I hope SPs here will come out and tell us. Otherwise, we would be all guessing. Do they have a normal relationship and their bfs are cool with what they do? Do they hide it completely from their bfs? Are they single because they haven't met a guy who is okay with what they do. Do they even look among their clients like a needle in a haystack for someone that they actually like? Or maybe they are just totally independent and only care about making a living for themselves? Perhaps some guys here know because they actually asked them this question.
What is the love life of SPs like?
- Thread starter hyperdog
- Start date
They'll tell you that they're just like everyone else (maybe a bit more complicated) -- there are ups and downs. I'm 99% sure they don't look at johns as a potential mate. I assume they'll eventually leave this business and the last thing they want is their SO be a part of their "old" life. Maybe even a bit hypocritical (I can be a SP but my SO cannot be a john?). I think (if you believe him) goalie000 is going out with a sex worker. Maybe he can jump in and say something about his relationship.
I forgot that their SP career may be very short-lived. In that case, I am guessing that most of them will eventually marry a man that they meet after they have quit, and not tell them of their past of course. And during their short career, they just don't really care because most relationships they go into they know won't last?
LOL
over the years we have seen many threads like this one.
Why is it so difficult to believe that Sp's have normal lifes outside of ''work'' ?
we have families, friends, Christmas dinners, Birthdays, bank accounts, investments, cars, cats, dogs, just like non-SP's and like to go to Dairy Queen for cookie dough blizzards
( ok maybe just me on that one)
a relationship can NOT be successful if it is based on a lie from the beginning , how does that differ from anyone else ?
over the years we have seen many threads like this one.
Why is it so difficult to believe that Sp's have normal lifes outside of ''work'' ?
we have families, friends, Christmas dinners, Birthdays, bank accounts, investments, cars, cats, dogs, just like non-SP's and like to go to Dairy Queen for cookie dough blizzards
( ok maybe just me on that one)
a relationship can NOT be successful if it is based on a lie from the beginning , how does that differ from anyone else ?
most SP's are just like strippers from what I gathered... They just have bf's outside of work and the bf's are cool with it.
Ok, then I mean SPs that actually offer sex, not strippers are messeuses.
Well if all SPs are 100% honest with the men they date, then we have agree that their options will be limited simply because many men they date cannot accept what they do once they find out. So does that mean that the (honest) SPs will be less picky, or do they still insist that all the qualities that they want in a man be fully met (in addition to them accepting what they do for a living)? If the latter, then I can only imagine that it will be hard for them to find a lover because men that meet their golden standards plus understanding about their career will be very rare.
Well if all SPs are 100% honest with the men they date, then we have agree that their options will be limited simply because many men they date cannot accept what they do once they find out. So does that mean that the (honest) SPs will be less picky, or do they still insist that all the qualities that they want in a man be fully met (in addition to them accepting what they do for a living)? If the latter, then I can only imagine that it will be hard for them to find a lover because men that meet their golden standards plus understanding about their career will be very rare.
SPs are aliens with no feelings so therefore when you ask them this question (and as an SP) I will therefore tell you to mind your own business. Their relationships have nothing to do with their business so by not asking these questions, they are able to keep it seperate.
If an SP found that vertically challenged Cute-Bald was the only guy who could accept her career choice, would she settle and date him or would she keep looking but lie about what they do? How honest are SPs about their profession if they find that their choices are very limited otherwise?
You're really Cute-Bald under another alias, hoping some SP will admit that she'd date him, but knowing that really none ever would. I'm on to you!
I believe I am making a very valid assumption in stating that SPs go on to have normal relationships after they have retired from the business, but they have probably been dishonest to get that relationship. Many probably never disclose that they have been an SP, and many probably underestimate the number of men they have been with. Can you imagine being married to a women for 10 years, and her finally disclosing that she had been an SP and slept with a thousand guys?...it would be enough for the guy to commit suicide.
It's just another male fantasy.
Many males assume an SP's love life must be fantastic with all the things they have learned over the years....
Yes I am seeing an SP in the real world. We do all the same things that other couples do, lol. Yes it is VERY difficult. We met as a provider and client and the relationship developed. There are many other things involved with this relationship which add to the problems. It's hard because I know what she does, but I think it would be harder ifshe was lying about it and I found out what she was doing after the fact. Would I like her to stop? Yes. Would I ask her to stop? No. Because this is something she wants to do at this time and if she stopped because of me then she would hate me for it. So we continue to work on things as they come up.
Did I mention that both parties have to be HONEST with each other as a relationship like this is very HARD at the best of times and both parties have to be willing to fight for the relationship to over come the many difficulties that will arise, one can't hold it together by themselves.
Did I mention that both parties have to be HONEST with each other as a relationship like this is very HARD at the best of times and both parties have to be willing to fight for the relationship to over come the many difficulties that will arise, one can't hold it together by themselves.
Last edited:
My guess is that the SP will initially try to be honest with the men they date. But most of the men they admit their profession to cannot accept it. The ones that do accept it still have a very hard time, like go goalie000 admitted. Eventually, she realizes that she has to start hiding her profession from the men they date, especially since she knows that she will quit the business soon anyway. Some of the men find out her secret one way or another, and the relationship crumbles. When she finally quits the business, she may either be single or dating a man who does not know her secret, and if she eventually marries him, he never know what she used to do for a living. If she is single when she quits, then she lives a normal dating life, but the man she eventually marries will never know her secret either.
Of course, there will be exceptions. But I think the above is the case for the majority.
Of course, there will be exceptions. But I think the above is the case for the majority.
If you already know the answer (or assume that's the answer), why did you ask the question in the first place?
Imagine seeing a guy walking around with a gorgeous woman thinking he's all hot shit because of his arm candy. Meanwhile her former clients are giggling knowing that they had her already, along with 1000s of others.
