it's not really direct advice but I love the quote "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." - Thomas Edison
I like barreling into new things and figuring it out as I go - I've wrecked a lot of stuff along the way. Sure I expect to fail at least at first but it's a great way to learn things. I don't even care if people critically point it out, actually I welcome the feedback. I just view it as something to learn from and build on.
The moving finger writes, and having writ
Moves on. Nor all your piety and wit
Can lure it back to cancel half a line,
Nor all your tears wash out a word of it.
Life is short, enjoy every day as though it is your last. Try something new at least once a week and the worst thing we can do in life is grow old and look back only to think.." I wish I would have...."
Be your own man.Don't worry about what others think.
Many many years ago when I first started going to strip clubs a stripper told me "never believe anything a stripper tells you". Well that seems to be the case with most people.
The best work advice I have ever had is that everyone is replaceable. Too many people get comfortable in their jobs and don't push themselves to be better.
Copy that, but it's not just for work. Many years ago when my kids were in grade school and we were were having company for dinner, my wife cooked up a storm and presented us with lovely meal. All of us thanked her. Then at some point my daughter pointed out how much I depended on my wife, her mother. I said it was good that she's around and does what she does, but if she ever left (or ended up under a bus), things would be difficult for a while, but eventually we would figure out what we needed to do, and carry on. In hindsight this was like a shot across her bow. It was a clear message the world does not owe anyone anything- and that includes me. A previous poster said you should love family without condition or expectation. I'm not sure I fully agree with that, but I'll comment on it later.
Don't trust people who often complain about the way other people are. You'll notice that their usually complaining about traits that they themselves possess and are totally dishonest about who they are.
Do I flatter her? I begged him answer
Do I threaten or cajole or plead?
Do I brood or play the gay romancer?
Said he, smiling, "No indeed"
"How to handle a woman?
Mark me well, I will tell you, sir
The way to handle a woman
Is to love her, simply love her
Merely love her, love her, love her"
I've never understood this. How can one possibly do this??? If it was my last day, I wouldn't go into work which I must do 5 to 6 times a week. I would also be totally careless with my money which just isn't possible. The irony it's these things that make me so miserable.
On my wedding day, my sister told me there are 4 lines I need to learn for a successful marriage:
1. I’m sorry honey
2. It’s all my fault
3. Please forgive me
4. I’ll never do it again
I think that depends on the nature of the transgression. Basically, if you did something that you would never do to someone who was not your spouse, then you crossed a line, and you should rightfully apologize. If you apologized to just to keep the peace, that's wrong.
