What's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?
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Married young. We had barely started building a life together when she was taken tragically. Shattered my heart. Then came the pills. Once I cleaned up my act, I tried dating again, only to have my heart broken again and again. Turned to sex workers as I had no heart left.
Someone has recently come into my life who has started making me think life is worth living again. The chemistry is great, and she has a heart of gold, but her communication skills are sh*t. I don't know - maybe heartless hobbying is better at my age.
Someone has recently come into my life who has started making me think life is worth living again. The chemistry is great, and she has a heart of gold, but her communication skills are sh*t. I don't know - maybe heartless hobbying is better at my age.
Having to make the statement that you are not judging, ironically, is pointing out that you are.
LJ
Well, Jenesis, I generally find that both sexes/human beings are selfish, even if both sexes decide it's okay to find someone else, it's actually not okay because pride/ego is always in the way.
For example, on my previous post, I have mention a girl name Amelia (not her real name), she knew that I love her a lot. But she only wants to be friends cause she thinks I'm a good guy to hang around (just platonic relationship). However, I cannot be her friend because I can't stand seeing her being with another guy. Especially when she is married to another person beside me (NOTE: She married the other guy the day after my birthday). Is it jealous or pride? Who knows, and I don't care what you tell me. I know for sure that I can't be her friend because I'll definitely be a shitty friend, I'll have zero patient with our conversation, and I'll be passion-aggressive with her all the time. So, isn't better live our separate lives? Why force the situation?
Indeed, there are some people who are down-to-earth, and willing to accept the circumstances (such as being in open relationship). It rarely happens so, I don't consider it as a norm in our society.
P.S. I'm sorry for your lost, Jenesis. May your mother rest in peace.
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Hmm no, I’m pointing it out because some have made the mistake of thinking so. Too be sure, I reiterated.
There is a difference.
Living with parents until late 20's, so close to no privacy and semi-broke as hell. And with girls I knew, I ended up always in the friend zone.
Once I was able to move out, dating wasn't easy either. On a serendipitous way, one day I had some sore muscles and asked myself "why not visit one of these persons with massage ads in Craigslist?". The person I visited is an actually trained masseuse in China and, at the end of the massage, she asked how I was feeling, as most masseuse would usually ask. Since she wasn't an RMT and she was looking past 40 with at least a child (the massage was at her house and it was obvious there was another person living there), I took a chance complementing her looks and the way she massaged by bump and lower legs gave me a hard on, which was obvious when I flipped but the sheets were still on. Without any hesitation, she just said, "oh, happy ending for $X". I haven't looked back since, slowly creeping in the HS and then FS, though my preference is massage followed by HJ.
I did end up in dating down the road but things never materialized, mostly because the girls I met and I didn't click. The fact my job then required me to travel frequently didn't help with social life. But, now that I am in my 50s, where you are starting to be set in your ways, finding that person becomes more difficult. I do have a FWB and she is great. But, somewhat similar to me, she is set in her ways and agree that, while we are OK getting together for the occasional sex, it won't work for us as a couple.
Once I was able to move out, dating wasn't easy either. On a serendipitous way, one day I had some sore muscles and asked myself "why not visit one of these persons with massage ads in Craigslist?". The person I visited is an actually trained masseuse in China and, at the end of the massage, she asked how I was feeling, as most masseuse would usually ask. Since she wasn't an RMT and she was looking past 40 with at least a child (the massage was at her house and it was obvious there was another person living there), I took a chance complementing her looks and the way she massaged by bump and lower legs gave me a hard on, which was obvious when I flipped but the sheets were still on. Without any hesitation, she just said, "oh, happy ending for $X". I haven't looked back since, slowly creeping in the HS and then FS, though my preference is massage followed by HJ.
I did end up in dating down the road but things never materialized, mostly because the girls I met and I didn't click. The fact my job then required me to travel frequently didn't help with social life. But, now that I am in my 50s, where you are starting to be set in your ways, finding that person becomes more difficult. I do have a FWB and she is great. But, somewhat similar to me, she is set in her ways and agree that, while we are OK getting together for the occasional sex, it won't work for us as a couple.
Not sure if anyone thought about this as well but reading these, it should be clear to everyone as it is for me that this industry serves a real purpose... isn't going anywhere (there were sustainability doubts a few months ago, no?).
Anyway my story just to chime in. I was in a highly demanding work situation, terribly consistent work and life imbalance (or lack of even), started with decompressing at strip clubs, then discovered this world (I can't remember exactly how I stumbled on it). To my surprise, I met quite a few wonderful people here... admirable even, which in the past I would not have expected due to my own misunderstanding of this world. Not as active as before these days but I still monitor this board and look for opportunities. =)
This is one of the few posts that I enjoy reading here. Thanks for sharing, everyone.
Anyway my story just to chime in. I was in a highly demanding work situation, terribly consistent work and life imbalance (or lack of even), started with decompressing at strip clubs, then discovered this world (I can't remember exactly how I stumbled on it). To my surprise, I met quite a few wonderful people here... admirable even, which in the past I would not have expected due to my own misunderstanding of this world. Not as active as before these days but I still monitor this board and look for opportunities. =)
This is one of the few posts that I enjoy reading here. Thanks for sharing, everyone.
Yeah these. And no civilian woman wants to know when her man comes home that he’s just had a 22-year-old hottie sitting on his face.
I’d bet good money that this hobby saves more marriages than it kills.
That’s not the way it works. The chances of getting married to someone who is accepting of an open marriage is likely .03%. Plus, it would certainly limit the quality of women to marry. It’s best to never have that conversation. We love our wives and separate ourselves for sex. A hobby is smart and transactional. So is out of town random hit and runs. But an affair, that’s a slippery rope for sure
Wow. So only homely women will accept an open relationship? LOL. Ok.
When I was young, I always have problem talking to girls especially hot girls. I got fed up and lost my virginity to a hot MPA at age 21 back in Asia. Ever since then, I have been a horn dog and enjoying pay for sex with different types of girls. Did the whole sex tourist things in South America, Europe, and Asia with couple of my horn dog college buddies. Traveling around the world and pay for sex became a hobby I would enjoy with my buddies. The most I enjoy about this pay for sex hobby is "varieties". To this day, I have never pay for sex with the same girl more than once.
Currently I am happily married and settled down in GTA but the horn dog in me still lives and participate in this hobby. My spouse is their most important business partner, friend, parent of my children, and my suga mama. I am glad GTA has such vibrate scene of different types and colors of SP to enjoy. My wife is horny as hell once a week and we have wild sex. But the horn dog in me still live.
Currently I am happily married and settled down in GTA but the horn dog in me still lives and participate in this hobby. My spouse is their most important business partner, friend, parent of my children, and my suga mama. I am glad GTA has such vibrate scene of different types and colors of SP to enjoy. My wife is horny as hell once a week and we have wild sex. But the horn dog in me still live.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us. Do you normally go to agency in those countries or you find yourself a tour guide to find the ladies?
A sexless marriage going on 8 years (zero sex or affection) too financially entangled to divorce. Much less expensive to see an sp occasionally than give away what I have built up. Marriage counselling has not worked. Still sleeping in separate rooms. Seeing beautiful young SPs 20+ or 30+ keeps me sane. Thank god we have SPs!
For a lot of people, it's the thrill of doing something that you know you shouldn't be doing. For some reason, it seems to add a bit of extra spice to the act itself.
Ya maybe. I don’t think I will ever get it. Even it if was as easy to explain as 2-2=0.
I understand that people feel they need to lie when married, or committed. Need to lie to friends and family and it is not like I have never told a lie before, I will just never under feeling joy from lying. I guess that is the part I am missing.
Some people get serious joy out of knowing they are betraying (not just in this industry but in general) someone they care about. I don’t think I could say I truly cared for someone if I got joy out of that. Not to be confused with adrenaline that happens because that part of the “trill” I understand.
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My thoughts are you were just his crutch. His marriage was done, so wife didn't care. You were his only other emotional outlet, he cheated because he is a serial cheater. You were emotionally invested, despite your denial, otherwise why did you stay? We are complicated beings, emotions is the reason why. For him, he is just an asshole who needed to feel in control, do what he wants, do what he thinks, no consequences. When you made that easy, he had no challenge and decided to push the envelope by lying and cheating on you.
I was you in my relationship. She is a serial cheater, very much in need of attention and needed it constantly. I am sorry for the next guy in her life.
For me I started in this hobby cuz it was difficult getting into relationships, I either never picked up on the signals or was too shy. Started when I started working, took the plunge out of desperation. Then being more comfortable with women, I started having relationships but it never lasted long, was cheated on, exgf broke me good. Dived back into the hobby and never looked back until I settled down.. marriage went sour, never cheated but got accused many times.. it was justification for her to cheat.. she was good at lying.. still is.
I think you are confused. I never said I didn’t care about him. I did or you’re right, I would not have stayed. At least until it got abusive and I got struck in the trap. I mean I made it out clear, but there was a stuck period there fore sure.
What I didn’t care about him fucking other women. I didn’t and still don’t. I am fine with all that.
But you may have hit on something. I suppose to have an issue with having sex with others and because I didn’t, that took the control out of it.
The one thing that would get me is lying though. So Ya, I think you may have nailed it there. For him anyway. That was his joy. Feeling he had the power over me because he had the truth and I had the lie.
Thanks for that.
