Yes or no?
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This really depends on where you are in your life. If you are a young person in the prime of life with lots to offer and looking to start a family, then a non-conventional relationship might not be for you.
However, if your best studding days are behind you, then the more realistic question is: Whould you rather share Alyssa Milano, or have Rosie O'Donnell all to yourself?
If you are an active enough "Customer" to be on this board, chances are the second scenario applies.
Let's face it: anywhere from 50%-75% of SP/MP/SC regualr customers would be lucky to bed these girls' MOTHERS for free. They are in no position to demand fidelity from anyone who is both young enough to menstruate and slim enough to fit in a phone booth.
So it gets to a point where if you want to play out of your league for free, you are going to end up sharing the girl anyway, SP or Not. Make no mistake: if she's hot and knows it - you WILL be sharing - her decision to settle with you will be based on other elements in the relationship.
This really depends on where you are in your life. If you are a young person in the prime of life with lots to offer and looking to start a family, then a non-conventional relationship might not be for you.
However, if your best studding days are behind you, then the more realistic question is: Whould you rather share Alyssa Milano, or have Rosie O'Donnell all to yourself?
If you are an active enough "Customer" to be on this board, chances are the second scenario applies.
Let's face it: anywhere from 50%-75% of SP/MP/SC regualr customers would be lucky to bed these girls' MOTHERS for free. They are in no position to demand fidelity from anyone who is both young enough to menstruate and slim enough to fit in a phone booth.
So it gets to a point where if you want to play out of your league for free, you are going to end up sharing the girl anyway, SP or Not. Make no mistake: if she's hot and knows it - you WILL be sharing - her decision to settle with you will be based on other elements in the relationship.
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When considering this question, it is worth remembering that there are many kinds of providers out there.
I get an impression the majority of Hobyisits on Terb and other Boards are the guys who tour the $80-$100 Incall circuit or shop fot the $60 Nude + Oral. Reading between the lines of their posts, their default underlying opinion of Pleasure Providers is of communal instruments which service anyone who walks in off the street 8 hours a day. Obviously, nobody would have the stomach for a relationship with somebody who is working that way.
But there is a big difference between that and the kind of SP's that are more like the Ladies who post on Terb These women view themselves as High-End freelance professionals - not unlike a private hair designer or interior decorator. They work when they feel like it, with high non-negotiable fees, and refuse as many calls as they accept. A mature and liberal relationship with such a provider is not unthinkable at all.
When considering this question, it is worth remembering that there are many kinds of providers out there.
I get an impression the majority of Hobyisits on Terb and other Boards are the guys who tour the $80-$100 Incall circuit or shop fot the $60 Nude + Oral. Reading between the lines of their posts, their default underlying opinion of Pleasure Providers is of communal instruments which service anyone who walks in off the street 8 hours a day. Obviously, nobody would have the stomach for a relationship with somebody who is working that way.
But there is a big difference between that and the kind of SP's that are more like the Ladies who post on Terb These women view themselves as High-End freelance professionals - not unlike a private hair designer or interior decorator. They work when they feel like it, with high non-negotiable fees, and refuse as many calls as they accept. A mature and liberal relationship with such a provider is not unthinkable at all.
I don't buy the pimp analogy. IF your wife is a cop are you her chief? If your wife is a teacher are you her principal? If your wife plays a sport are you her manager? What about a SP that has a pimp, what does that make the husband?
By condoning her work you are not the same as someone who helps to promote and manage her.
But to the original question
yes if no bbj/dfk/rimming..... daty is a gray area for me.
By condoning her work you are not the same as someone who helps to promote and manage her.
But to the original question
yes if no bbj/dfk/rimming..... daty is a gray area for me.
I understand where you are coming from...
...and to some degree agree...but I think you missed the point.
The question is would you MARRY an SP?
If what you are saying is true...and you could very well be right...why the fuck marry her? Why make things more complicated than they need to be?
Just continue to fuck her - and anybody else you please, just as she is doing the same.
The point here is this - if you are fool enough to get emotionally caught up over pussy, then you are a fool indeed. Nothing wrong with banging a world class peice of ass, and as you say, a mature man might be pragmatic and realize he is sharing the peice of ass with some unknown number of guys.
But only an idiot puts himself in emotional and financial harms way for a great lay. Just because a chick looks hot and is a great fuck is NOT a reason to marry her...
Hard Idle said:
...and to some degree agree...but I think you missed the point.
The question is would you MARRY an SP?
If what you are saying is true...and you could very well be right...why the fuck marry her? Why make things more complicated than they need to be?
Just continue to fuck her - and anybody else you please, just as she is doing the same.
The point here is this - if you are fool enough to get emotionally caught up over pussy, then you are a fool indeed. Nothing wrong with banging a world class peice of ass, and as you say, a mature man might be pragmatic and realize he is sharing the peice of ass with some unknown number of guys.
But only an idiot puts himself in emotional and financial harms way for a great lay. Just because a chick looks hot and is a great fuck is NOT a reason to marry her...
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So....
...I was going this way as well, but my answers are still a) No and a) see my response to a)
First, the vast majority of providers (and you can make that "sex workers") I would have no interest in because I strongly and sincerely believe that it takes a "special" person to go into sex work, and there is no way I am getting involved emotionally and financially with someone who is "special" in that way. Not going to happen.
However, as you imply at the high end of the spectrum the "ladies" do in fact seem to be "ladies". Educated. Accomplished (all be it in an interesting field of endeavor). They manage both their lives and their finances well. They come with no obvious vices - and are obviously skilled at making a man happy, both in bed and outside of it (the sign of a TRUE courtesean...would a man gladly pay you for your COMPANIONSHIP...not just to fuck). In many ways, you are right, asuming you are past the "get married and start a family" point in life, such a woman could make the ideal wife.
Except...
Except such women are pretty well known. And my frail, fragile ego just isn't going to survive the constant wondering if everytime a guy checks out my out wife if it is because she is hot - or is it because he thinks he knows her from someplace. I could never live with the constant fear of wondering exactly when I would introduce my wife to a business collegue or client - and it would turn out he already knew her, in the biblical sense. I would never get past the first - even if it was the only - time someone who somehow found out made a wise crack about my wife and blow jobs in the same sentence.
Of course, you could avoid this by avoiding the higher end, more well known (even if 'exclusive') escorts...but then you are likely to fall inot that $100 incall category you are speaking of - and that puts you back to where I started off...I personally would never align myself with someone who felt their physical intimacy, emotional well being and health (potentially) were worth selling @ $200/hr.
So....the answer is no.
But I could see how having a premier escort as a fuck buddy friend - off the clock - could be really, really, really kewl. Especially if she knew how to golf...lol.
Hard Idle said:
...I was going this way as well, but my answers are still a) No and a) see my response to a)
First, the vast majority of providers (and you can make that "sex workers") I would have no interest in because I strongly and sincerely believe that it takes a "special" person to go into sex work, and there is no way I am getting involved emotionally and financially with someone who is "special" in that way. Not going to happen.
However, as you imply at the high end of the spectrum the "ladies" do in fact seem to be "ladies". Educated. Accomplished (all be it in an interesting field of endeavor). They manage both their lives and their finances well. They come with no obvious vices - and are obviously skilled at making a man happy, both in bed and outside of it (the sign of a TRUE courtesean...would a man gladly pay you for your COMPANIONSHIP...not just to fuck). In many ways, you are right, asuming you are past the "get married and start a family" point in life, such a woman could make the ideal wife.
Except...
Except such women are pretty well known. And my frail, fragile ego just isn't going to survive the constant wondering if everytime a guy checks out my out wife if it is because she is hot - or is it because he thinks he knows her from someplace. I could never live with the constant fear of wondering exactly when I would introduce my wife to a business collegue or client - and it would turn out he already knew her, in the biblical sense. I would never get past the first - even if it was the only - time someone who somehow found out made a wise crack about my wife and blow jobs in the same sentence.
Of course, you could avoid this by avoiding the higher end, more well known (even if 'exclusive') escorts...but then you are likely to fall inot that $100 incall category you are speaking of - and that puts you back to where I started off...I personally would never align myself with someone who felt their physical intimacy, emotional well being and health (potentially) were worth selling @ $200/hr.
So....the answer is no.
But I could see how having a premier escort as a fuck buddy friend - off the clock - could be really, really, really kewl. Especially if she knew how to golf...lol.
MLAM said:
I agaree completely. I was responding to the hypothetical scenario for arguments sake. Otherwise, I don't really believe in mariage - period. At least not formal mariage which is regulated by laws and courts.
If I had the money to bee seen as a potential bank vault, I'd be extremely paranoid and reluctant. Fortunately, even in better days my income was only in the mid 30's, enough for self suficiency but not hardly a meal ticket for anyone who's not destitute.
These days, even a part-time call girl or dancer would have more take home pay than me, so being used that way is not something I have to think about.
I have to agree with Ruck on this. How many of you married guys that answered NO are currently married and SPENDING money screwing other women. It really is hypocritical to say that she cannot be MAKING money screwing other men.
Let's be real honest here. If any of us could make money screwing other women, we'd never have taken the jobs we have right now.
Let's be real honest here. If any of us could make money screwing other women, we'd never have taken the jobs we have right now.
Shallow Throat said:Let's be real honest here. If any of us could make money screwing other women, we'd never have taken the jobs we have right now.
I'm glad you think it is that easy!
I, for one, strongly do not believe that women who sells their bodies for a living are of a lesser moral fiber. Yes, there are many in the industry who are not of the highest moral calibre, but there are many others (especially the EEs) who have very few choices in life and for them selling their services is the most viable solution.
To take an extreme hypothetical situation, imagine you are living in Romania, have two children, and your husband was abusive and eventually left you. You have no education, and no one will hire you, and even if you do find a job, it will be for less than a dollar an hour. You're attractive and able to sell your body so that you can provide a comfortable living for you and your children. Fuck morals. Fuck what society says about prostitutes. It's about survival. For some, this really is the only option. For many others, it's nearly as bad.
Hell, if I could make money selling my body to women, I'd probably do it.
To take an extreme hypothetical situation, imagine you are living in Romania, have two children, and your husband was abusive and eventually left you. You have no education, and no one will hire you, and even if you do find a job, it will be for less than a dollar an hour. You're attractive and able to sell your body so that you can provide a comfortable living for you and your children. Fuck morals. Fuck what society says about prostitutes. It's about survival. For some, this really is the only option. For many others, it's nearly as bad.
Hell, if I could make money selling my body to women, I'd probably do it.
I still believe that one should be faithful to your husband or wife in a marriage. I believe that that is part of the agreement. If one or both parties in the relationship can't provide that then there is no marriage to be had.
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