Sugar Dating Experience

[RobI]

Anyone have experience with both Seeking and Secret Benefits? I've only used Seeking with good results but curious about Secret Benefits.

Different types of sites, sites like Seeking or SDM you pay a flat monthly fee. Secret Benefits (they also own SugarDaddy.ca/SugarDaddy.com) charge you credits for things like messaging, reading messages, viewing private photos, etc.

On Reddit, there's been talk about how they use bots to make girls' accounts look more active ("zombie profiles"). You probably want to stick to verified profiles and send the girls your snap/phone number early so you don't pay credits.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/1bicimc https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/1f3zyd8

 

[RobI]

I was chatting with a friend couple nights ago. He got his body count up to the 300s during his 4-5 years single in between marriages. Said SA was a great place to get that number up. Got me all excited so I made another account on there. I think the women asking for 600, 750 or 1000 ppm's are really young right? I don't see older women making those demands.

If you're in your 30s/early-40 you can really pull a lot of girls off these sites

That said, inflation is real; you used to be able to find good girls for $200 in the mid-2010, but it has definitely gone up.

But...this time of year there are a lot of new girls on these sites.

Definitely worth checking these sites (ok, maybe not SB) out this time of year.

 

[dchoye]

There was a lot of sex peep and video shops on Yonge St DT before the internet too.

 

[GeeBee]

Has anyone seen any offers from Seeking lately? It looks like they want $150 for a month currently, and my usual "log out and wait for a deal" strategy doesn’t seem to be bearing any fruit.

 

[brian4hartley]

Well this supposedly "prime time" for Seeking. Lots of new profiles on the site. I'm rather disappointed at the level of low motivation of these girls. I've had a few 400 ppm girls now cancel because they don't like the weather or the rain. I mean c'mon. Who the frack looks out the window and goes, "oh it's raining, I'm gonna cancel my whole day".

Been testing out SDM as well. The girls are actually a bit more chill than Seeking. A little less entitled as well. But it's the same level of motivation.

 

[Leimonis]

Well this supposedly "prime time" for Seeking. Lots of new profiles on the site. I'm rather disappointed at the level of low motivation of these girls. I've had a few 400 ppm girls now cancel because they don't like the weather or the rain. I mean c'mon. Who the frack looks out the window and goes, "oh it's raining, I'm gonna cancel my whole day".

you call it low motivation they call it low renumeration

 

[brian4hartley]

SDM is not a bad platform. Works out to about $70 CAD/mo. I went to cancel my Seeking and they offered me a 20% discount. So the discount is there. It's still $150 CAD/mo or so for Seeking. The girls on SDM are a little less high quality than Seeking. Oddly, they seem a little more delusional. I think this is due to the chat box where they can communicate with each other. One 19 year old thought she was gonna get $900 ppm. lol

But overall, lots of good, average looking girls that can do $300-400 ppm.

One thing I didn't anticipate was the number of girls that vanished between Dec 30-31 and Jan 1-2. I guess they felt guilty with their level of naughtiness?

And of course you're right Leimonis, $400 is not exactly top of the line in terms of paid sex. But there are still plenty of girls out there that will ask you to pay for drinks or transportation and that's it. Get 10-15 convos going and you have something that will work out there.

 

[shack]

But overall, lots of good, average looking girls that can do $300-400 ppm.

This. The last 2 I had were $400 and $325. 19 and 20.

 

[shack]

When girls from the US try to set something up, I tell them that Toronto is as big as Chicago. There are thousands of SBs within a 20 minute drive from me. Why should I bother dealing with a SB who's thousands of miles away? I say, let me know when you plan on coming to Toronto so we can meet. Who's gonna spend money on flights on someone you've never met and you don't even know if there's any chemistry?

I tell them to approach somebody from smaller towns where there aren't as many options as Toronto.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

SDM is not a bad platform. Works out to about $70 CAD/mo. I went to cancel my Seeking and they offered me a 20% discount. So the discount is there. It's still $150 CAD/mo or so for Seeking. The girls on SDM are a little less high quality than Seeking. Oddly, they seem a little more delusional. I think this is due to the chat box where they can communicate with each other. One 19 year old thought she was gonna get $900 ppm. lol

But overall, lots of good, average looking girls that can do $300-400 ppm.

One thing I didn't anticipate was the number of girls that vanished between Dec 30-31 and Jan 1-2. I guess they felt guilty with their level of naughtiness?

And of course you're right Leimonis, $400 is not exactly top of the line in terms of paid sex. But there are still plenty of girls out there that will ask you to pay for drinks or transportation and that's it. Get 10-15 convos going and you have something that will work out there.

That’s interesting about SDM when I joined there and burned through credits (before it was a monthly fee) I felt the vibe was a bit worse than the other one I’ve used. What I did like is that there are some girls on more than one platform and you can get a better idea of what they look like on SDM from what I’ve found.

I kind of feel badly for the girls that think they’ll get that much to meet up but at the same time there ARE guys that will drop that kind of coin. Actually I’ve spent quite a bit a few times just helping the odd girl. Obviously I never let them know I’ve done that but I can think of at least a couple of girls I’ve e-transferred over $1k to help them out because they were in a legit bind. I know how crazy that is but I guess it’s fulfilling.

 

[Leimonis]

Actually I’ve spent quite a bit a few times just helping the odd girl. Obviously I never let them know I’ve done that but I can think of at least a couple of girls I’ve e-transferred over $1k to help them out because they were in a legit bind. I know how crazy that is but I guess it’s fulfilling.

Plot twist: Imagine if one of those profiles was actually a fellow terbite who then turned around and spent that money on squeezing last bit of juice from young desperate pussies for the absolute minimal payment

 

[that6969]

If you sent funds because you felt for them based on their situation then that's fine long as you felt good inside sending whatever amount. I've done it with maybe 2 or 3 women my entire life just sending a hundred or so at most than $1K especially if they have kids and are in a bind. I don't think I'll check out the SD/SB scene again. A lot just want too much for what you get typically and I don't have the pockets to burn money like that right now. The few I seen were under the $200 PPM. For a few it's their only means of income like a SP and if they find 2 or 3 decent SDs they are set for a while. But once again keep your heart out of it and stuff. Most times it's an act they do and don't see you the way you think they do. It's just business.

 

[waxtrax]

Do the girls still insist on money on the first meet and greet? I can’t even get past that lol

 

[that6969]

It depends on what they want. I openly discuss stuff before meeting up so you're on the same page. Some will even have sex on the first meet similar to seeing a SP of course. Some also aren't in it for sex and will let you know they just want friendship/platonic.

 

[shack]

Do the girls still insist on money on the first meet and greet? I can’t even get past that lol

They are in no position to insist. They can be stubborn but they can't insist. He who pays the piper, calls the tune.

 

[shack]

Have any of you had a SB that was married and her husband didn't know?

I think that'd be hot. Somewhat dangerous but hot.

 

[Leimonis]

Have any of you had a SB that was married and her husband didn't know?

I think that'd be hot. Somewhat dangerous but hot.

what's hotter than to bet whose dentist will eventually be happier - yours or the husband's?

 

[GeeBee]

Have any of you had a SB that was married and her husband didn't know?

I think that'd be hot. Somewhat dangerous but hot.

The closest I’ve been is a MILF who’s husband vaguely new that his wife saw other guys sometimes to fill the itch that he couldn’t. She was out for the night and it was all he needed to know. He didn’t know specifics and certainly didn’t know she was banging me for money. It had the hot factor of screwing an attractive married woman, but a little less on the danger front.

 

[dchoye]

I had one SB that told me she has a steady BF
The BF lives in another city and they videochat every day
She told her BF she on seeking and meeting older, generous dudes and he doesn’t approve 🫣

 

[that6969]

That'll probably end in a heartbreak for one of them. He clearly isn't into poly and she is if she's doing other guys. And it doesn't seem like he can afford her lifestyle. After a while someone usually finds someone new and who'll fulfill the lifestyle they dreamed of. Doesn't always work that way, but good chance it wouldn't work out with them if one person isn't on board.