Anyone ever catch feelings for a provider?

[Sixx25]

This has happened and the feelings were mutual. We were sympatico when together alone but inhabited completely different worlds in regard to family and social circles. I went cold turkey and stopped seeing her. She was pretty frantic and called and texted. After a while she backed Off. I felt terrible afterward and still think of her all the time. She is a gem.

How do you know the feelings were mutual, before you went cold turkey and stopped seeing her? In other words, how did you know her feelings were genuine and she wasn't just going along with it to keep you as a client? Why stop seeing her if you like her?

 

[Modernman]

I’ve been a victim of this myself. Had to cut back dramatically on seeing one of my regulars for this reason.

 

[krealtarron]

I used to catch feelings on the regular. But I always put myself in a BF's shoes and re-evaluate if it will work. I find in almost all cases it actually wouldn't. Either because the provider's health or other situation isn't something I am willing to be a part of, or because the provider itself doesn't yet have her shit together to start something like a relationship (my needs are long term relationships, not a fling), or because her lifestyle isn't for me (poly providers). Most importantly I have also realized that the majority of the time the feelings I catch are just amplified lust, not love. So am at a place now, where I dont feel those things at all. I strictly just wanna have fun.

 

[scarecrow119]

I can honestly say, for me, the feelings are a big part of it. I would not call it love, but a chemistry that is more than physical. I have a regular provider that I make a point of not seeing too often lest I get confused and think of it as something more than it is. We both like each other, and I assume she likes spending time with me, but at the end of the day we live in different worlds and lead different lives. I do have to say, I was quite flattered that she was miffed at me for not reaching out during the pandemic, when I didn't book for a year. It never crossed my mind to just reach out without the intention of booking.

 

[terbcc098]

This thread doesn’t bring up good memories lol

 

[Pir8pete2]

Just wondering and what did you do? The moment feels so real I almost forget I exchanged money for a service.

I've seen this time and time again, poor guys get heart broken

For one doing this type of thing "hobbying" as you guys call it, meeting a girl this way for an actual real relationship is the wrong time and place, but in a reality environment ppl forget.

Girls plays along for the money, it's always and only about the money! If you find that "diamond if the rough" guaranteed she already has a man standing beside her

You need to go into this as it's a fantasy and not let it pass to your reality. Not only will you be heart broken but so will your bank.

 

[terbcc098]

I've seen this time and time again, poor guys get heart broken

Ya I took it as an important learning lesson. An expensive one, but an important one. Much smarter now.

 

[Sixx25]

Yup.

Glad to see I'm not the only one. As I'm new to this hobby, I fell hard for a SP that I frequented several times. Loved the attention, service and talking when I was with her. Once out the door, I was just a number to her. Took me a while to figure it out though. Slightly mislead by her but she was playing the part. Can't hold it up against her. Loved every minute I spent with her.

I guess the only thing left is for me to move on and play the field.

Why did you stop seeing her? Did you want her to have feelings for you too? But because her feelings weren't the same as yours, you decided to stop seeing her?

 

[faveone]

Just wondering and what did you do? The moment feels so real I almost forget I exchanged money for a service.

has anyone ever fallen in love after getting laid by a cute young thing? Naw, never happens!

But if it does, as soon as your bank account is empty you won't be in love any more!

 

[John_Jacob]

I have recently dealt with this issue where a client felt entitled to certain things such as my personal life, addressing me by my real name (after I was outed), confronting me face to face with extremely uncomfortable questions after our sessions were over, obsessively following me on social media, etc...

He has had multiple warnings including being cut off for months. Not much has changed. So yes, I have been very assertive with him.

When I recently suggested over text (after another awkward face to face confrontation, this time about making my Twitter private) he improve his social life, maybe start dating and stop focusing so much on me, this was his response:

"That would be a bad business decision tho not saying you rely on me for income but I do provide a good chunk of extra money my buddy always tells me that he will give me the same companionship for less, maybe I'll have to explore my options "

This type of comment is HURTFUL, as though I am not EARNING my INCOME by giving myself physically and mentally to him. My clients do not PROVIDE for me, I WORK to EARN my OWN INCOME. I "provide a good chunk of extra money" for myself.

This is a great example of a client feeling entitled. The stupid smiley faces just made it worse, like it is a joke to him.

Don't be this guy.

I own a serviced based business and there are ALWAYS people who aren't happy with the described service for the described price and want more. Discounts, more time, more of this & that. Make up situations or just lie. All under the existing contract. It doesn't matter what you do. It just doesn't. They're not worth it. Every year I give myself a Christmas present by getting rid of a client. I have no idea how much it hurts me $ or not but it's a hell of a lot less stressful and allows me to focus on the clients that do provide most of my revenue.

 

[John_Jacob]

has anyone ever fallen in love after getting laid by a cute young thing? Naw, never happens!

But if it does, as soon as your bank account is empty you won't be in love any more!

ya, it's called "old man syndrome". It happens too often for comfort.

 

[William St]

Just wondering and what did you do? The moment feels so real I almost forget I exchanged money for a service.

A few that I've felt really comfortable with, like we clicked well personally and sexually. But I keep my objectivity and recall that in the end she's providing a service that I'm paying her well for.

 

[Sixx25]

I can honestly say, for me, the feelings are a big part of it. I would not call it love, but a chemistry that is more than physical. I have a regular provider that I make a point of not seeing too often lest I get confused and think of it as something more than it is. We both like each other, and I assume she likes spending time with me, but at the end of the day we live in different worlds and lead different lives. I do have to say, I was quite flattered that she was miffed at me for not reaching out during the pandemic, when I didn't book for a year. It never crossed my mind to just reach out without the intention of booking.

Why didn't she reach out to you during the pandemic? She could have done so, right?

 

[Horndog1]

Omg yes I have twice for the same provider!, very well known provider I might add lol
Things were great but we always found money or trust to be an issue, I still have feelings for her but haven’t talked to her for about a year which is probably the best thing to do
What a woman

 

[scarecrow119]

Why didn't she reach out to you during the pandemic? She could have done so, right?

True, she could have. However, my understanding is that it is generally against protocol for providers to send unsolicited messages to clients.

 

[jazzbox]

How do you know the feelings were mutual, before you went cold turkey and stopped seeing her? In other words, how did you know her feelings were genuine and she wasn't just going along with it to keep you as a client? Why stop seeing her if you like her?

She told me flat out without any prompt. Invited me to her place for dinner and playtime off the meter. Wanted to play au naturale…etc. I stopped because, while we had feelings for each other, our difference in age, social circles and professional lives made it improbable it would survive in the long run.

 

[BootyLoving]

I hope every had feelings with their provider. Good feeling ideally.

 

[91CelicaGTS]

I have once, and it became a friends with benefits kind of thing for a couple of years. We enjoyed hanging out and the sex was great, but we were so different in different worlds that it would never work. Luckily, she moved away and haven't really seen her for a couple of years. But I saw her as a client for maybe 6-8 years before we became fwb.

 

[raegae2000]

I miss Selena from alpha we bonded well.

 

[snagglepuss]

I miss Selena from alpha we bonded well.

you''re not the only one i'm sure..she was something else,,