We’re these girls somewhat realistic? I mean I’m a 50 year old somewhat overweight guy. If a drop dead gorgeous 25 year old girl comes on to me….. I bet it’s money she’s after. On the other hand, I don’t think I’m ugly, and I can be a nice guy…. I can believe I’ve had a good personal connection with a 45 year old provider that happened to match personalities with me. I have gone out with a couple girls casually.
That's a good question...
they seemed very realistic to me but I'm fairly new to the hobby and some vets scoff at me via PM at how naive I was. Maybe you could help me out more than I can help you out, (if others could, please do as well, as I have no idea what i did wrong...)
I'm not young - divorced, single dad, early-40s, perhaps a bit more fit than the average 'dad bod' but nothing crazy, 'fun-sized' endowment, not 'perfectly white'. these 2 girls are both 21 to 25 y.o. STRAIGHT UP DIMES - NO CAP - SP#1 white girl, SP#2 latina - different agencies. Upon my divorce, I started in the hobby, and SP #1 was the first SP after ~5 bookings that I really thought was hot; I was ready to quit the hobby if I hadn't met her. SP#2 I saw when #1 was on her period, and by chance, she happened to be a unicorn as well...
Even in hindsight, it seemed real in both cases. They both were the ones who initiated meeting outside of work, and in both instances, I initially rejected the notion. They both gave me details about our dates...in both cases, the dates were completely unsolicited by me. I reflected on this a lot to see if I was out of line, and in both instances, I don't know how they could have expected me to have reacted any differently.....
In real life, SP#1 didn't suggest Indian Food. She repeatedly said we should "go out for Sushi" even though I never said I liked Sushi (I suppose she does?). The first few times she mentioned it, I completely
ignored her comments. She kept mentioning it, so instead of ignoring it, I
dismissed it and say, "I don't think you mean it" or "You say that to everyone..." In hindsight, it seemed like she wanted to prove that she meant it so she gave me her real full name and number shortly after...I half-jokingly said, "I'm going to cry" when she told me her number. I don't know how she can claim we were only going to "go out as friends". This is what she got mad about later on, she said, she expected me to be "adults about it" and just have lunch even though she was repeatedly whispering sweet-nothings to me over and over again (I told her I knew she was just doing her job, she said she repeatedly said 'no', and that she didn't say it to other guys and she really meant it).
SP #2 gave me an exact weekend that I would take her out to a specific location (a Turkish spa downtown). She told me that she usually takes Uber...but on the date, I'd have to pick her up/drop her off from her home. All those details were her ideas, not mine.
i really wonder what is real/not; and what they say to other people. They both seem picky about clients (based on experience, conversations, and comparing my mileage to other reviews).
As mentioned by another member, each situation is different.....I agree....at the same time, IMO, I think neither of the 2 SPs that did this to me really realized what they were doing. Maybe to them, they meant what they said on-duty, but then clocked out and they no longer felt what they said in the moment.
SP #1 completely blamed me entirely even though she was the one who initiated meeting/contacting each other outside of work. I would have been perfectly okay with having a professional relationship but she kept pushing the extracurricular stuff until I got excited that it would happen. Then when I got excited about it, she thinks I'm crazy.... She literally told me to text her any time the last session I saw her, then when I did, she replied, "Who's this?" That's when I told her off, and then she told me off in return...bridge burned. I'm over it and don't care - I've been thru much much worse - divorce, abortion, etc.... We both have personal details about each other so if we wanted to destroy each other, we would have done it already.
SP #2 gave a half-assed apology which I was okay with...after losing SP #1, I didn't want to push too hard for a real one. We just agreed to have a business relationship, which was the best situation for the both of us. She's my current fav (she knows my handle and pretty sure she cyberstalks me....luv you so much mamacita!), and I'll keep seeing her - although I won't tip or give presents anymore...no point in being nice when it's only business.
Lessons Learned for:
Johns (even if you're 40+): you're still naive, and these young 'uns are pros....they're still playing you whether they/you realize it or not.
Super hot 20-something y.o. dimes: someone could be a lot older than you and still be a rookie and not realize that what you're doing is "part of the game".
