Sugar Dating Experience

[xix]

I decide to search for
"feature people near messaging apps"

To see what I get.

Apps with 'People nearby' feature
I like "hot or not" description / features
Hot or Not began as a rating site that allowed users to rate the attractiveness of photos submitted voluntarily by others. The site offers a matchmaking engine called 'Meet Me' and an extended profile feature called "Hotlists".

Top Apps like LINK - with people nearby for Android

Don't Use Telegram's New 'People Nearby' Feature

Be WARNED you are opening yourself up to danger. Read the last link.

 

[RobI]

Ive met some Toronto girls who like to use Telegram. The like it because they can easily send self-destructing (disappearing) photos. You can also do video chat, so works well if one has iPhone the other Samsung.

That's true, I like it's got an auto delete-account feature too

I tried the "people near me", but there didn't seem to be much nearby.

 

[xix]

That's true, I like it's got an auto delete-account feature too

I tried the "people near me", but there didn't seem to be much nearby.

Time of day and location?

 

[RobI]

Time of day and location?

North york, afternoon and evening - seems like a sausage fest mostly. There are 3-4 EE girls on, but they just look like normal glamour photos - nothing screams working girl

 

[xix]

North york, afternoon and evening - seems like a sausage fest mostly. There are 3-4 EE girls on, but they just look like normal glamour photos - nothing screams working girl

I see, but you must understand some ladies don't use photos that scream sex, but do or are open to it, they play games or don't want to make it obvious like in real life. Just approach if you are bold. Think of it like approaching women in a bar. Know what to say first, "hello"...

 

[newtothis1]

Just got a SA account out of curiosity. A few ladies I messaged are quoting $500 just for meeting up. What are the expectations during the first meet up? Is it usually just a coffee date? Is it preferable that no money is exchanged during the first meet up (I am not too keen on losing $500 just for a coffee date).

 

[LTO_3]

Just got a SA account out of curiosity. A few ladies I messaged are quoting $500 just for meeting up. What are the expectations during the first meet up? Is it usually just a coffee date? Is it preferable that no money is exchanged during the first meet up (I am not too keen on losing $500 just for a coffee date).

First meetings are casual, coffee/lunch, to get to know each other, if you'll connect and discuss details of expectations including money. If no connection, you pay for the meal and move on. IF you connect you may get it on otherwise move on. ZERO money to meet to chat.
ANY ask for money to meet and chat = move on and ignore.

LTO_3

 

[avocat]

Just got a SA account out of curiosity. A few ladies I messaged are quoting $500 just for meeting up. What are the expectations during the first meet up? Is it usually just a coffee date? Is it preferable that no money is exchanged during the first meet up (I am not too keen on losing $500 just for a coffee date).

"Gifts" are all over the place. Just stick to your guys. Show some polite interest in them (e.g. game) then ask to have some adult fun but you want to want to first meet for a drink or coffee, or bubble tea, etc. Then after that meet, go fuck! Also as to rates, do not exceed $400-$500 for as long as you guys hang out. I guess if you just want to do the deed and split, negotiate less up front, or at your meet. The issue is SB's are a good value for hanging out, etc. That is something I like. Escorts are like little time clocks, with their "do you want to extend". I understand they want hourly, but often the girls start talking and it is their fault a lot of time is wasted. Or sometimes it takes a while to cum. Occasionally, I kick myself for booking 2 hours when I cum quick. But it's all good.

 

[shack]

Just got a SA account out of curiosity. A few ladies I messaged are quoting $500 just for meeting up. What are the expectations during the first meet up? Is it usually just a coffee date? Is it preferable that no money is exchanged during the first meet up (I am not too keen on losing $500 just for a coffee date).

If it's a meet and greet, you pay for what you two order but no allowance. It is nothing more than an equal opportunity for each of you to see if there is some mutual interest/chemistry.

I tell them that, but then end with, "if we end up consummating the arrangement that same night, then I will pay the agreed upon amount."

 

[xix]

State for how long the time should be. Specify your time 2 hours example.
Not some quick jiff lube service.

 

[dchoye]

How many of you display a public photo?
If you do, what feature do you blur
For those who don’t do a public photo, you do show yourself in private photos for contacts

 

[Fornication]

So yesterday I met a girl through SA and she is Filipina lady and somewhat conservative culturally. We met for drinks and apps and it went well for 1.5 hours and walked her to her car. We are meeting again soon. How do I escalate to 'intimate date' and what language via text do you use that is not creepy ? We have not discussed payments of any kind yet. I don't mind seeing her once more before intimacy date but that would be it. Has anyone use the day rate hotels with success ?

 

[shack]

So yesterday I met a girl through SA and she is Filipina lady and somewhat conservative culturally. We met for drinks and apps and it went well for 1.5 hours and walked her to her car. We are meeting again soon. How do I escalate to 'intimate date'
and what language via text do you use that is not creepy ? We have not discussed payments of any kind yet. I don't mind seeing her once more before intimacy date but that would be it. Has anyone use the day rate hotels with success ?

Invite her to your place and tell her you'd like to make her a romantic dinner. A couple of candles on the table. A single rose. Something simple to prepare like salad and then pasta with shrimp in either a red or white sauce. After dinner, some wine while sitting on the sofa and after a few minutes, you just lean in. Most girls will be ready by then. Don't bring up money until she does. I've had a lot of dates where we're finished with the sex and money has still not been discussed.

Try your hardest not to discuss money via text. It's better to discuss in person. Communication is much improved when you can look somebody in the eye.

Also, don't go for the "how much are you offering trap". Get her to go 1st. If she resists, just tell her that this is not the way the world works. "When you go in to get your hair or nails done, do they ask you how much you're willing to pay or do they state their price? It's the same with a lawyer. He tells you his hourly rate, not how much can you offer me."

This works 90% of the time (even via text) because it's 100% true. Why should you make an offer that might be way more than she's willing to accept?

Shack's tips. That's enough typing for me for today.

 

[Fornication]

Invite her to your place and tell her you'd like to make her a romantic dinner. A couple of candles on the table. A single rose. Something simple to prepare like salad and then pasta with shrimp in either a red or white sauce. After dinner, some wine while sitting on the sofa and after a few minutes, you just lean in. Most girls will be ready by then. Don't bring up money until she does. I've had a lot of dates where we're finished with the sex and money has still not been discussed.

Try your hardest not to discuss money via text. It's better to discuss in person. Communication is much improved when you can look somebody in the eye.

Also, don't go for the "how much are you offering trap". Get her to go 1st. If she resists, just tell her that this is not the way the world works. "When you go in to get your hair or nails done, do they ask you how much you're willing to pay or do they state their price? It's the same with a lawyer. He tells you his hourly rate, not how much can you offer me."

This works 90% of the time (even via text) because it's 100% true. Why should you make an offer that might be way more than she's willing to accept?

Shack's tips. That's enough typing for me for today.

My situation is a bit different in the sense I would have to book a hotel room, a daytime rate somewhere. Due to my SO, I can't have here back to my place. Trying to get over this hurdle of organizing an intimate date without being presumptuous and booking a room ahead of time. Anyone else come across this predicament ?

 

[Bobbblitz004]

Don’t over think it. Pick her up tell her you’re taking her to a fun place. Grab a drink at the bar, take her to the room. Enjoy rinse and repeat.

 

[Leimonis]

Invite her to your place and tell her you'd like to make her a romantic dinner. A couple of candles on the table. A single rose. Something simple to prepare like salad and then pasta with shrimp in either a red or white sauce. After dinner, some wine while sitting on the sofa and after a few minutes, you just lean in. Most girls will be ready by then. Don't bring up money until she does. I've had a lot of dates where we're finished with the sex and money has still not been discussed.

Try your hardest not to discuss money via text. It's better to discuss in person. Communication is much improved when you can look somebody in the eye.

Also, don't go for the "how much are you offering trap". Get her to go 1st. If she resists, just tell her that this is not the way the world works. "When you go in to get your hair or nails done, do they ask you how much you're willing to pay or do they state their price? It's the same with a lawyer. He tells you his hourly rate, not how much can you offer me."

This works 90% of the time (even via text) because it's 100% true. Why should you make an offer that might be way more than she's willing to accept?

Shack's tips. That's enough typing for me for today.

My latest experience is that they are not shy at all to ask and they ask between 600 and 1000 consistently

 

[shack]

My latest experience is that they are not shy at all to ask and they ask between 600 and 1000 consistently

I have had some of those as well. That's out of my snack bracket.

 

[dchoye]

How do you guys cut bait after initial meeting in person the potential SB that turns out to be fatter/uglier than her photos
I can accept 7/8s but if looks department is a 5/6 I think I need to say no even if she has the right attitude

 

[Big John]

My situation is a bit different in the sense I would have to book a hotel room, a daytime rate somewhere. Due to my SO, I can't have here back to my place. Trying to get over this hurdle of organizing an intimate date without being presumptuous and booking a room ahead of time. Anyone else come across this predicament ?

You're trying to have first meet and first private date all in one visit while factoring in you having a SO you share a home with. I feel your headache just describing this.

Your best option is to meet just for lunch or dinner a potential SB and then have the intimacy date on the second get together. Add to this a preflight research of hotels near by that are showing rooms available to check in that day as a Plan B option to extend the lunch/dinner into a hotel get together. The SB may appreciate you didn't assume the lunch/dinner will go further on a first meet and booking a room for you two to head over to.

My experience has always been best to meet first just for lunch/dinner. It prevents my state of horny making poor decisions, agreeing to a much higher ppm, realize after I'm not that attracted to her and was caught up in the excitement of meeting her, etc.

The text/conversations between the first meet and getting together in private also will further your understanding of her expectations, possible increase in ppm she was going to surprise you with eventually, or on a lighter note, how much she wants to see you and the things she wants to do to you.

 

[Fornication]

You're trying to have first meet and first private date all in one visit while factoring in you having a SO you share a home with. I feel your headache just describing this.

Your best option is to meet just for lunch or dinner a potential SB and then have the intimacy date on the second get together. Add to this a preflight research of hotels near by that are showing rooms available to check in that day as a Plan B option to extend the lunch/dinner into a hotel get together. The SB may appreciate you didn't assume the lunch/dinner will go further on a first meet and booking a room for you two to head over to.

My experience has always been best to meet first just for lunch/dinner. It prevents my state of horny making poor decisions, agreeing to a much higher ppm, realize after I'm not that attracted to her and was caught up in the excitement of meeting her, etc.

The text/conversations between the first meet and getting together in private also will further your understanding of her expectations, possible increase in ppm she was going to surprise you with eventually, or on a lighter note, how much she wants to see you and the things she wants to do to you.

Update: During our mng she said she wanted to go slow(men just want to meet and fuck). Yup. LOL. So, I texted her to set up a lunch date with visit to a local art gallery. She messaged back ' So you want a date now?' No ppm discussion. Apparently she was ready to go to a hotel on the 2nd date. Caveat: I've been outta the game a long time and missed singles at the meet n greet. I knew there was a connection but didn't think she was ready that quickly.

Yesterday went great as well, I gave her some flowers and we made out in my car for a bit. We are planning next week's date to end at a hotel, so I have time to plan! Here's the kicker she hasn't asked for any ppm even though I brought it up. She likes spending time with me. She seems genuine. Am I going to get blindsided by a big PPM next week ? I'd really feel guilty if I didn't get her something or give her cash. She is a struggling 20 something and I'm 50+. She works her ass off and goes to school and has a kid. I will give her something even if she doesn't want it.

Are there any red flags I'm missing ??