Anyone ever catch feelings for a provider?
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Twice developed close feelings. And both time the girl took me out for dinner. And both times it turned out they wanted me in a sugar daddy relationship.
Both time it was really hard to turn them down but I had too. It lead to me not booking them anymore and pissed them off completely...
It's a very common pattern for escort to decide of one (or 2) client to sugar daddy them. I know of a few that turned out very well. And that's great.
If you do developed something similar do like me and ask them frankly what they are looking for. It might work but be sure to know their intention.
Both time it was really hard to turn them down but I had too. It lead to me not booking them anymore and pissed them off completely...
It's a very common pattern for escort to decide of one (or 2) client to sugar daddy them. I know of a few that turned out very well. And that's great.
If you do developed something similar do like me and ask them frankly what they are looking for. It might work but be sure to know their intention.
Remember it’s a business transaction. Just like you can be friendly with your barber, mechanic, etc, even share common interests, it’s first a business relationship. It’s great if you find someone you connect with, that adds to the fun and the enjoyment. But 99% of the time, if you are developing real feelings for them, it’s not mutual. That’s just the way it is. If you can’t keep those thoughts/ feelings in check, then do both of you a favour and move on.
Have I developed feelings for someone in this industry. I’ve developed a real fondness for a few,where I enjoy the company as much as the sex, and the feeling is mutual.Only once did I catch myself falling deeper with a dancer back
In the early 00’s. We really hit it off, both physically and not, and we’d spend a couple hours in the VIP making out etc, often for little charge. I’d be there a couple times a week. She eventually brought things down to earth, and said we could either take things back to a friendly business relationship or stop all together. She said it was very unlikely we’d end up together, (given our different circumstances) and she’d rather not pursue a dead end like this. (And if there was no endgame, I was costing her money by meeting her to play while she was at work). That brought reality back, and it was a bit tough, but it was right.
If you can enjoy those type of extra connections you get with a paid companion, without falling for them, you’ve hit the jackpot. It makes a meet so much more fun and satisfying. But if you can’t keep those feelings in check, you are more likely than not to lose her, or worse, get taken for a ride (a financial one,not the good kind).
I've been in a relationship with one for 6months until she finished schooling. Of course, I should have been more careful with our words during the relationship and we didn't see eye to eye on a family, etc since she didn't want kids. Been in a similar relationship though this one was far more special and bloomed nicely. You need to know what you both want in the beginning, after a few times of meeting, you should ask her about her future and other things like wanting kids, where would they like to live, their love language, things like that, and never forget that it should be a give and take relationship. Both partners should be taking care of each other and gifts from time to time. Trust your gut on things. You can't change people and you may not both be ready now either, be patient.
What do you do? Nothing - enjoy it for what it is. Where guys seem to get in trouble is when they convince themselves it's something that it isn't.
If you mean that you are feeling too attached or immersed in one situation, I think the most practical advice is to go see someone else.
This just means that the provider you're seeing is very good at her job, so keep going to see her!
But remember to respect the boundaries of this type of transactional relationship also and not to try and bring in extra feelings into it since that can make things messy and uncomfortable very quick for both parties.
Just have fun and enjoy yourself without any strings attached, that's the whole point to these dates!
The answer is yes, it's happened... twice actually. My advice is enjoy the good times
sounds like a doctor visit may be a good idea, then, as they most likely have meds to clear that kind of stuff up ! 
Of course she'll play along!
She won't run the risk of starting a rift between herself and a regular she likes. It's her way to earn a living, remember?
If she doesn't want your money for sex any more and still wants to see you, that's a good premise to assume she's got feelings for you. And if you have a SO and a life of your own, you're in deep shit, man!
Yeah I developed feelings for a MA a few years back. She said Yes to go out on a date, and then cancelled at the last minute. I went to see her and she told me she met someone else, on the very same day of the date.
Whether that was true or bs, I got the message, and never saw her again. I still remember fondly the quality sessions we had together, but I moved on and never looked back.
I think it's ok to have feelings with a provider you connect well with, but really ask yourself if those feelings are based on the fantasy or reality you have of her.
More often than not, it's the former.
Whether that was true or bs, I got the message, and never saw her again. I still remember fondly the quality sessions we had together, but I moved on and never looked back.
I think it's ok to have feelings with a provider you connect well with, but really ask yourself if those feelings are based on the fantasy or reality you have of her.
More often than not, it's the former.
Never. I don’t think it would be possible due to the money exchange.
Yup.
Glad to see I'm not the only one. As I'm new to this hobby, I fell hard for a SP that I frequented several times. Loved the attention, service and talking when I was with her. Once out the door, I was just a number to her. Took me a while to figure it out though. Slightly mislead by her but she was playing the part. Can't hold it up against her. Loved every minute I spent with her.
I guess the only thing left is for me to move on and play the field.
Glad to see I'm not the only one. As I'm new to this hobby, I fell hard for a SP that I frequented several times. Loved the attention, service and talking when I was with her. Once out the door, I was just a number to her. Took me a while to figure it out though. Slightly mislead by her but she was playing the part. Can't hold it up against her. Loved every minute I spent with her.
I guess the only thing left is for me to move on and play the field.
As a provider , my personal perspective on the topic is that if a client would tell me that he’s starting to catch feeling for me , I would feel very awkward. I would be blunt and clear about my limits and the fact that it’s not a possibility for me to share that kind of level of intimacy with a client and I would be honest and tell him that I prefer him to see an other provider. I’m not about those games where I am taking the most money I can from a guy while playing his heart. It’s just not in me. I would feel horrible. I like when things are clear.
I feel that If I would keep seeing him it would probably hurt him more so sometimes , a little break helps refocusing a heart somewhere else.
That’s my way of seeing things , but some providers might see it differently.
Kisses
Ali
I feel that If I would keep seeing him it would probably hurt him more so sometimes , a little break helps refocusing a heart somewhere else.
That’s my way of seeing things , but some providers might see it differently.
Kisses
Ali
About 6 years ago an escort (won't mention who) fell for me.
Of course with the male ego, I was all for it, and it only lasted about 3 months. She turned out to be a nutcase, and haven't communicated with her since.
Like others, I've been ripped off by a couple, and never again will I go through that
Like others have mentioned, it's a transaction, and it's not a good idea for most to fall for them. Even vice versa, chances are slim that it will last long.
Again, as others have said, majority only want your money, and they'll be all nice and clingy at times to make you come back as often as possible.
I learned my lesson, and no matter how much you click with an escort or MA, you have to remember that it's a transaction, your paying for their time
I've heard for some it works out, and all the power to them, but for most it doesn't work out
I totally respect women in this industry for the most part, (except for the ones that took advantage of me) and some clients think it's love, but it isn't for most.
It's also tough for hobbyists who have been ripped off to call them out on it. Most will say, "Just move on", but for some it's very difficult to let it go, and others will gang up on you for calling them out. But if it's the other way around, where a client rips off an escort, he's blacklisted and it gets spread around quickly.
I've NEVER ripped off a woman in this industry, not my style nor why I do this hobby
Of course with the male ego, I was all for it, and it only lasted about 3 months. She turned out to be a nutcase, and haven't communicated with her since.
Like others, I've been ripped off by a couple, and never again will I go through that
Like others have mentioned, it's a transaction, and it's not a good idea for most to fall for them. Even vice versa, chances are slim that it will last long.
Again, as others have said, majority only want your money, and they'll be all nice and clingy at times to make you come back as often as possible.
I learned my lesson, and no matter how much you click with an escort or MA, you have to remember that it's a transaction, your paying for their time
I've heard for some it works out, and all the power to them, but for most it doesn't work out
I totally respect women in this industry for the most part, (except for the ones that took advantage of me) and some clients think it's love, but it isn't for most.
It's also tough for hobbyists who have been ripped off to call them out on it. Most will say, "Just move on", but for some it's very difficult to let it go, and others will gang up on you for calling them out. But if it's the other way around, where a client rips off an escort, he's blacklisted and it gets spread around quickly.
I've NEVER ripped off a woman in this industry, not my style nor why I do this hobby
This hobby is like playing russian roulette with your heart. The more often you see the same girl the more chances to fall under a spell. Literally it’s the small head taking over the sex and money decisions in your head.
women’s odds of falling in love is 1/1,000,000*
man’s odd of falling in love: 1/10*
* = statistic i just made up
women’s odds of falling in love is 1/1,000,000*
man’s odd of falling in love: 1/10*
* = statistic i just made up
You do nothing. If she is interested you will find out. Good sexual chemistry happens and it's great. Just wait!
