What's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

Jenesis

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You make the assumption here that a person knows when entering into a relationship how things are going to work out. We don't, so often we make things up on the fly as best we can.

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By the way - I've read through the entire thread and whether you intend to or not and whether you realize it or not you are sounding very judgemental, regardless of how much you protest that "I said I'm not judging." Saying that is generally a sign that you realize that you at least sound like you are judging.
By the way - I've read through the entire thread and whether you intend to or not and whether you realize it or not you are sounding very judgemental, regardless of how much you protest that "I said I'm not judging." Saying that is generally a sign that you realize that you at least sound like you are judging.
You are correct I made an assumption but not the one you think. I made the assumption, based on my type of question, that the men I was addressing want to have multiple sex partners.

Maybe I should have made that assertion Or pretext before hand. I am only discussing those men who want multiplied partners. Not men who want a standard relationship and then end up in a sexless one.

Which is another reason why I say I am not judging. Because I completely understand the latter. It is the former I was not getting.

And had you actually read the whole thread, which I don’t believe you have at all, you would see where and why I was questioning the former. I did just spill my relationship life story all over this thread.

But you are free to disagree. I know my truth and am not going to lose sleep because a couple of a people on the internet don’t believe me. The majority got it and understood where I was coming from. That is a count I can live with.
 

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And I did not actually accuse you of judging anyone. I did suggest that the way you were writing could sound judgemental to some - which you, yourself, implicitly acknowledge by repeatedly falling back on saying "I'm not judging."

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All I can say now is - have a good day.
So your talking in circles. Ok. Good to know.

Have an equally good day.
 

coolmanfever

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Thanks for sharing your experience with us. Do you normally go to agency in those countries or you find yourself a tour guide to find the ladies?
I use this to do all my research. Part of fun of hobbying :) Read other horn dogs war stories
 

torex

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wow I just realized I've been a member of this board since 2001...although I've been out of the hobby for 10 plus yrs I do like to see the odd special lady when I get the urge..as we get older and being in a marriage where the sex starts to become non existent ,one has to fulfill his desires some way....sometimes it's not even about the sex with me but more about enjoying a lady's beautiful body, the tease and foreplay ,meeting and the excitement building up to it
 
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Bobzilla

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Ya maybe. I don’t think I will ever get it. Even it if was as easy to explain as 2-2=0.

I understand that people feel they need to lie when married, or committed. Need to lie to friends and family and it is not like I have never told a lie before, I will just never under feeling joy from lying. I guess that is the part I am missing.

Some people get serious joy out of knowing they are betraying (not just in this industry but in general) someone they care about. I don’t think I could say I truly cared for someone if I got joy out of that. Not to be confused with adrenaline that happens because that part of the “trill” I understand.
Agreed. I think a lot of people don't want to turn their lives upside down, so instead of having a conversation or ending the relationship, they simply think they can just have both, & just end one whenever they want. And you're right, they don't care about the other person enough to not be upfront about it. It's not even so much about taking joy out of it. If they can't/won't be upfront with their SO, the relationship is likely just a sham anyway.

Regardless, it likely can't be pinned down to just one factor.
 

squiffynimrod

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You make the assumption here that a person knows when entering into a relationship how things are going to work out. We don't, so often we make things up on the fly as best we can.

When my wife and I married there was not a thought in my mind that I would ever "step out." Things happened over the course of time. Without going into detail (because they aren't necessary) medical things happened - with me. I became unable to have normal sexual intercourse after some surgery many years ago. I could still get erections; I still had the desire but sexual intercourse is physically uncomfortable for me and I can't maintain the erection. Somehow anything other than normal sexual intercourse was just not something my wife could handle. Oral sex, mutual masturbation - whatever. Just didn't appeal to her. She tried a bit, she didn't enjoy it, she didn't want to, it showed and with her not into it it wasn't fun at all. I wasn't going to force the issue and for a while I stayed "faithful" but without any sexual intimacy other forms of intimacy faded away as well. It's not so much that we were unhappy. I'd even say we became friends - but with no benefits, so to speak. Divorce or separation would be complicated for many reasons. So we stay together, we get along. But I found after a while that I needed physical intimacy; frankly, some relief. I don't really want to have another real "relationship." How do you start anything "real" with a woman only to reach the point of having to say, "by the way. There's something we can never, ever do." This was how I could find it. Escorts might actually appreciate a nice guy who's not especially demanding sexually and who enjoys giving pleasure as much (at times maybe even more) as getting it. My wife, I think, might know (or at least suspect) but we haven't talked about it nor will we.

I've been on "sabbattical" now for seven months because of COVID. I have people around me who are immuno-compromised and I need this thing under much better control than it has been before I can feel comfortable going back. I miss the girl I had been seeing regularly for a year and a half and I fear that I might never see her again. It's a very frustrating time to be honest - it reminds me of the first few months after intimacy stopped in my marriage.

By the way - I've read through the entire thread and whether you intend to or not and whether you realize it or not you are sounding very judgemental, regardless of how much you protest that "I said I'm not judging." Saying that is generally a sign that you realize that you at least sound like you are judging.
This is so very close to my situation, without having the underlying medical issue.
Feel for ya, brother.
 

Mishman527

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My first exposure was a MP because my friend from the US was visiting and heard we had Spa's in Canada so we went together.

I got full service in that first ever session without even paying anything extra. It was not asked for& I didn't know how it all worked at the time.

A couple months later I was high & had some drinks, browsed backpage and pulled the trigger. It was an awesome experience. She was really nice & gave me her personal number rather than a burner.

Then I ended up meeting with some friends who did it too. You can say perhaps they helped to normalize things and encouraged it. They made me agware of agencies which I started to use.

We would discuss SPs and give each other feedback & recommendations and point out who to avoid.

It was agencies for some years, trying all the options. Had some unforgettable sessions.

Then I narrowed down and would just repeat a select few for years.

Once my financial situation got better I then went on to try independents.

During this time I had civie relationships...but the issue is that the SP's were consistently better. The service I got was better. Even small things like hygiene was always consistently good while civies I had to ask them to wash up before continuing.

Over all, the sex is better with SP's. Also as a man, I like a variety of pussy and not just one forever.
 

kelisizeng

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A friend actually introduced me to the MP scene when I broke up with my girlfriend, almost 15 years ago. The girl I saw amazed me. I've been hobbying ever since when I'm not dating someone - for me, it's just for the intimacy when I'm not getting any, so I have months where I'm seeing an MP/SP every week, and then months where I'm dating someone and I don't. BUT, over a bunch of failed relationships in the last 15 years - I've said I've gone seen and MP/SP EVERY single time I broke up with a girl.
 

Robertshan

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I think we are having a disconnect because you are equating extramarital sex with cheating and potentially ending the marriage, while I am equating lack of sex in a marriage with potentially ending it.

I'm saying why would you walk away from a good marriage just because of lack of sex. It's better to just outsource that part of the relationship.
I'm saying why would you walk away from a good marriage just because of lack of sex. It's better to just outsource that part of the relationship. Wowwww!!!! WIll remember it.
 

outtasight

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I went on a date a while ago with someone I met online. With 80% of dates she's probably not "the one" but nice enough and would probably follow up with (provided she wanted to see you again too of course). Old me would've continued because I wanted intimacy/sex/whatever and it would've eventually fizzled out when one of us got distracted or started a fight. I probably spent $130 that date for dinner/drinks/whatever. It would've cost another however much before we became intimate.

On the other hand $160-$250 gives me what I want physically without all the drama and courtship time. It frees up my time to focus on the 20% that could be "the one" or work on myself/family/etc. Plus I get to control who and when versus the total crapshoot that's the dating world.

Maybe my mind's messed up but that's how it works.
 
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Sonic Temple

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You make the assumption here that a person knows when entering into a relationship how things are going to work out. We don't, so often we make things up on the fly as best we can.

When my wife and I married there was not a thought in my mind that I would ever "step out." Things happened over the course of time. Without going into detail (because they aren't necessary) medical things happened - with me. I became unable to have normal sexual intercourse after some surgery many years ago. I could still get erections; I still had the desire but sexual intercourse is physically uncomfortable for me and I can't maintain the erection. Somehow anything other than normal sexual intercourse was just not something my wife could handle. Oral sex, mutual masturbation - whatever. Just didn't appeal to her. She tried a bit, she didn't enjoy it, she didn't want to, it showed and with her not into it it wasn't fun at all. I wasn't going to force the issue and for a while I stayed "faithful" but without any sexual intimacy other forms of intimacy faded away as well. It's not so much that we were unhappy. I'd even say we became friends - but with no benefits, so to speak. Divorce or separation would be complicated for many reasons. So we stay together, we get along. But I found after a while that I needed physical intimacy; frankly, some relief. I don't really want to have another real "relationship." How do you start anything "real" with a woman only to reach the point of having to say, "by the way. There's something we can never, ever do." This was how I could find it. Escorts might actually appreciate a nice guy who's not especially demanding sexually and who enjoys giving pleasure as much (at times maybe even more) as getting it. My wife, I think, might know (or at least suspect) but we haven't talked about it nor will we.

I've been on "sabbattical" now for seven months because of COVID. I have people around me who are immuno-compromised and I need this thing under much better control than it has been before I can feel comfortable going back. I miss the girl I had been seeing regularly for a year and a half and I fear that I might never see her again. It's a very frustrating time to be honest - it reminds me of the first few months after intimacy stopped in my marriage.

By the way - I've read through the entire thread and whether you intend to or not and whether you realize it or not you are sounding very judgemental, regardless of how much you protest that "I said I'm not judging." Saying that is generally a sign that you realize that you at least sound like you are judging.
Excellently put my friend. Thanks for sharing. Here's to finding relief.
 

Sonic Temple

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I want to acknowledge and thank Paisley for being such a sweet, warm, and giving individual. Without that overwhelmingly positive experience with her, I may have not have gone down this path.

By any chance would this be the same Paisley at HPL?
 
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Akila Besos

Well hmm i started in 2015 or 16 as an SP ...found an agency i really liked made me feel good about my body and myself overall.
Then after I moved around onto two more agency I took a break because life was getting crazy

Fast forward to know and I am missing the life I once had and the fun interactions I had with others

Sides why can't I share what I learned about my sexual with others who I may connect with.

Also being an SP taught me that I deserve respect and that I must love myself before others can :)

Sides pleasing others is what I enjoyed the most about that job and is what I wish to do again ^-^
 

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A sexless marriage going on 8 years (zero sex or affection) too financially entangled to divorce. Much less expensive to see an sp occasionally than give away what I have built up. Marriage counselling has not worked. Still sleeping in separate rooms. Seeing beautiful young SPs 20+ or 30+ keeps me sane. Thank god we have SPs!
Same here, we are still friends and do stuff together, but the relationship has lost the intimacy, SP's fill a big void and help life go on.
 
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