Travelling with a SP?

[LisaLust24]

Interesting thread

I think there are types of SPs that would be a perfect for for this and others who definitely wouldn't fit into this category. (vague I know lol) Unfortunately the potential for making a mistake in judgement would have pretty big consequences in this situation I would think, so bringing someone you've spent some time with be the first logical step in the decision making process.

Now, as someone who isn't crazy and wouldn't ruin your vacation or do something backhanded or devious, the thought of an NDA seems unnecessary to me personally.... But yeah, really good idea. You never know if how someone is representing themselves is accurate unless you REALLY know them and if they ARE genuine, they would theoretically be respectful of whatever terms you put forth in order to be secure and safe.
Tricky one, but just make sure you cover all your bases in case things do go south (pun intended )

Also, want to get to know eachother over the next month? I could use a vacation

 

[ShanOtt]

Definitely helps to Do an overnight first before longer vacation. im thinking what if someone snores and such. we all need good sleep to be somewhat our minimum functioning selves. Or if someone likes sleeping warm and the other cold. Or general anxiety or sleep
disorders. Plus protecting items of value or identity

Lmfao
If you’re worried about your personal items or identity then you shouldn’t be bringing that SP with you on a trip.

Seriously though, doing an extended date or FMTY is not that hard. Find an SP you like, start seeing them regularly and then start seeing them for longer dates. Make sure it’s someone you have a good connection with and is reputable.
Then just discuss the terms of the trip. If sleeping in the same bed with her ain’t going to fly for her but is a dealbreaker for you then just don’t bring her and cut your losses.

keep in mind that you are also going to pay for their time not just the expense of the trip so definitely manage your expectations cause I highly doubt a reputable lady will travel with you for free or for cheap just for an all expenses paid trip and then fuck you for free.

Most reputable ladies charge between 1-2k just for an overnight so factor that into your budget for a week long trip.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

Lmfao
If you’re worried about your personal items or identity then you shouldn’t be bringing that SP with you on a trip.

Seriously though, doing an extended date or FMTY is not that hard. Find an SP you like, start seeing them regularly and then start seeing them for longer dates. Make sure it’s someone you have a good connection with and is reputable.
Then just discuss the terms of the trip. If sleeping in the same bed with her ain’t going to fly for her but is a dealbreaker for you then just don’t bring her and cut your losses.

keep in mind that you are also going to pay for their time not just the expense of the trip so definitely manage your expectations cause I highly doubt a reputable lady will travel with you for free or for cheap just for an all expenses paid trip and then fuck you for free.

Most reputable ladies charge between 1-2k just for an overnight so factor that into your budget for a week long trip.

I think it’s good to offer it so that something happens then you both can know there is somewhere else to retreat to.
I was letting the op know that privacy and items might be a concern wasn’t saying personally. I was also pointing out that a hotel room has one safe. Who uses it ? do you both put your passports in?

 

[Aleeeee]

Why pay for a sp to go on a trip when there is probably a lot of women where you are going !

 

[dynomyte]

This reminded me of something that happened a while ago.

https://www.cnn.com/2014/12/18/travel/canada-ex-girlfriend-world-trip/index.html

Maybe post it on reddit or twitter/X that you can sponsor an all expenses paid trip for one lucky lady. I'm guessing a lot of civil women would be interested.

If it's SP you prefer then why not do some research and try the local cuisine and save yourself a lot of $.

Some great suggestions here. I dont know why I never thought to put it out there to the civi-ladies too! Could allow for more "open" communication etc. Of course, I would want to connect with the person a few times beforehand to see if there are any obvious flags.

The lure of seeking a professional companion still remains that, even if the chemistry isnt fantastic, a pro knows how to "work" through the time spent together and make it work. Maybe I reach out to a person with whom I have seen a few times and seek an overnight or weekend getaway? I dont know. I have had a few DMs with some shared experiences that has given me some things to consider that I hadn't yet.

 

[laidbackdude]

I did it once and it did not go well at all. The first argument was over, you guessed it, sex. This led to me paying for a second room, so it was like travelling solo. That said, I was young and infatuated with this SP. If I was to do it now, my communications ahead of time would be extremely clear.

 

[arius2021]

Try with a civil woman or a sugar baby, you may have better chances / experience

 

[Hawkeye22]

I would avoid completely....unless you have great "relationship" with this lady that won't bite you in the ass at a later date.
Is there a female friend that you always wanted to seduce that could possibly turn into a getaway fling? you'd be surprised what a paid trip and lotsa cheap tequila will result in.
Worst case scenario you have arm candy and you get drunk and have fun....best case you end up with a FWB....
Last thing you want is no chemistry with a SW stuck there....

Hawk

 

[haplessinquiry]

I'd just get the refund back. You have to make sure the other person has a passport, you would have to be okay with revealing your true identity to her, and she would have to reveal hers to you. And to top it all off, these days you can't just transfer tickets to someone else, due to all of the security restrictions.

 

[ShanOtt]

I'd just get the refund back. You have to make sure the other person has a passport, you would have to be okay with revealing your true identity to her, and she would have to reveal hers to you. And to top it all off, these days you can't just transfer tickets to someone else, due to all of the security restrictions.

SP can book their own flight. They don’t have to share their identity with you

OP didn’t state if flights were already booked and even if they were, usually they can’t transfer tickets from one person to another. Airlines will only give you a credit to the ticket holder not the purchaser.

You actually don’t need to know any of the SPs identity or info to go on a FMTY with them. Book your flights separately and check in solo but ask for an additional room key.
If the SP wants to be on the reservation for the room then that’s another thing and you’d have to discuss that prior.

And in return, the SP doesn’t need to know your details asides from whatever screening they require from you.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

I'd just get the refund back. You have to make sure the other person has a passport, you would have to be okay with revealing your true identity to her, and she would have to reveal hers to you. And to top it all off, these days you can't just transfer tickets to someone else, due to all of the security restrictions.

You could have each of you purchase separate and reimburse her

 

[ShanOtt]

Just my opinion but I would never travel with anyone whose real name I didn't know.

If I'm spending a week away with a girl, it's because I enjoy hanging around with her and talking, as much as anything else. If we aren't at the level where I know her real name, and who she is in her personal life, I can't imagine what a week away would be like. A week away with a girl who doesn't fully trust you to know who she is, would be difficult I think. Other than the physical aspect of it, what would we do all week if we can't at least talk about life and things as well.

I know everyone doesn't have this same experience but if I've seen a girl more than twice, 8/10 times she has shared me her real name with me, her non work phone number, and we have discussed her life outside of the industry. It's definitely a trust issue and I consider myself lucky in that aspect.

Has it crossed your mind they’ve probably given you their fake “real name and that you’re probably pushing some serious boundaries if you’re digging for that kind of information on date #2 ?

If you can’t have meaningful conversation with a SP and not know her name, you’re either terrible at conversation or the only conversation you’re interested in is about her personal life; which in this context is definitely a red flag and Id tell that lady not to travel with you lol

 

[dynomyte]

Just my opinion but I would never travel with anyone whose real name I didn't know.

If I'm spending a week away with a girl, it's because I enjoy hanging around with her and talking, as much as anything else. If we aren't at the level where I know her real name, and who she is in her personal life, I can't imagine what a week away would be like. A week away with a girl who doesn't fully trust you to know who she is, would be difficult I think. Other than the physical aspect of it, what would we do all week if we can't at least talk about life and things as well.

I know everyone doesn't have this same experience but if I've seen a girl more than twice, 8/10 times she has shared me her real name with me, her non work phone number, and we have discussed her life outside of the industry. It's definitely a trust issue and I consider myself lucky in that aspect.

I have a few people with whom I visit multiple times and I have never asked specific information about them. Any information they have chosen to share (eg interests, goals etc) is really on them to initiate and then I might ask some non-invasive questions as part of the discussion. I really do just let their private lives stay private unless they choose to share. Obviously, I would want/ need some personal information but people are acting like this is some sort of lifelong commitment. We are talking about spending the week with someone who, if things go sour, i would never have to see again afterwards. Still, the more I think about it and learn from those who are reaching out to me or posting here, the more I start to wonder if it is worth it.

 

[haplessinquiry]

SP can book their own flight. They don’t have to share their identity with you

OP didn’t state if flights were already booked and even if they were, usually they can’t transfer tickets from one person to another. Airlines will only give you a credit to the ticket holder not the purchaser.

You actually don’t need to know any of the SPs identity or info to go on a FMTY with them. Book your flights separately and check in solo but ask for an additional room key.
If the SP wants to be on the reservation for the room then that’s another thing and you’d have to discuss that prior.

And in return, the SP doesn’t need to know your details asides from whatever screening they require from you.

I think the OP did certainly imply that the tickets were already booked. He said, "I have a trip for two booked"! That sounds like tickets were already made.

 

[blacklabdog]

I have a few people with whom I visit multiple times and I have never asked specific information about them. Any information they have chosen to share (eg interests, goals etc) is really on them to initiate and then I might ask some non-invasive questions as part of the discussion. I really do just let their private lives stay private unless they choose to share. Obviously, I would want/ need some personal information but people are acting like this is some sort of lifelong commitment. We are talking about spending the week with someone who, if things go sour, i would never have to see again afterwards. Still, the more I think about it and learn from those who are reaching out to me or posting here, the more I start to wonder if it is worth it.

its doable if there is someone you have a strong connection to but dont let lost 50% be a factor. If that is really bugging you - I can be your travel partner. I am game for an expense paid vacay. I am low maintenance, can talk about almost anything, can be a good wingman and dont snore.

 

[Cromwell69427]

Would be curious to know if say, you pay for her trip, would she still expect her hourly rate for every day spent there? Personally I would save the money and pick up someone local wherever I am. It’s much easier that most think, women in these countries throw themselves at you, my ex wife had to beat them off with a stick when we went. lol

 

[honeybear69]

Would be curious to know if say, you pay for her trip, would she still expect her hourly rate for every day spent there? Personally I would save the money and pick up someone local wherever I am. It’s much easier that most think, women in these countries throw themselves at you, my ex wife had to beat them off with a stick when we went. lol

The difference between you and I Cromwell69427......my ex-wife beats me with a stick and there are no ladies after me!!
So I am assuming the deal would be, you pay for both trips in full, you pick up all tabs or extras that might occur while you are away with the individual lady (Nadia....sorry that is who I would pick). You would prolly have to do separate rooms as the individual lady would want her own private time throughout the trip and each day. I would assume also that you are paying their 24 hour rate at 7 days for the week. You are talking about serious coin, as I would not take anyone (Nadia) to anything less than a 5 star resort. I believe an earlier poster even stated that he and his companion argued about sex.....so again we don't know his individual deal with the lady he travailed with so hard to ask if the sex was included?? Or was the deal less because he was paying for the trip and the companion was under the impression that since you got a deal on me being on vacation with you sex would be an extra cost? Or maybe a limited amount of bedroom time per day? This is why these kind of plans become so complicated and then toss in a NDA on top of all that......you might be better off talking to an a Civi but that also has it problems......maybe recruit individuals down where you are going? But then you would have to deal with local issues and you might not be able to bring your lady for the day to your resort? This is all a huge issue.....cheapest and prolly easiest is to grab a buddy like someone else mentioned and party like a rockstar for a week, you never know you might meet other female vacationers looking for the same thing?
HB69.....was here!?!?!

 

[pusher69]

Lot of good advice given to OP to think about.
#1 question for OP, are you willing to share some personal information with the lady you plan on taking (will need travel document info for both parties)
#2 vice versa, will she be willing to do the same for you.

Reason.. If you are pulled aside to secondary for questioning, your stories better match up really good. If they don't you could find yourself in worse of a situation.

I have done it a few times, but I know the ladies on a personal level and both sides trust the other and get along, otherwise its not worth it.

 

[blacklabdog]

Lot of good advice given to OP to think about.
#1 question for OP, are you willing to share some personal information with the lady you plan on taking (will need travel document info for both parties)
#2 vice versa, will she be willing to do the same for you.

Reason.. If you are pulled aside to secondary for questioning, your stories better match up really good. If they don't you could find yourself in worse of a situation.

I have done it a few times, but I know the ladies on a personal level and both sides trust the other and get along, otherwise its not worth it.

Don't go thru customs together. Go as 2 sep travelers

 

[pusher69]

Don't go thru customs together. Go as 2 sep travelers

In today's world, unless you are booking the flights on different cards and the seats are not next to each other. The airline's share the passenger manifest with airport security and customs so they know. Some countries expect the same information for airline carriers so they know who is coming into their country.

Better not to lie and get flagged by CBSA or US Homeland Security... travelling becomes more of a headache afterwards.

I travel solo a lot for work and sometimes with co-workers and see it sometimes, person travelling with a mister/mistress and they try and do what you suggested and they both get pulled aside for additional questioning.