Anyone have experience with Sugar Baby relationships?

[shack]

I'm primarily going down the SB route because of the $$ saved.

I just got home from a 5 hour date, which was $450 (including cost of lunch). She looks similar to Cindy from JG (check my posts for my review on her), basically curvy hourglass with natural DDDs. Lunch was 1.5 hours and play was 3.5 hours, which is basically how I would've spent 5 hours with an SP anyways. Except.. 5 hours from JG is $1000 (without food).

As far as sex goes, BBBJ was decent, DFK was good and everything else was great. Experience was similar to meeting a new SP to the industry, except with more intimacy since emotion is on the table as well.

Maybe I got lucky for my first date but if all the other girls are like this, SB is a very viable option for me...

NOTE: While I did save $$, I had to instead spend a lot of time texting back and forth, meeting for coffee first, etc. In the end, I think it was worth it though.

One aspect as yet unmentioned.

With an SP as long as you are not a total dickhead and you are fairly clean you are pretty much guaranteed to have sex.

There is definitely more uncertainty in that regard when it comes to first meeting a SB. You have to be a bit more on your game as she is checking you out. As such there is more excitement built up because of the anticipation/uncertainty. There is a bit more satisfaction in knowing you passed whatever her screening process is. A little more like going on a real date.

 

[ExoticCharmer]

EC, I don't think the 'cheaper' SB route is a ready option.

I will be post an update after tomorrow, I have 6 coffee dates lined up. All of them are attractive from the pictures that I've seen and have chemistry with me since I've been texting them already. As long as they look like their pictures and aren't bitchy in real life, then I will beg to differ.

With an SP as long as you are not a total dickhead and you are fairly clean you are pretty much guaranteed to have sex.

I stated my intentions from the get go, so sex should be on the table for me. Whether or not, it's good sex is up for debate but that's the case with unknown SPs as well.

 

[ExoticCharmer]

I will be post an update after tomorrow, I have 6 coffee dates lined up.

I should note at this point, I've already met up with 4 girls. I only followed through with 1 girl so far (posted above), I've scheduled a 'first date' with one other girl for next weekend. The other 2 had a princess attitude, they didn't give me the opportunity to discover this through texting as they insisted on meeting for coffee first...

There is definitely more uncertainty in that regard when it comes to first meeting a SB. You have to be a bit more on your game as she is checking you out. As such there is more excitement built up because of the anticipation/uncertainty. There is a bit more satisfaction in knowing you passed whatever her screening process is. A little more like going on a real date.

Shack brings up a good point. Just because you like the girl, doesn't mean she likes you. There's a whole process to this, very similar to dating.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I should note at this point, I've already met up with 4 girls. I only followed through with 1 girl so far (posted above), I've scheduled a 'first date' with one other girl for next weekend. The other 2 had a princess attitude, they didn't give me the opportunity to discover this through texting as they insisted on meeting for coffee first...

Are you using online dating services?

 

[ExoticCharmer]

Are you using online dating services?

Seeking Arrangements

 

[roger20]

With an SP as long as you are not a total dickhead and you are fairly clean you are pretty much guaranteed to have sex.

There is definitely more uncertainty in that regard when it comes to first meeting a SB. You have to be a bit more on your game as she is checking you out. As such there is more excitement built up because of the anticipation/uncertainty. There is a bit more satisfaction in knowing you passed whatever her screening process is. A little more like going on a real date.

This is true but rare... I've met 2 girls (abeit obviously quite new) who thought that men were just paying to be around them for lunch and dinner and they'd be spoiled as a result! No idea where they got that idea from but it was quickly dispelled at the end of our initial meet. All others knew what the money was going towards. The performance varies widly too and is more consistent with SPs I find, but I like the off the clock aspect and not just showing up at an appointment to a girl in lingerie who's already ready to have mechanical well rehearsed sex. Texting back and forth for a couple days then meeting for lunch, hitting the mall then watch some TV in a hotel room (that I've booked) for less than a grand is far more my speed!

 

[ExoticCharmer]

I like the off the clock aspect and not just showing up at an appointment to a girl in lingerie who's already ready to have mechanical well rehearsed sex. Texting back and forth for a couple days then meeting for lunch, hitting the mall then watch some TV in a hotel room (that I've booked) for less than a grand is far more my speed!

Exactly! Not everyone on here will resonate with SB relationships. If you primarily book HH's or even Hour's with SPs, you probably won't see the point. It's mainly guys who book longer sessions, who will appreciate an SB relationship.

 

[Titalian]

I'm primarily going down the SB route because of the $$ saved.

I just got home from a 5 hour date, which was $450 (including cost of lunch). She looks similar to Cindy from JG (check my posts for my review on her), basically curvy hourglass with natural DDDs. Lunch was 1.5 hours and play was 3.5 hours, which is basically how I would've spent 5 hours with an SP anyways. Except.. 5 hours from JG is $1000 (without food).

As far as sex goes, BBBJ was decent, DFK was good and everything else was great. Experience was similar to meeting a new SP to the industry, except with more intimacy since emotion is on the table as well.

Maybe I got lucky for my first date but if all the other girls are like this, SB is a very viable option for me...

NOTE: While I did save $$, I had to instead spend a lot of time texting back and forth, meeting for coffee first, etc. In the end, I think it was worth it though.

LOL is this a review ? I need pics :wink:

 

[GPIDEAL]

Exactly! Not everyone on here will resonate with SB relationships. If you primarily book HH's or even Hour's with SPs, you probably won't see the point. It's mainly guys who book longer sessions, who will appreciate an SB relationship.

I like longer sessions too but I think if you have already developed a good rapport with a special SP gal, you might get the same deal. Thanks for your input.

 

[Gentle2her]

For the last few months, I have been seeing this SP (who I won't name here), and we both had a lot of fun every time we met. The chemistry was there 100%. At some point she decided to stop escorting, but gave me her private number telling me she wanted to continue with me, and only me. We longly talked and I believe her I'm the only one she continued with. I feel very privileged. She told me it would be a bit difficult for her financially since she stopped. I proposed to help her (a bit over $1k per month), and she was comfortable with it. So without naming it, what we are in is basically a SD/SB relationship.

This has been going on for a few months, and we see each other once or twice per week, 2-3-4 hours every time, depending on the weeks. I really like her and care for her. What is driving me nuts is I'm getting attached to her, and it seems she does as well... I feel stupid to ask this on a forum like this one, but how does one know it's for real on her side? I guess I'll need to have a heartfelt talk with her and find out. The truth might be difficult to hear and I'm a bit scared, as I don't want to ruin it. She's great to be with! Or maybe I should propose to lower my help$ and see how she reacts. That would give me a hint to start with that she likes me for being who I am more than the help I provide her?

Your opinion? And I'd love to hear women's take on this as well.

Gentle

 

[UrbanOzz]

Agreed! I'm back into it again but it's tricky... I use backpages and it's a ton of sob stories about rent to pay and bills etc! Guilt doesn't work to get me in the mood lol! Occasionally you find a enthusiastic girl and it's gravy until she figures she can get more and then it's back to the drawing board :-(

what do you look for on BP for a SB? that's a good idea. i can't stand SA

 

[Titalian]

what do you look for on BP for a SB? that's a good idea. i can't stand SA

Above all Honesty, but that is not very apparent on first outcomes or meets. I normally use my experience to guide me.

 

[roger20]

This has been going on for a few months, and we see each other once or twice per week, 2-3-4 hours every time, depending on the weeks. I really like her and care for her. What is driving me nuts is I'm getting attached to her, and it seems she does as well... I feel stupid to ask this on a forum like this one, but how does one know it's for real on her side? I guess I'll need to have a heartfelt talk with her and find out. The truth might be difficult to hear and I'm a bit scared, as I don't want to ruin it. She's great to be with! Or maybe I should propose to lower my help$ and see how she reacts. That would give me a hint to start with that she likes me for being who I am more than the help I provide her?

Your opinion? And I'd love to hear women's take on this as well.

Gentle

Getting attached is normal, you're seeing someone weekly for months, it's bound to happen depending on your personality as regular meets will do that! Ummmm, offer to help her get a job or another better paying job? Obviously you're not going to support her forever so she needs that anyways and that's more help then the grand you're handing her. If she accepts the offer and still wants to see you then what you have is genuine and you can discuss reducing the money as she doesn't need it as much anymore, if she doesn't and is happy just taking money from you (and others?) then that's your answer! You're still with an escort (or sugar baby).

 

[roger20]

what do you look for on BP for a SB? that's a good idea. i can't stand SA

It's hard to quantify as it really depends on what you're looking for... If you want the undergrad student trying to pay her bills and rent then the 4 obviously scripted paragraphs and the model looking or instagram pictures of the girl on a beach or in a club isn't going to get that! Also for me, "not a pro" or "help paying tuition" in a profile is a red flag!

 

[ExoticCharmer]

Also for me, "not a pro" or "help paying tuition" in a profile is a red flag!

In addition, any mentions of being a princess, model, needs to be pampered, wants to experience the finer things in life, lavish lifestyle expectations.

 

[GPIDEAL]

It's hard to quantify as it really depends on what you're looking for... If you want the undergrad student trying to pay her bills and rent then the 4 obviously scripted paragraphs and the model looking or instagram pictures of the girl on a beach or in a club isn't going to get that! Also for me, "not a pro" or "help paying tuition" in a profile is a red flag!

In addition, any mentions of being a princess, model, needs to be pampered, wants to experience the finer things in life, lavish lifestyle expectations.

I agree with ExoticCharmer, but why are "not a pro" or "helping paying tuition" red flags Roger? Does "not a pro" mean no chance for sex? Tuition assistance isn't necessarily a sinister motive to be a sugar-baby.

 

[desbacler]

For the last few months, I have been seeing this SP (who I won't name here), and we both had a lot of fun every time we met. The chemistry was there 100%. At some point she decided to stop escorting, but gave me her private number telling me she wanted to continue with me, and only me. We longly talked and I believe her I'm the only one she continued with. I feel very privileged. She told me it would be a bit difficult for her financially since she stopped. I proposed to help her (a bit over $1k per month), and she was comfortable with it. So without naming it, what we are in is basically a SD/SB relationship.

This has been going on for a few months, and we see each other once or twice per week, 2-3-4 hours every time, depending on the weeks. I really like her and care for her. What is driving me nuts is I'm getting attached to her, and it seems she does as well... I feel stupid to ask this on a forum like this one, but how does one know it's for real on her side? I guess I'll need to have a heartfelt talk with her and find out. The truth might be difficult to hear and I'm a bit scared, as I don't want to ruin it. She's great to be with! Or maybe I should propose to lower my help$ and see how she reacts. That would give me a hint to start with that she likes me for being who I am more than the help I provide her?

Your opinion? And I'd love to hear women's take on this as well.

Gentle

Being a business person, I would personally refrain from altering the agreed upon terms of the relationship as it simply sends a wrong and unintended message. Be thankful that you have found a great SB, but also know that it won't last forever, so enjoy it while it lasts. I tried SBs a couple of years ago and found some incredible girls and for various reasons the relationships never lasted too long. Some of these girls would never become a SP, but because of financial issues, would consider a SD, so it is like a hybrid between an SP and a relationship with benefits. The last SB being a whacko, which led me to totally re-think the SB relationship. Another issue with SBs is really not knowing whether or not you were exclusive and that she was dipping on the side, something that I would fear with BP girls. Since I prefer shorter sessions and variety and don't have much time at all for the social aspects, I have gravitated back to SPs. While I rarely repeat with SPs, there have been some that I have seen for years until they retired, so they have been a more economical alternative to an SB for me.

 

[roger20]

I agree with ExoticCharmer, but why are "not a pro" or "helping paying tuition" red flags Roger? Does "not a pro" mean no chance for sex? Tuition assistance isn't necessarily a sinister motive to be a sugar-baby.

"Not a pro" usually means "Not a pro (anymore/right now)" in my experience... The type of girl I'm looking for wouldn't use those that term. The tuition thing is because she has pretty fixed high payment expectations... When I went to school a York U full computer science course load was $2700 per year which I easily paid with my part time job over the summer, now that would only get you into maybe half a year of intro to basket weaving! Tuition is high nowadays and too many princesses couldn't be bothered to pour coffee to pay for it hence they're looking to get it all from one guy, one time!

I aim for more of the average girl who wants to hang out and go places and not be thinking she's on the clock and she's getting paid for sex... Mostly that she's with a more mature guy having fun and getting a couple hundred after. I don't need 5 or 6 such girls, just 1 at a time and it seems to be working for me lol!

 

[HAMSTER INSPECTOR]

Familiarity breeds contempt. Two ships passing in the night is one thing, but what if you want to end things when it is not convenient for her? What if there are excessive and unreasonable demands? What if she threatens you? Maybe things do not work out and she comes back to threaten you 5 or 10 years down the road?

 

[shack]

Familiarity breeds contempt. Two ships passing in the night is one thing, but what if you want to end things when it is not convenient for her? What if there are excessive and unreasonable demands? What if she threatens you? Maybe things do not work out and she comes back to threaten you 5 or 10 years down the road?

For guys with a SO, SPs are much safer.

If they have to worry about work/reputation then SB is a better way to go.