you can make this allegation go away I will absolutely leave her alone. You think I enjoy documenting all the bullshit?

To give you an example, the other day she walked past me from behind with less than 10 cm of distance, if I didn't pay attention I would have bumped into her. Then she could say I touched her, so immediately I sent manager an email containing a disclaimer saying if any physical contact, she initiated it.

This is so strange to receive if I were your manager. imagine you got an email from
someone saying hey if you have a twenty missing it wasn’t me okay but it could be so and so. Well now I’m thinking I don’t know if I had a twenty but now I’m thinking I might have and maybe it is missint but how did so and so know and why would they say that ? I’m concerned about so and so and now im
going to watch them around my stuff.

 

[franci]

You both sound like a pain in the ass. I would let you both go. Problem solved.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

4. Just Hello or Good morning when I enter work is how I treat my enemies at work they don't like it and they avoid me. But I show sign of respect and they don't bother me.

5. Strange? of course she is strange she is a woman. Women do weird things at work and so do crazy, selfish, entitled, egotistic Narcissist men. Sounds like she is a Narc.

6. She is testing the water, same thing at my work place, but every men takes advantage of this by taking early breaks as the women at my workplace. The boss hasn't say anything because he knows it's his fault. We all know that if boss bitches about this to a single person why the long break.. he knows the single person will point a finger to the woman taking the long break. The Art of War. Read the book.

7. Everyone lies on their resume. Specially people over 5'-9" they buy their graduation diploma from a Chinese guy on the street. I found out 6 / 10 women at my work place got the job because they slept with one of the managers, before the interview. And HR know this. Women sense this from guys who knows this and the women keep away from guys like me or who know that they slept around.

So grow up. It is life, leave her alone. But YES watch your back and keep your distance. Get a hobby like see SP's once every 12 days.

I approve of points 4-6. Art of war is great. But otherwise I’m hesitant to say that’s true for
the rest. Sounds like rumours

 

[NotADcotor]

I think you’ve fucked yourself.

Get a hobby like see SP's once every 12 days.
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Why 12 days, 14 days would be easier to schedule. Just wondering.

 

[Disgruntled Goat]

This is just like his Holiday Inn thread. He acts like a giant weirdo, then when he faces consequences for his weirdness, he thinks the world is out to get him.

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/holiday-inn-at-airport-giving-really-bad-vibe.844488/

 

[NotADcotor]

This is just like his Holiday Inn thread. He acts like a giant weirdo, then when he faces consequences for his weirdness, he thinks the world is out to get him.

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/holiday-inn-at-airport-giving-really-bad-vibe.844488/

If everyone you encounter is an asshole... maybe the problem isn't with them. Refering to the OP of that link.

 

[xyphy]

Except it's very easy to figure out you're lying by simply asking your coworkers if you ever mentioned liking a pair of tits, and being in a place where there are a lot of men, there's a lot of locker room talk.

I was a supplier, no access to my coworkers. my industry is arts related, so it would have 100% worked. but they would have won anyways since they would have wanted to distance themselves from any controversy. if a gay guy is accused of something, it's the same as a straight guy being accused in their eyes.

 

[xyphy]

so couldn't you tell that to human resources? she approached me asking if i wanted a blowjob.

I was just a supplier with a contract to do work for them. no HR for me

 

[Cbr20152012]

This is just like his Holiday Inn thread. He acts like a giant weirdo, then when he faces consequences for his weirdness, he thinks the world is out to get him.

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/holiday-inn-at-airport-giving-really-bad-vibe.844488/

I thought of this thread when he commented on people suffering from forms of social anxiety…believe he said they were compulsive liars.

 

[barnacler]

If someone accused me of staring at them, I would ask,

"Why do you say that?"

"Because you were looking at me"

"How do you know I was looking at you?"

"Because I SAW you you idot!"

"Ah, I see. So YOU were actually staring at ME then!"

 

[Terminator2000]

If someone accused me of staring at them, I would ask,

"Why do you say that?"

"Because you were looking at me"

"How do you know I was looking at you?"

"Because I SAW you you idot!"

"Ah, I see. So YOU were actually staring at ME then!"

actually in Australia, if you're at a club and you're a guy. you can get kicked out for just looking at a girl.

Australia nightclub bans staring at strangers without verbal consent

‘We do this to make everyone feel safe and to ensure our patrons are comfortable’

www.independent.co.uk

 

[richaceg]

actually in Australia, if you're at a club and you're a guy. you can get kicked out for just looking at a girl.

Australia nightclub bans staring at strangers without verbal consent

‘We do this to make everyone feel safe and to ensure our patrons are comfortable’

www.independent.co.uk

 

[Valcazar]

Dude, give it a rest. You look like a complete dick here. “Person left work before break to buy food and was gone for 20 min”. Your surveillance (and grudge here) is creepy. No wonder she is skeezed out by you. Seriously, read what you just wrote out loud and think of what you’d say to someone else here if they described doing what you are.

This is a toxic work environment with people spying on each other and shit.

 

[SexB]

Look at some of the OP's other posts, does it really surprise anyone that this jackass "incel" thinks this?

 

[Jami77]

Tell the HR dept you have ADHD and you often stare into the distance and its part of your issue. Tell the HR department that they need to accommodate your mental health issue and if they proceed with any discipline you will take them to the court of Human Rights.

The problem with the Human Rights Tribunals is they automatically side with the accuser and its up the accused to prove that they didnt violate the accused's human rights which usually costs a fortune in legal fees. HR will promptly shit themselves and back pedal.