How addictive is this hobby for you? Is it getting worse?
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Wow..CAT thanks for that insight...I do believe that ..as a woman gets older her sex drive only goes 2 ways...either yeah i love sex..as yours did...or the other way ...I dont have time,need.or whatever....and I suspect the later is the reason some of the guys here.....are here.!!(thats my reason)
As I said earlier...some of the ladies I talked to between shots....were very business savvy and had the master plan...all worked out ..some just starting out....but had an exit plan ....and others were just trying to make ends meet ...for various reasons.
I just find that my partners can't keep up as time goes on; it's a huge responsibility for one man to carry.
I love that comment....during my S/O sexual awakening(which the only way i can describe it as)...It was her continous need to Fuck 2-3 times a day.....and I was always pushed to bring my ''A'' game constantly...then as quick as it came(pardon the pun)..it went...now we're both in our 50's..my drive is hitting an ebb again( although i'm on the shelf for a bit for medical reasons) and hers is non existent...go figure!!
As I said earlier...some of the ladies I talked to between shots....were very business savvy and had the master plan...all worked out ..some just starting out....but had an exit plan ....and others were just trying to make ends meet ...for various reasons.
I just find that my partners can't keep up as time goes on; it's a huge responsibility for one man to carry.
I love that comment....during my S/O sexual awakening(which the only way i can describe it as)...It was her continous need to Fuck 2-3 times a day.....and I was always pushed to bring my ''A'' game constantly...then as quick as it came(pardon the pun)..it went...now we're both in our 50's..my drive is hitting an ebb again( although i'm on the shelf for a bit for medical reasons) and hers is non existent...go figure!!
Everyone would like to consider themselves exceptional but I would never assume that I am. I would honestly have a hard time answering your question factually because while SPs talk, there isn't quite open exchange that would allow this kind of information to be shared. I do find it more common in older SPs but have crossed paths with a couple of younger ones that fit the bill. I base my insight on how they talk about their clients. If they constantly complain about the little stuff then they probably don't "get it" and can't truly connect on a physical level. If there is a real connection then the little annoyances don't factor in as important. An example of this for me is beards. For years I detested going to see a client with facial hair because it left me with burn on my face and lady bits. Now I have several guests with beards and I don't even notice the burn because I'm glowing when they leave.
In my 20's I enjoyed the intimacies but wasn't able to achieve orgasm without batteries which can't be used regularly or one becomes desensitized. I just went thru the motions because of time restrictions. An hour isn't enough time, let alone 20 minutes to make me scream. Wisdom gained thru experience showed me that I need longer sessions out of the gate to make sure my toes curl. That’s why since coming to Canada, I've only offer 2 hour sessions. It wasn't because I was $ hungry or intentionally trying to be "elite" but because when I reflected on my work history, I only achieved sexual satisfaction during longer appointments. The time was the constant, not the guest. I genuinely need 20 mins to say hello, catch up and share a drink, approx. 30 mins of foreplay and oral, then ideally 45-60 minutes of playtime. That leaves just enough time for a shower and some nibbling on the way out the door. I decided a long time ago that I would never again do things for money that I don't thoroughly enjoy. The key is figuring out how to enjoy everything you do, from work to chores. Once you figure out what it takes to make it fulfilling, life gets good...
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Speaking from experience, it's her hormones. Get her in to have them checked by a doctor that specializes in BHRT (NOT SYNTHETIC!). You may have to travel to TO, mine is in Thunder Bay. I've seen women get their hormones straightened out in their 60's and life gets interesting!
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You need to eat to live but you don't need to see SPs/MPAs to live.
If you really enjoyed what you were eating (food or pussy) then you would definitely remember that experience.
The only way to figure out if you're addicted is to try and stop seeing SPs/MPAs and see if you can.
As for myself, I started in the bussines out of necesity, a family, reaposibilities and. An stablished life style (a house, food, e credit cards debts that at you alive... Fear of loosing what you have worked hard before.. etc...! ) I came to this by casualty of life, I never even though I would do anything relate, but I am here now and I try to enjoy as much, and have fun. But I see that most of these girls specially the younger croud sadly they just spent their money n drugs and party (I must say a vast majority, not all of them but yes I can almost say 95% or more...)
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Yikes...that's not a good stat, sadly, you're probably very close. Thanks for sharing Vitto
I know I have an addiction. I first tried an SP out of frustration with a long term gf that wouldn't put out. One time thing, didn't do it for years, until a girl I dated cheated with a good friend. Had some anger sex. At that time had some more disposable income, and I liked the guaranteed sex, without drama. Sure not every girl was stellar. At first I was satisfied with simple encounters, but then I started wanting for extensive menus. At first would only go to sp that looked like magazine models, but little by little standards came down on looks and went more for performance.
Then I was in a relationship, with a very attractive girl who outperformed any sp I found. I started thinking I didn't know why I was going, since I was paying for something inferior to what I get at home. Maybe variety. I felt guilty after encounters. Sometimes I would go and not have too much fun. I've tried to cut down. I have a new gf who's even pretier than the last, and puts most sp' PSE experience to shame. And I have managed to go long periods without seeing sp's, and become pickier again. But I still get the urge and go sometimes. 70% of time don't have fun when I go. The rest that I do enjoy, but once I cum I feel guilty and don't enjoy as much. Whereas before I would enjoy the company of the girl after, or want another shot. And to think of the cost. Now sometimes when I get the urge to go, I grab the money I was going to spend and buy something for myself or my gf with it. Sometimes works.
So the fact that I keep doing something I no longer enjoy and know it's bad for me, means it's an addiction.
Then I was in a relationship, with a very attractive girl who outperformed any sp I found. I started thinking I didn't know why I was going, since I was paying for something inferior to what I get at home. Maybe variety. I felt guilty after encounters. Sometimes I would go and not have too much fun. I've tried to cut down. I have a new gf who's even pretier than the last, and puts most sp' PSE experience to shame. And I have managed to go long periods without seeing sp's, and become pickier again. But I still get the urge and go sometimes. 70% of time don't have fun when I go. The rest that I do enjoy, but once I cum I feel guilty and don't enjoy as much. Whereas before I would enjoy the company of the girl after, or want another shot. And to think of the cost. Now sometimes when I get the urge to go, I grab the money I was going to spend and buy something for myself or my gf with it. Sometimes works.
So the fact that I keep doing something I no longer enjoy and know it's bad for me, means it's an addiction.
Thanks for sharing dude. I feel ya on some of that. As fucked as this sounds.. sometimes its better to rub one out.. (cuz before that is when you're hot and bothered and willing to do anything stupid) soon as that's done you're like. ok. that saved me 200bucks. and the time going/coming and finding someone.. so call it 300-400 depending on your hourly wage rate.
I found I've started to buy stuff for the gf, that I didn't before.. lv/gucci designer shit. I try to be thrifty and grab it when it's on sale or from the states etc.
I agree buying yourself something makes sense, because really you'll have that something past the 30min mark. It's like going out to the bar, or club all out.. 300-800bucks later.. and a long piss.. you have nothing.. I did this for a long time.. I was a fucking idiot, and didn't own a place.. when I bought my place it all changed.. it's like. 300bucks is a piece of furniture I'll own forever.. or a kitchen knife..
Compound that with the fact I don't usually remember shit from my session, as in. yea I remember I had a good time. Or not, but it all gets fuzzy really quick. Same for restaurants and other stuff so life in general.
Though I'm with a really attractive gf, and even when I look at her after all this time I realize she's quite pretty. But I love variety. Always have, it's the spice of life.. not to mention current gf isn't great in bed.. had a few ex's that were PSE.. this one is barely GFE lol.. and SHE IS THE GF. fml. lol. Anyhow. I find with a SP.. i blow, and i'm like zipppp. outta there.. I know before when I saw some on a regular. A particular asian one comes to mind.. I'd hang out.. shoot the shit.. hit it again..
I just find this shit sucks up time, and energy. If I could pickup the phone.. at a whim.. go somewhere. hit it and leave.. knowing i'd get good service. it would be grand.. I'd deal with PK for this.. if the fucking receptionist wasn't a total bitch.. or the asian providers.. if i wasn't likely to get a old saggy granny.. and they weren't using fixed incall locations with low beds without frames. (ALLD has a normal bed btw) I just can't fuck around with a asian place getting hit with a immigration raid while i'm in there.. too much to lose.. outcalls take serious coordination or extra 100-200bucks for a hotel.. pita.
Didn't think I could get addicted to any facet of this hobby. Thought I had seen and tried it all, from soapy massages in Bangkok to sex clubs in Prague, with everything in between (the world out there has alot more to offer than Ottawa's boring scene gentlemen, get travelling) So far I had always been able to stop cold turkey while in a relationship, and didnt consider myself addicted in any way. Recently got engaged to a beautiful chinese girl, have a great sex life at home, so put all this away for what I thought was the last time. That is until I met a stripper, of all things. Each guy has an image in his head of the perfect girl... When I met her I realized mine had been all wrong. Now I find myself living a messed up double life planning a wedding at home during the day and spending my nights in a strip club hoping to manage to catch this girl's attention. Not to mention I also see her outside the club frequently.
Addiction is a messed up thing, and I have ao much to lose if caught. Spend my days feeling guilty but can't help heading back out every chance I get. The money isnt an issue for me, but everything else is. She's leaving town soon for an extended period of time, thought I saw a light at the end of the tunnel, but she insisted we keep in touch by email while she is gone, and I dont think I have the willpower to resist that.
Addiction is a messed up thing, and I have ao much to lose if caught. Spend my days feeling guilty but can't help heading back out every chance I get. The money isnt an issue for me, but everything else is. She's leaving town soon for an extended period of time, thought I saw a light at the end of the tunnel, but she insisted we keep in touch by email while she is gone, and I dont think I have the willpower to resist that.
This is quite surprising to me. I realize that probably not all the girls have their whole heart into it, but I was under the assumption that most of them generally enjoyed what they did. Of course it’s not ALL glamorous, and sometimes you gotta take the bad with the good, but that’s just part of life in general. This line of work is such a personal thing to do for the sole purpose of money. I have a feeling the ones who ONLY do it for money, it probably reflects quite clearly in the quality of their service also. I think it’s slightly insulting to the guest too if the SP is only interested in money, as I know most of you like to know that the woman is enjoying herself also.
There are many reasons to do this kind of job, and often likely it’s a combination of many factors… Obviously the money is a positive factor, no one will deny that, but it’s not and should never be *everything*. For me, days in life are just so short, I detest even spending an hour of my life doing something that I don’t want to be doing. I’ve spent the last few years of my life cutting out waste and excess, and really defining what is important to me. So for me, it would only be going backwards to be doing this professionally if I did not enjoy it. I actually look forward to getting to work every day, to meet new and intriguing people, engage in some often interesting conversation and of course, some good old fashioned light hearted fun! I find it almost like a little thrill each time I open the door to see who is behind it. (And for the record, seeing a smile looking back at me, makes it all that much better!)
I have given much consideration and thought towards my feelings about human sexuality, including my own. I could go on forever about it, but I just want to share my basic ideas. I think touch is an amazing form of expression and I feel that society has wrongly made it seem like such a dirty thing, and I really don’t understand this notion. Everyone likes to be touched, and it feels good… so what’s the big shame? Enjoy it, share it, explore it, and leave the guilt for the guilty. Our sexuality, at the core, is such a raw and basic part of our human instincts...It’s nature...And *nature always wins*. I say this all the time, but I really do take a tremendous amount of pride in being able to give, receive, and share pleasure with another person. As a realist, I will hold myself back from getting too sappy, but I do want to express the fact that I feel quite fondly about the short time that I have with my guests in the privacy of the room we have come together to share. For just that little bit of time, in such a busy and fast paced world, all kinds of crazy shit going on around us, we have temporarily slowed our lives down simultaneously, to share a small moment together. It’s actually really kind of beautiful.
This is an addiction and I have tried to stop several times but I always find myself coming back for more. I generally see only 3-4 girls a year because I am very picky and the Ottawa scene isnt that great. I do frequent terb on a weekly basis and when I finally do book a lady it is the adrenaline rush , not the testosterone, that is the thrill and for that reason alone I believe it is an addiction similar to gambling.
I believe I am totally addictive to this hobby. I generally see a girl each month but lately it's one per week. It's probably because of the high improvement in talent for ottawa the past years. Ten or so years ago it was so bad I had to go Montreal and when I was there I just go wild. Everytime I was there I would see at least two girls back to back. My record is four girls in one day and it was one of my the happiest day in my life. Thinking about those Montreal days still gives me good feeling. Well, we only have one life and so make the best of it. That's what money is for.
LOL.. I remember mine being three girls in Amsterdam .. wait London as well. But never four.. good for you =D lol. You must have started early in the day.
How do you find a new girl a week, or is it often repeats?
btw.. yea. you're right. you're addicted. =D
yup, I started at 9am and by 9 pm I was sleeping like a baby and with a big smile.
I repeat if I like the girl. Lately I repeated once with Emily of PK and Elle of EH. I did repeat five times with Jessy of PK. The most repeat is Alison of PK about two years ago. It must be something like eight times. It's just too bad she had to leave town for good. I would have kept seeing her if she's still around. Damn, she's the best!
I repeat if I like the girl. Lately I repeated once with Emily of PK and Elle of EH. I did repeat five times with Jessy of PK. The most repeat is Alison of PK about two years ago. It must be something like eight times. It's just too bad she had to leave town for good. I would have kept seeing her if she's still around. Damn, she's the best!
so if the repeats are as little as they are, I'm guessing you're disappointed often? I'm finding I'm winding down a bit, as the experiences are downers.
Very interesting to hear so many who are on an upswing in hobbying. I too was on an upswing, I believe lately it has mostly related to working too many hours. Financial obligations have slowed me down, but slowing down is more difficult after finding one or more providers who do it just the way I like and seem to enjoy themselves too. Like others have stated life is short/ can change suddenly.
