Dude, I am INVITING OTHERS TO GIVE ME THEIR NUMBERS, BECAUSE I AM NOT A SERVER AND I DON"T HAVE THE NUMBERS MYSELF. YOU ARE FREE TO GIVE ME ALTERNATE NBUMBERS. I IN NO WAY REPRESENTING THAT THESE NUMBERS ARE VALID. But I am trying to introduce a little bit of REASONING into this process. So what are YOUR Numbers?
OK? Got it?
BUT I STILL THINK THAT MAYBE NUMBERS SHOULD HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH IT! I mean, money is the subject, and money is measured in NUMBERS.
GC, I have read that men tip waitresses bgetter than waiters, so looks have to have someting to do with it. If I find the link I will post it.
Secondly, I dont want to interact with my server and have them guess my mood. I don't want any of that stuff. I want to interact with my fellow diners, not staff. Of course I want ot be pleasant etc, but it doesnt take much to be pleasant. You don't need to read anyone's mind, or perform any of these amazing psychological readings that apparently servers do on a regular basis. I guess I have always been oblivious to the psychoanalyzing going on from the moment I walked in.
Miserly self? Listen, I am not calling you greedy, so maybe you should be civil and not call me miserly just because I dont' comply with your demand to be paid $30 per hour for serving.
I was brought up in a religious background where tithing 10% of your wages was expected, and although I dont give 10% now I do give about 5 - 7% to charities, mainly to third world projects. THOSE people are hard done by - NOT servers getting 'only' 10% tips.
What you cal miserly I call not overpaying.
You
yell in your post, yet you accuse
me of not being civil ?
Hypocrite, thy name is
burt-oh-my!
You
have read, have you ? I guess we'll just have to take you at your word.
You don't want to interact with your server ?
How, pray tell, will you place your order ?
Where did I
demand to be paid $30/hour ?
If it was traditional to give 10%, how do you come to the conclusion that it is okay for you to now give only 5% to 7%.
Yet, you have a problem with society coming to the conclusion that a standard tip should be 15% rather than 10%.
You proved
right there that you are miserly,
and a hypocrite.
I have stated at different points in this thread that any guest of mine was free to leave whatever they wished, that that is their right. I would not have done the job for much less than what I did earn at it.
Nor would a lot of the highly skilled (and in most cases, highly educated) co-workers that I was employed with.
As far as guessing a customer's mood, attitude, and goals for the evening, these things can help a server provide a more enjoyable experience for the guest.
For example, you and 3 other guys come into a bar/restaurant on Front Street in Toronto, at 5:30 p.m. on a Saturday night. Two of the guys have Leafs sweaters on, one guy has a Penguins hat, and you're wearing a Leafs cap and a Hockey Canada tee shirt. Before the server has even said hello, he's probably figured out that you guys are probably headed to the A.C.C. for the game. After saying hello, that would be the first thing I would talk about with you (plural). ''Going to the game, guys ? '' If the answer is yes, I know we're under a bit of a time constraint, as I would want to have you all looked after and billed by 630ish at the latest, so you have time to walk over to the arena by game time. If the answer is ''no'', then, I know we've got a little more time. Why is this important ? If you're going to the game, and your buddy Dave wants to order the 16 oz New York steak, Well Done, I might point him in a different direction on the menu, as that would take at least 30 minutes to cook, and then your dinner arrived at the table, you'd have to eat in a rush.
Another would be if you were at a restaurant near a movie theatre, it's part of the server's job to find out: a) IF you are going to a show, and b) what time, so that they can give you the best experience possible within your time constraints.
burt, just because you are ignorant of all the factors involved in a particular job, does not make that career choice any less valuable.