I'm 35 now, spring and summer is coming up and I'm starting to feel a bit of anxiety about the rest of my life in terms of marriage and kids. I've just been having fun up to this point, but the years have crept up on me.
I'm not even sure I want marriage and a kids but I wouldnt want to be alone the rest of my life either.
You are at the Apex of you life, single for life, Single on/off women - Marriage for life or Divorce at some time in life.
DO some meditation, see a divine reader, hopefully you already found yourself. Drinking is not finding yourself. Nobody wants to marry a drunk.
You should ask married men who are your age, or younger men also ask married men who are 50 ; 60 70 and 80 and see what they say or think about their marriage.
Do the same for men who are single at 21 ; 28; 35; 40 ; 45; 50 ; 52+ and also ask the divorce men. NEVER ask the women unless she is 65+ widow/divorce she might tell you some nice insights.
Now you will get different answers depending on their income level or success in life, experiences in life, where they lived or are born and lived here . The above should give you a gauge to where you want to be.
BUT I will tell you this most women after 35 mainly divorced ( single are half of this almost) just want three things in a men,
Money (
ATM) , Emotional dumping and Validation. (( Validation and logic thinking and advice are not the same. Validation is avoiding the truth in life). IF you can give that and not expect anything in return and most likely expect to loose your shirt along the way; go for marriage. IF you are Sigma and you hook up and make the woman pay their share then you will know if it is just FWB /
$EV or if they stay then it could be a real serious relationship.
IF she has children and you don't meet them(kids), it is FWB. Don't fall for the
$EV syndrome run or your brain will hurt once dumped and don't do her any favors because after that she is force to dump you and you will cry for a year. Women after 35 when they give you problems in a relationship or during courting for no reasons, are just Narcs and want to be dumped by you. It's all about status symbol for her friends. Most groups of women I described above are women with money or making good money, few have neurological problems, many no money at all - no or hardly any CPP or RRSP.
Now women who didn't make money or some like the average Jane and are mature will try to get married at 35+ - most likely no kids, but her past is very sketchy, on most of them, most will lie, if they tell you the truth that is nice. The only way to know if true, as mention above you need a 3 - 5 divine readers to confirm your suspicion, check for Alpha widow syndrome, check to see if she has forgiven her past relationships, if not run. But they also want a loyal man.
IF you get married or not and have kids --------- HAVE DNA TESTING ----------- done. No excuse.
I hope this helps.
