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All you single guys getting up there in age, whats your future marriage plans?

NotADcotor

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Six of them had well paying jobs, 2 were retired. The problem with all of them was their relentless spending, when you have 70 grand in credit card debt, have 80 pairs of shoes(seriously), crushingly large car leases and huge rents and dining out and $$drinking$$, financial problems erupt. Something else...all but one had adult children that were a never ending financial drain, money, money all the time. Color me gone for keeps.
I am pretty hard up and desperate but I would never take a full time job to pay for some chick's financial retardation. Fuck that.
 

SexB

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I find that the ladies that are attracted to me are in their 40's, Asian women seem to love me - I am a white guy with a solid dad body - bald with a goatee - when I was the apps it was awesome but a lot crazy out there
One lady I see told me that if I ever go to China, I would be very popular! She's even said that she tells people I'm her "hot guy" client.

Though from what I've heard if you ever go to parts of Asia and SEA, like Thailand and the Philippines, and either go on hook-up apps or go to see SWs, bring condoms! Apparently sex ed and birth control use over there is non-existent plus HIV is rampant.

Though from what I've also seen, you shouldn't believe what you read in blogs, on Reddit and see in porn videos. In the case of the latter, the performers are thoroughly tested and in reality, you'll be asked to use protection.
 
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xmontrealer

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I'm in a similar position. Mid 30s, good paying job with great career prospects, but never settled down for a variety of reasons. You mention that married people seem miserable, and I think a lot of that stems from the fact that they got married for the wrong reasons. They got married because they didn't want to go through life alone, they wanted a family and that stereotypical life. When, personally, I believe you should only get married if and only if you find the right partner to do it with. It's a tricky thing, because the clock works against us, especially for women, but forcing it can lead to those unhappy and unfulfilling marriages. It's even trickier because modern day life does not suit married life well, with a bunch of added stresses that can put strain on a marriage.

The fact you say you wouldn't be able to stay faithful, or that you're worried about getting bored of one another, tells me you've not yet met the right one for you. Because when you meet someone compatible on a such a deep level, boredom is never an issue.

You sound like you are on the verge of getting tired of that bachelor life, and may be looking for a longer term partner. That's a good thing. Just be open to it and let it happen. Whatever you do, don't just go looking for a woman because you want the long-term company of marriage, or to raise a family. You have to choose the woman, not the life. The rest will come natural. Good luck!
A saying I once heard that seems to ring true:

"Women marry men thinking they can change them into their ideal man. Men marry women thinking they are perfect just as they are and will never change. Both are in store for serious disappointments."
 

superstar_88

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I dont know how you can live on 40K a year. Are you talking after tax 40K? Also do you own your house and have no debt?
Net 40K total expenses. Rest goes to savings and investments. Obviously no mortgage. Home fully paid off. Obviously no debt if I have excess for savings and investments.
 
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Y_Diner

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If you want to settle down marry an ugly unattractive woman that’ll treat you right or someone that you are not nuts over.
Just that you like/ love enough.
Or just focus on yourself stay healthy sane and become very successful. Put you first always.
Most to all women never put their man/men first, second or even third.
 

xmontrealer

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Net 40K total expenses. Rest goes to savings and investments. Obviously no mortgage. Home fully paid off. Obviously no debt if I have excess for savings and investments.
Hence "The Chiseler". More power to you if you want to get married some day and can find a woman compatible with your lifestyle and spending philosophy. They are out there, just not that many...
 
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Y_Diner

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I had similar experiences. This is what I’ve been telling my parents. It’s hard to build a life with a woman in this part of the world. The whole ‘boss bitch’ mentality isn’t good. Instead of competing with men, why not each person play their role and work together as complementary opposites? Anyway, I 100% understand your experience bc I went through something similar. Being single as a man is just a lot less friction in life. It’s more peaceful.
Not hating on women of course but the boss bitch mentality is prevalent accompanied by selfishness greed and at time narcissistic behaviour.
A lot of these are from internal and external factors. Shame that so many men messed up many woman. And many women messed up so many men. We men also not without our issues and problems I guess.
 
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If you want to settle down marry an ugly unattractive woman that’ll treat you right or someone that you are not nuts over.
Just that you like/ love enough.
Or just focus on yourself stay healthy sane and become very successful. Put you first always.
Most to all women never put their man/men first, second or even third.
That's right. Unlike their kids, we will never be their flesh and blood.
I guess men get too emotional.
 

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Why don't you guys find an extremely attractive local Canadian women that has a good job and earns more than you so if God forbid, you guys separate, you'd at least walk away with half her money? (It works both ways, just ensure you make less than her). There problem solved.
 
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jeff2

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Why don't you guys find an extremely attractive local Canadian women that has a good job and earns more than you so if God forbid, you guys separate, you'd at least walk away with half her money? (It works both ways, just ensure you make less than her). There problem solved.
Those women usually do not want men that earn less than them. It goes against evolution.
That is why we are at a record number of people living alone.
 

Butler1000

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Why don't you guys find an extremely attractive local Canadian women that has a good job and earns more than you so if God forbid, you guys separate, you'd at least walk away with half her money? (It works both ways, just ensure you make less than her). There problem solved.
Mine does earn more than me now. And we have joked about this. But she also considers me indispensable for a variety of reasons. She gets what it means to have a "man around the house" to take care of shit.

Cripes I just installed a new dryer hose. And had to diy some of it to make it work. She knows both what labour costs are and convenience it is. And she as well has her indispensable qualities.

We have also seen what divorce costs. Especially in older couples.
 

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Why don't you guys find an extremely attractive local Canadian women that has a good job and earns more than you so if God forbid, you guys separate, you'd at least walk away with half her money? (It works both ways, just ensure you make less than her). There problem solved.
Any woman who’s ever been both interested in me and earns more than me has been ugly and fat.
SP bookings win again:ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:
 

xix

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Six of them had well paying jobs, 2 were retired. The problem with all of them was their relentless spending, when you have 70 grand in credit card debt, have 80 pairs of shoes(seriously), crushingly large car leases and huge rents and dining out and $$drinking$$, financial problems erupt. Something else...all but one had adult children that were a never ending financial drain, money, money all the time. Color me gone for keeps.
I believe it, I heard from other guys same stories - like 9 stories, now these guys are in their 65+ and happily single.

That sounds unbelievable (except the shoes part). But I will take your word for it. Eventually you miss a payment and... They take your car away lol.
There is a limit on CC - like they let you spend 20k - while making the minimum payment and stop you from there. Then women get another CC - from another company and try to use that card to pay off the previous card. You think the CC would report your to the Credit Bureau but they don't. I think the Gov't wants this to happen.

But the above women are women who can't handle money - their brain is wired to spend - met a few. They are a special group whether they make 36k or 120k a year, it is a disease.

Any woman who’s ever been both interested in me and earns more than me has been ugly and fat.
I met nice 7/10 women more money or to much, but they were covert narcissist. Just wanting a supply / source/sucker to dump their mental issues for a year but I walked way before that. Also I noticed they are borderline nympho or sex addicts but the sex after 3 months just crashes and burns. No MORE.
 
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Kurt

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Somewhere between here and there
One lady I see told me that if I ever go to China, I would be very popular! She's even said that she tells people I'm her "hot guy" client.

Though from what I've heard if you ever go to parts of Asia and SEA, like Thailand and the Philippines, and either go on hook-up apps or go to see SWs, bring condoms! Apparently sex ed and birth control use over there is non-existent plus HIV is rampant.

Though from what I've also seen, you shouldn't believe what you read in blogs, on Reddit and see in porn videos. In the case of the latter, the performers are thoroughly tested and in reality, you'll be asked to use protection.
I was able to hook up with many married Chinese women on Tinder - they even paid for the hotel on some occasions - lots of money just Husband that were not attracted to them and one told me her husband spend lots of money on SW - they ended up being open to anything. Not always great sex but good times.
 
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xix

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I was able to hook up with many married Chinese women on Tinder - they even paid for the hotel on some occasions - lots of money just Husband that were not attracted to them and one told me her husband spend lots of money on SW - they ended up being open to anything. Not always great sex but good times.
Wow, I heard a similar story of guy at my work, he is gone now. The gist was and this happen when 2000's lavalife when people were using PC's.
He started with white women, fun the first 4 months, then dry spell, extend search for all white women and nothing. Then he switch profile for Asian women. He got hit every other night with different women, young and old but he had different partners every other night. Then he left work. I would love to find that guy and hear his stories. He was a 4/10 guy.
 

Mr.lover

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there are many types of people. some are leaders, some followers and some seek a balance or shared role in a relationship.

know who you are as a person and finds someone who compliments you.
At least we agreed on this and this is what I meant when I say your spouse needs to share your perspectives.


there is only one captain of a ship. having more then one captain leads to confusion and difficulties.
Actually that is the reason for most divorce. Most marriages that work, work because both share responsibilities and decision making. By saying one captain, it infers 1 decision maker. How many times have you heard the complaint, "did you not think to ask me before you _________"
 

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Not hating on women of course but the boss bitch mentality is prevalent accompanied by selfishness greed and at time narcissistic behaviour.
A lot of these are from internal and external factors. Shame that so many men messed up many woman. And many women messed up so many men. We men also not without our issues and problems I guess.
It’s all the BS propaganda that’s being fed to women & men through the decades. I’ll leave it at that and won’t expand too much lol
 

SexB

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I was able to hook up with many married Chinese women on Tinder - they even paid for the hotel on some occasions - lots of money just Husband that were not attracted to them and one told me her husband spend lots of money on SW - they ended up being open to anything. Not always great sex but good times.
I used to post casual encounter ads on Craigslist and for the most part, it was a huge waste of time but I did receive a response from a woman who said she had been given a "hall pass" by her husband to find a FWB.

We made plans to meet for coffee or a drink then, presumably, head back to her place for naked fun times if we hit it off but it never panned out. The main reason I went in for it was regular NSA sex but at the same time, knowing I would have been fucking a married woman with her husband's knowledge, consent and approval was a big part of the appeal.
 

xix

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A saying I once heard that seems to ring true:

"Women marry men thinking they can change them into their ideal man. Men marry women thinking they are perfect just as they are and will never change. Both are in store for serious disappointments."
Yeah once women change men, they walk away because he is not the men she first originally met. - SHE is the one who changed him. SO to me she didn't want to be in the relationship.
 
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xix

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Not hating on women of course but the boss bitch mentality is prevalent accompanied by selfishness greed and at time narcissistic behaviour.
A lot of these are from internal and external factors. Shame that so many men messed up many woman. And many women messed up so many men. We men also not without our issues and problems I guess.
A lot is said here.
SO men messed women up if they left them, or divorced women and women mess up their sons because their husbands left them - even if she left him, she messed up her children.

So the cycle of insanity lies on both genders. Both genders should really find themselves and work on themselves and stop listening to the extreme feminist's nut jobs.
 
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