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What to do? (Weird Question)

MissCroft said:
Yes, I guess I know that. :( I would still like to try maintain a friendship with him though.
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you know it is a bad idea.... your a smart girl DECLINE...
 
Marla said:
This gives me the creeps and feels almost like stalking. You say you want to be friends with him but he is still wrapped up emotionally in you. it is best to sever all ties with him through a polite conversation.
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Seriously stalking ... Where do you get that from . He wants to see her and get it one more time . He is willing to pay her for that . How is that stalking ??? Is he calling her steady and bothering her ??? Is he following her around to see what she is doing ??? No . None of these things . She still wants to be friends with him .

Some of you ladies take this stalking word a bit tooooo far . Have you ever tried to call someone a few times and not get an answer . Are you now a stalker by doing that . The minute some poor guy tries to see someone he's now classified as a stalker . Geesh

What about clients who call or text you a few times and you have not got back to them . Are they stalkers as well ???

Think about what is happening in every case before you start using the stalking word . I've had ladies contact me to see if I'm available . If I don't feel like it then I don't answer the text or call . What if they try a few times . OH my goodness , these ladies are stalkers . LOL
 
John Henry said:
Seriously stalking ... Where do you get that from . He wants to see her and get it one more time . He is willing to pay her for that . How is that stalking ??? Is he calling her steady and bothering her ??? Is he following her around to see what she is doing ??? No . None of these things . She still wants to be friends with him .

Some of you ladies take this stalking word a bit tooooo far . Have you ever tried to call someone a few times and not get an answer . Are you now a stalker by doing that . The minute some poor guy tries to see someone he's now classified as a stalker . Geesh

What about clients who call or text you a few times and you have not got back to them . Are they stalkers as well ???

Think about what is happening in every case before you start using the stalking word . I've had ladies contact me to see if I'm available . If I don't feel like it then I don't answer the text or call . What if they try a few times . OH my goodness , these ladies are stalkers . LOL
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I completely agree. He's been called a stalker and accused of being too emotionally attached and can't let go.

Further to my point earlier, maybe the sex was just too good & he doesn't want to be friends or anything further.

Not to be crude but he probably just 'wants the pussy'.

Since he knew about MissCroft's profession and was okay with it, he just might be mature and 'together' enough to handle the client/sp relationship.

The assumption that he's some crazed/lovesick ex isn't fair to the guy AND doesn't say much about MissCroft's choice in men.

And 'no' I'm NOT him! :)

CB
 
MissCroft said:
I dated this guy briefly last year...nice guy but I realized it wasn't really going anywhere so I ended it. The last couple of times I bumped into him he asked me to go home with him and I declined.

Anyway, he texted last night saying that if I won't have sex with him, can he hire me? (Yes, he knew about this part of my life and was okay with it). I think he was being serious....but that would be a little strange for me.

Thoughts?
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Do not pass go, do not collect dollars.
Very bad idea.
 
While you were dating did you have sex with him? If so then definitely you should not see him as a client.
 
great bear said:
CC, you are one of the brightest posters here. You know the answer: Keep it platonic. GB
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Amen. Continuing further down this road will only lead to heartache.

You dumped him -he should stay dumped.
 
red said:
You dumped him -he should stay dumped.
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That's really all there is to say I guess. End of discussion..... thank you everyone for your advice. :) It was a platonic friendship that turned into something more and now it looks like we have to part ways....

I think he is far from being a stalker. Don't view him like that at all.


Chloe
 
This is a tough situation Chloe. I hope he handles it well. You're such a great person to want to remain friends, but that does present a problem since he knows what you do for a living. Regardless, just being friends can be difficult after you've been in a sexual relationship.
 
If you really just want to be friends, that's going to take a while, possibly years. He'll have to view you in a different way and that can come with time.

For now...if you have sex, well everything will be more confused. Only you know why you parted ways, and if that is un-doable.
 
Marla said:
This gives me the creeps and feels almost like stalking. You say you want to be friends with him but he is still wrapped up emotionally in you. it is best to sever all ties with him through a polite conversation.
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An irresponsible and accusational post.

"stalker"??? "emotionally wrapped up" ???

REALLY ???
 
MissCroft said:
Yes, I guess I know that. :( I would still like to try maintain a friendship with him though.
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Its interesting, you still seemed to have sparks of interest for him as a friend, problem for him is he screwed it up by asking you for this request. I can see your Dilemma.
 
Titalian said:
MissCroft, what is the time frame between when you broke it off and when you met him again ? My second question is Why do you want to maintain the friendship ?
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About a month. I see him from time to time as we live fairly close to each other and are in the same social circle.
 
It's good you can still be civil with him.
Don't judge him harshly for mentioning paying for sex, it might have been a fleeting thought. It's rare to meet decent guys who can accept you as an escort.
 
I find it a little strange that someone who dated you would want to hire you. Does the fact that you have the same social circle cause concern for you considering your business or is that a non factor?
 
goalie000 said:
I find it a little strange that someone who dated you would want to hire you. Does the fact that you have the same social circle cause concern for you considering your business or is that a non factor?
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I think most of my social circle knows so it's not really an issue in that regard. With that said, he said he would never tell anyone. Still, I'm not going to do it.
 
There are lovers and there are clients, the two shouldn't mix. It will get pear shaped in a hurry luv.
 
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