Yes because they don’t go in this profession for money. It’s all out of the kindness in their hearts. Dont be a dick and pay up front. Of course it’s about the money! Many take pride in what they do but either way it’s all about the money. Don’t be daft.
When to Leave/Ask for Donation?
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Most of the time I visit spas - I have several regulars who I visit every 2 to 4 weeks. Most of them I have been seeing for more than 1 year. My protocol is always the same - I pay the door fee as soon as I enter the room or before. I always tip after the session and the provider always knows how much the tip will be.
I also visit a couple of indies whom I have been seeing for a long time. Occasionally I also visit a new to me provider . I always provide the donation as soon as I come in the door.
I dont mind asking for the money when they get in the door. I generally try to ask them for the money on the table before they get undressed so they're not all bent over balls to the wind rummaging through their pant pockets.
Sometimes I forget to ask but I get it at the end. For people I've seen for ages, im not worried about it. I'll get it when I get it.
If someone wants to upgrade, we have to stop and they have to pay me the difference unfortunately. Once I've provided the service I've lost all of my leverage so there has to be cash in hand before I move forward.
Sometimes I forget to ask but I get it at the end. For people I've seen for ages, im not worried about it. I'll get it when I get it.
If someone wants to upgrade, we have to stop and they have to pay me the difference unfortunately. Once I've provided the service I've lost all of my leverage so there has to be cash in hand before I move forward.
QFT. On arrival, a hug type greeting, a little chitchat at the door, drop the envelope on the counter near the door or similar and head to the shower. I don’t seal the envelope or write anything on it.
can’t see why, esp on a first meeting you wouldn’t provide the donation on arrival unless instructed otherwise.
I am a rookie with the SP nookie, but both times I brought an envelope and left it with the them when I went to shower. I don't think I would have a problem with them asking if I forgot, and I think there is less chance of a disagreement or trouble if you pay up front. Plus, if I was the SP, I'd want to know that I wasn't going to be stiffed by the john...And, let's face facts, SPs aren't giving it away. They are professionals who deserve the pay for what they do.
I used to find the financial transaction part a bit awkward when I started, but learned to accept it and that the best practice is to get it out of the way asap. (Unless she jumps on me and sticks her tongue down my throat and hand down my pants before I get my shoes off!
).No doubt, there are girls who really get into it, who are on you as soon as you get through the door, before you can even pull the donation out of your pocket. And care about the service and like the sex part. As I posted way earlier in this thread this has led to me or her or both forgetting the $ temporarily at least.
But that’s their choice if they want to start without settling up the finances.
I'm going off topic here. Sorry.
I always roll my eyes at the guys here who feel compelled to say, "It's all about the money!", as though people who do jobs shouldn't want to get paid for doing their job. When it's not motivated by low-key hate, it's at best a method of maintaining emotional distance (which some guys may need), or to encourage others to maintain emotional distance. I get it as a coping mechanism, but that ultimately turns what should be a collaborative (but transactional) relationship into an adversarial one (at best).
When seeing escorts (specifically) get the transaction out of way, then focus on having the best shared experiences you can. Yes, as a client your wants, in so far as a provider is comfortable, should be the focus. Even with that being the case you should never lose sight of a session being a rather intimate shared experience with a fellow human.
A chef loves cooking but gets paid.
A charter loves fishing but gets paid
Plenty of people do jobs they love and do it to get paid.
This idea that an escort who asks for the money upfront doesn’t like her job and is only in it for the money is just ignorance on display.
A charter loves fishing but gets paid
Plenty of people do jobs they love and do it to get paid.
This idea that an escort who asks for the money upfront doesn’t like her job and is only in it for the money is just ignorance on display.
In my opinion the sp should never have to ask. The payment is her consent. Without the payment there isn’t consent. Plus why withhold just have control and be a dick. I prefer to ensure we both have an enjoyable experience.
Same. I find everything more organic with money at the end, BUT when the session is mutually mind blowing there’s a risk of staggering out and forgetting. Have had a bit of a run of great sessions lately - thinking maybe of just separating out the cash in my clothing so even in a pussy fog it’ll slap me in the face.
Some of these new girls… Christ. Almost have to pry them off you.
Good time to be a hobbyist.
Agreed it's awkward to have to ask.
But, when entering and not getting a hello or hug but greeted with "put the money over there and take a shower" does not inspire confidence in the punt lol (a TDL woman - who did not last long in the gig thankfully, kudos to TDL dropping her).
Despite my plain appearance my reg ladies make me feel young and handsome! But part of the secret to a good punt - that shockingly many blokes have not realised - is to make the lady feel as comfortable as possible with you. If she feels confident that you won't try to run out without pay, that you won't go poking things into places she does not want, that you won't stealth her, that you'll be sparkly clean everywhere, she can trust you and relax and really let her talents flow. Thus, it's 100% in your own interests to do this!
Thus, be polite and punctual.
Have the shower and get sparkly clean..
Give her a classy way to count the dough by dropping it before the shower so she can count it whilst you're soaping up.
And always ask before attempting any poking anywhere.
If you're a pay at the end type, the whole time she's with you she will wonder if you're "one of those scamster types", and this will constantly run in the back of her mind. Thus, you will NOT get her "A" game.
BTW, only once i counted out the $ to the ladies directly and Melissa C was there for that at our "reunion trio" with the Roses (Kimberly & Melissa). It is of course a more dear allotment of funds, and I had to rush out out to make the appointment driving in from a couple of hours away. Thus I got paranoid I didn't have the right totals and wanted to make sure I did and each lady got the same and correct amount. (BTW i reviewed that meeting here, and it was freakin' gold!!)
But, when entering and not getting a hello or hug but greeted with "put the money over there and take a shower" does not inspire confidence in the punt lol (a TDL woman - who did not last long in the gig thankfully, kudos to TDL dropping her).
Despite my plain appearance my reg ladies make me feel young and handsome! But part of the secret to a good punt - that shockingly many blokes have not realised - is to make the lady feel as comfortable as possible with you. If she feels confident that you won't try to run out without pay, that you won't go poking things into places she does not want, that you won't stealth her, that you'll be sparkly clean everywhere, she can trust you and relax and really let her talents flow. Thus, it's 100% in your own interests to do this!
Thus, be polite and punctual.
Have the shower and get sparkly clean..
Give her a classy way to count the dough by dropping it before the shower so she can count it whilst you're soaping up.
And always ask before attempting any poking anywhere.
If you're a pay at the end type, the whole time she's with you she will wonder if you're "one of those scamster types", and this will constantly run in the back of her mind. Thus, you will NOT get her "A" game.
BTW, only once i counted out the $ to the ladies directly and Melissa C was there for that at our "reunion trio" with the Roses (Kimberly & Melissa). It is of course a more dear allotment of funds, and I had to rush out out to make the appointment driving in from a couple of hours away. Thus I got paranoid I didn't have the right totals and wanted to make sure I did and each lady got the same and correct amount. (BTW i reviewed that meeting here, and it was freakin' gold!!)
I always pay upfront.
For some of the higher-end SPs, I'll read their website for instructions, if they have any. Usually I'll place an envelope with the donation in a visible spot before the shower.
For the Asian residential brothels, I'll hand them an envelope within a few minutes of entering, usually when they led me to the room. They are far less particular about how the donation is received. They will often count at the start as they typically join clients in the shower; the ones that know often will not bother with verifying the content.
Clients should pay upfront without having to be asked. It's the right thing to do.
There is power imbalance at play, especially for SPs that do not have the benefit of a screening practice. It's a given that SPs want to be paid upfront. It's not just uncomfortable for SPs to ask, it puts them at risk when clients get away without paying upfront. They are likely to be concerned about not being paid. Or worse, there are clients that will strategically withhold for leverage to push boundaries.
For some of the higher-end SPs, I'll read their website for instructions, if they have any. Usually I'll place an envelope with the donation in a visible spot before the shower.
For the Asian residential brothels, I'll hand them an envelope within a few minutes of entering, usually when they led me to the room. They are far less particular about how the donation is received. They will often count at the start as they typically join clients in the shower; the ones that know often will not bother with verifying the content.
Clients should pay upfront without having to be asked. It's the right thing to do.
There is power imbalance at play, especially for SPs that do not have the benefit of a screening practice. It's a given that SPs want to be paid upfront. It's not just uncomfortable for SPs to ask, it puts them at risk when clients get away without paying upfront. They are likely to be concerned about not being paid. Or worse, there are clients that will strategically withhold for leverage to push boundaries.
Regardless of how frequently I have been with a partner, it has never dawned on me not to make sure she is compensated at or near the beginning.
At the latest, after the socializing/chitchat is over and always before I head into the shower facilities.
I always want my partners at their best and believe not having this trivial item occupy any space in our heads is a no-brainer.
I find this helps in particular if your tendency is to tip and/or overpay.
Especially with a newer partner, I find it is a sign that I would appreciate their best service.
Even in instances with someone I have seen many times and they fluff it off or tell me not to worry about it right then, I always like to get it taken care of.
More often than not I am leaving an appointment early or potentially in a hurry and I do not want to be fumbling around when I am focusing on something else I need to get to.
At the latest, after the socializing/chitchat is over and always before I head into the shower facilities.
I always want my partners at their best and believe not having this trivial item occupy any space in our heads is a no-brainer.
I find this helps in particular if your tendency is to tip and/or overpay.
Especially with a newer partner, I find it is a sign that I would appreciate their best service.
Even in instances with someone I have seen many times and they fluff it off or tell me not to worry about it right then, I always like to get it taken care of.
More often than not I am leaving an appointment early or potentially in a hurry and I do not want to be fumbling around when I am focusing on something else I need to get to.
