how’s your luck been lately? it seems like there’s a lot of trans on seeking now. and a lot of girls who clearly know they are hot and are looking for a lot. i don’t see much of the cute gnds.
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Its always been a bit of a grind and a numbers game on there.
If you're able to meet asap (within 1-2 days of a message) that bumps up your success rate quite a bit. Most of them are tired of wasting time on there.
You can start with a quick video chat and decide off one conversation if you like what you see
Yeah...lol. The girls know they are hot, but its also hard for them to find someone that's willing to meetup asap vs chatting with it going no where. If you show you're decisive and can book asap, they'll perk up
Absolutely. The hot girls get time wasters just like SP’s do, and it’s fucking annoying. For them directly obviously, and for those of us guys who are honestly looking for dates/arrangements. It gives us all a bad name.
You have to walk that fine line between moving too quickly (asking to meet after only one or two simple messages can be seen as pushy and a red flag for girls) and letting them know you’re serious.
What kind of girls do you find on seeking? I have a specific type that makes it easy to filter for via SP/agencies.
(Youthful, often student, pretty face, fun personality who’s generally not around for long)
I figured seeking is a lot more materialistic and I wouldn’t want to deal with the haggling/nagging. Nice to just know the price and pay it
also, any way to get around their selfie verification? After the AM and Tea app hacks I’m extremely reluctant to link any bit of my personal life to this life
(Youthful, often student, pretty face, fun personality who’s generally not around for long)
I figured seeking is a lot more materialistic and I wouldn’t want to deal with the haggling/nagging. Nice to just know the price and pay it
also, any way to get around their selfie verification? After the AM and Tea app hacks I’m extremely reluctant to link any bit of my personal life to this life
Right, I present the first call with them as more of a qualification call. I'm saying indirectly, that I want to have a quick chat, make sure you're normal and if I like you, we can set something up.
But I present this indirectly and not super direct, ex. I've met some weird ppl on here! (I'm sure they have as well). Let's setup a quick video chat and if all goes well, we can setup something very soon/asap.
Goal is to pitch yourself as someone that's picky (in a good way with standards) and not someone who will settle for whoever...
On the call, the goal is to have fun, very light small talk and not make it feel like an interview in any way, then close it with an offer if you like them
Bunch of questions here, I'll just tackle them point form:
- All types of girls on there, some very youthful, very pretty and fun
- When it comes to price, its a little bit of a game. Some of these girls don't want to be Service Providers, but think of themselves as Sugar Babies. It might look the same to us on the outside, but to them, they want to be treated as people first and not take on that tag. Some of these girls are going to school and working, so they do this on the side...
Some on there are SP's masquerading as Sugar Babies, so you have to watch out for that too
I deal with the per date head on - here is my rate per hour, ex $400 and I can cover travel as well, we'll meet in a hotel room - I have my pic on the site, but its private. I made sure that pic is no where else and can't be traced to me online. I share it when we first connect and then unshare later on. That way my pic is never out there. But if you're using your phone number, its like sharing your pic...
- Its a risk you're taking when you go online
- Its still going to be a grind to meet a girl, but I've had a few I've had ongoing relationships with for a while now (3-4 meetups per year)
Use Telegram so that you don't need to share your phone number. I see that WhatsApp is introducing user names so you'll be able to do the same thing there eventually.
Like sps, I’m sure they would rather travel with friends or someone they are actually into.
Can find those that would be happy if you paid for the trip (no other big fees on top of that) - some of these girls are working minimum wage jobs and can't afford to travel
That's valid, each girl will have their own comfort level, if you're just looking for a consistent/longer term side piece, you can do it over WhatsApp
If you want more privacy, Telegram can work too
yes from my limited time in the sugar world I certainly got that impression. Especially if you had a semi regular girl that you had seen a few times and had some chemistry with
Taking her on a trip would be "sugar" since she couldn't or wouldn't want to pay for herself to go
The best sex I've ever had is with sugar babies. While SPs are good, there is almost always a detachment to them, and they usually don't get carried away, and I feel they make an effort not to cum or enjoy the proceedings too much. It IS, in the end, a job for them. Sugar babies usually don't know enough to put up that emotional barrier. It's incredible to be fucking a beautiful 20 something year old without a condom, and she's begging for you to cum in her after you've made her orgasm. They'll stick around after the orgasm, they're usually not in any rush, and for $5-700 for three hours or more. But picking through the ugly ones, the crazy ones, the flaky ones, the bots and scam artists is a real pain in the ass. And then you have to not develop strong feelings on your end, otherwise it WILL go sideways on you.
So all that said, I try to see a mix of the two. Toronto has some pretty fucking amazing sugar babies and lately, especially after COVID, I think they're heads and shoulders better than the SPs here. The best SPs here have become so expensive.
Montreal, the sugar baby/SP competition is closer to par. The SBs there ask for less - less money, less headache... But then the hot SPs there are hot and still pretty cheap.
NYC, the sugar babies are so crazy demanding and expensive that even though they're hot, the headache and cost tips it to SPs. 9 out of 10 SBs demand $1000 per meet, and it's hard to make the hot ones budge from that number.
So all that said, I try to see a mix of the two. Toronto has some pretty fucking amazing sugar babies and lately, especially after COVID, I think they're heads and shoulders better than the SPs here. The best SPs here have become so expensive.
Montreal, the sugar baby/SP competition is closer to par. The SBs there ask for less - less money, less headache... But then the hot SPs there are hot and still pretty cheap.
NYC, the sugar babies are so crazy demanding and expensive that even though they're hot, the headache and cost tips it to SPs. 9 out of 10 SBs demand $1000 per meet, and it's hard to make the hot ones budge from that number.
is it generally safe? And do you try to protect your identity or put it all on the table?
