What is Wrong with People? I did not deserve what happened to me today!

[sasemohan123]

My $.02
I've been a victim of road rage on Hw400 south, i guess whatever happened before is no justification for follwing someone for 20 minutes on the highway and shining highbeam on his ass all the time. It was the night before Valentine day last year, idid not call the cop 'cause i did not want to spoil his partner's day, and i 've been wonder the whole year 'bout my decision, especially seen road rage happen al the time again and again.
For you i think it is up to you to deal with it the way you want. First and formost, i think you are protected from abusing behaviors even verbal abused ones, all you have to do is turn around and calmly ask him if he is addressing you, that confirmed dial 911 and let the cop deal with him, you have all the witnesses there. And remember we are not little kids, no excuse for him like, you first or me first, just abusive behaviour is unacceptable in this society. Ithink you could have sue his sorry ass for all that abuse.
OR you could just ignore him and forgive him for all his mental troubles, knowing he have a problem not you.
In any case do not feel you are in anyway a victim because: they can only do to you what you allow them to do. Feel empowered to deal with it strongly next time, and feel good about yourself. But next time WILL come, believe me.

 

[fmahovalich]

Again - I will repeat..you really cannot control the OTHER PERSON..in the moment..whether it is a grocery line or road rage.

Guys can be jerks!! On the road or in the lineup.

But again..I repeat..the only emotion and action we can surely control is our own. And to that end - I would strongly suggest that Molly be ready at the check out counter with her cash or debit - and certainly do not answer the phone!

Now of course..some will argue she did fine and can do as she like..and to that I say - YES SHE CAN - but for the impatient guy with rage issues behind her - she may create the same scenario. And on a lessor note it is somewhat rude to answer your telephone while interacting with another person.

If your phone vibrated as you approached the coffin in a funeral home would you answer it..I think not. Same while interacting with another person - until you have cleared them or excused yourself to another private area....the grocery line is not the place to answer the phone!!!

 

[simon482]

I'm glad you are certain you would have spoken up for Molly. I hope I would have the courage to do the same, but I can't say for certain unless I would actually be in that situation.

holy shit look at you being honest and shit.

 

[fmahovalich]

Way too many thread hijackers in here!!

WE are talking about an interaction in a grocery lineup.


Molly - who allegedly held a guy up by being slow and answering her phone in the line- up.

Rage Guy - WHo yelled bad things at her for doing so...

The comments should be restricted to the interaction and actions of these two people.

All other comments and infighting between posters should be restrained!!

 

[krayjee]

Again - I will repeat..you really cannot control the OTHER PERSON..in the moment..whether it is a grocery line or road rage.

Guys can be jerks!! On the road or in the lineup.

But again..I repeat..the only emotion and action we can surely control is our own. And to that end - I would strongly suggest that Molly be ready at the check out counter with her cash or debit

Well said.. what we are missing here is not realising the fact we cannot change people. Any body here ever wonder of what the out come might be if Molly had turned around and told the gentleman "Oh I am sorry" and asked the cashier to let him go through first? We cannot judge a person just by what Molly mentioned here. He might be a jerk, he might be in a hurry himself or he might had some issues in himself. Who knows?

 

[Brill]

We can change people.

I bet if Molly had given him a long hug and told him she understood his feelings he would have been crying and unleashed a river of emotion.
She is more powerful than him in some ways.

 

[Thousand]

We cannot judge a person just by what Molly mentioned here. He might be a jerk, he might be in a hurry himself or he might had some issues in himself. Who knows?

He is a bully. I don't care if he has issue or not, or if he is mentally challenged. The fact is, a grown man yelled at a helpless woman at a line up. It is just not right!

BTW: The guy was not in a hurry given that fact that he waited around outside the store.

 

[Thousand]

We can change people.

I bet if Molly had given him a long hug and told him she understood his feelings he would have been crying and unleashed a river of emotion.
She is more powerful than him in some ways.

Yeah, or just change his perspective... Molly should just tell him, "I am sorry, my husband died just a couple of days ago, and I am having a hard time focusing. I am truly sorry. Please go first." Then get a tissue to wipe her tears. It should make him think twice before opening his mouth.

It may not work if she is checking out with boxes and boxes of condoms.

 

[Bale]

Let voice mail pick up. It'll save you from having to go through this kind of experience again. Two minutes isn't a big wait for your client.

 

[chargerfan]

maybe he just recognized the ridicilous rates you charge...

 

[The Fruity Hare]

Let voice mail pick up. It'll save you from having to go through this kind of experience again. Two minutes isn't a big wait for your client.

Maybe you haven't read all the threads from prospective clients complaining about SPs who don't answer their phone each time they call. Also, most SPs will respect privacy and not call you back, so she may indeed be out of pocket if the guy decides to call someone else.

maybe he just recognized the ridicilous rates you charge...

You are so right! Maybe we should hunt down all SPs who dare to charge more than $120 an hour and threaten and harrass them in public. That will teach them a lesson!! NOT!

 

[sleazure]

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Then out of no where he starts yelling and he says "you stupid bitch why can't you get your fucking shit together"
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What dumbfounds me the most is not one person said anything to this person

Everyone probably assumed you were together. Sounds like a typical trip to the store for a lot of the old married couples I know!

 

[The Fruity Hare]

Everyone probably assumed you were together. Sounds like a typical trip to the store for a lot of the old married couples I know!

I was in Shoppers recently during the day and some guy standing near the check out was out of his head on something. He was staring at people, smiling and mumbling something. When I lined up, he was still there and got in line 2 people behind me. He started talking to the lady behind me who looked to be in her 50's and asked where she was from.

She said she was Korean, he smiled knowingly and said, "my parents are from Japan". He was white. Then he realized he had made a mistake, and said, "oh no, they are from Scotland and Ireland". I think she was glad she was in public with people around her, but from Molly's story, even that is not encouraging these days.

 

[Bale]

Maybe you haven't read all the threads from prospective clients complaining about SPs who don't answer their phone each time they call. Also, most SPs will respect privacy and not call you back, so she may indeed be out of pocket if the guy decides to call someone else.

Those threads usually refer to when the client, after having successful communication up to that point, finally arrives at the incall location and the SP then fails to answer after SEVERAL attempts, leading to frustration. I believe in this case the client was just updating Molly about his flight status in which case VM works very well. In regards to discretion, he can dictate this with a simple "I'll try back in a few minutes" OR "Please call me back at this number when you get this message."

 

[The Fruity Hare]

Way too many thread hijackers in here!!

WE are talking about an interaction in a grocery lineup.


Molly - who allegedly held a guy up by being slow and answering her phone in the line- up.

Rage Guy - WHo yelled bad things at her for doing so...

The comments should be restricted to the interaction and actions of these two people.

All other comments and infighting between posters should be restrained!!

Molly has already stated that the phone rang while her items were still being rung up, the guy started mouthing off although he was not being held up at the time.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Molly has already stated that the phone rang while her items were still being rung up, the guy started mouthing off although he was not being held up at the time.

Thank you for clarifying this again. FMahovolich, you stand corrected.

 

[GPIDEAL]

But again..I repeat..the only emotion and action we can surely control is our own. And to that end - I would strongly suggest that Molly be ready at the check out counter with her cash or debit - and certainly do not answer the phone!

Now of course..some will argue she did fine and can do as she like..and to that I say - YES SHE CAN - but for the impatient guy with rage issues behind her - she may create the same scenario. And on a lessor note it is somewhat rude to answer your telephone while interacting with another person.

If your phone vibrated as you approached the coffin in a funeral home would you answer it..I think not. Same while interacting with another person - until you have cleared them or excused yourself to another private area....the grocery line is not the place to answer the phone!!!

This was not a funeral home or movie theatre where you shut your phone off! I've had people call me in a check out line, but I tell them, 'listen I'll call you right back, I'm at a check out line" and hang up, unless the lady is busy ringing me in, or I have my debit card ready and not delaying anyone while multitasking. It doesn't happen a lot.

It's not like you know when someone will call you. Molly shouldn't tweek or change her behaviour just because of some neurotic, fucking jerk. Those people or situations are unpredictable. From the sounds of it, she was acting reasonably. Molly has a brain, and if there's anyone who knows how to be tactful, it's definitely her. I would hardly call her inconsiderate.

 

[fmahovalich]

I would disagree...and most people who write articles about manners..or have manners...suggest IT IS RUDE to do it in this very situation.


Now the resulting behaviour did not justify the reaction...but it was still not mannerly to talk. Even those on Mollys side are also suggesting ways to do it better.....Perhaps a discreet text back...would have gone more unnoticed....

But it continues to be rude...in my books...to be on a phone while dealing with a cashier....

 

[simon482]

I would disagree...and most people who write articles about manners..or have manners...suggest IT IS RUDE to do it in this very situation.


Now the resulting behaviour did not justify the reaction...but it was still not mannerly to talk. Even those on Mollys side are also suggesting ways to do it better.....Perhaps a discreet text back...would have gone more unnoticed....

But it continues to be rude...in my books...to be on a phone while dealing with a cashier....

gonna have to agree with you about the cell thing for the most part. if i am talking to someone and the phone rings and they do anything other than check who it is i consider that to be etremely rude and ignorant. it compares to being at a party and talking to someone and halfway threw the conversation just walking away and going to talk to someone else.

the part i disagree on is that most people are not in a line up to have a chat with a cashier and other then "hi" or "yes i would like a bag" there is no conversation and it is not your best buddy. so talking on a cell in a line at a store is not ignorant and if you are not holding the lne up then there is no issue to be had at all.

how ever any of us want to put it and want to say all the bullshit you have said this guy was out of line IF shit went down the way it was told to us and i have no reason to not believe molly.

 

[VanessaGreen]

You are "extremely" sensitive, cause their would be no way in hell that goof would say two words to me before he see's my fist! I don't know it might be the Caribbean side cuming out of me but I would of punched that fuckin' ediot in the jaw so fuckin' hard he'd be choking on his fuckin' teeth - pardon my french It's a good thing I wasn't there I'd probably have an assult charge cause he would've been the victim! Hope your ok and blessed none the less xoxo Lots and lots of LOVE!!!!