Sugar Dating Experience
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The basic process that works, is online (seeking site) chatting, move offline, e.g. texting, Telegram, whatever, exchange a couple photos, then get the "gift" figured out before meeting up. Then set up a in person rendezvous asap. I prefer to meet up in a public place, have a drink, coffee, boba, ice cream whatever. If the girl is a straight up pro, she will say she is DTF let's just meet up. That works only if you are very comfortable with the her after the texting part or had a Facetime chat. Since the premise is an ongoing SB/SD relationship, a free non-sexual meet up needs to happen. The guy if it works out should reimburse the girl's Uber, but gotta to see the dynamic. I have had women refuse the money and say, we are going to be special friends, don't worry about it the Uber. Also, there is nothing wrong (and is usually what I do) tell them let's meet up for a drink, if we are "vibing" then we can start the the sugar flowing back in my place after we meet up. I hope that helps with how a SD often goes about the process.
True but for me the initial f2f has been just meet for sex. Again, the old debate about SP v. SB. I call it the drop zone process. You know the feeling of that ride where they drop you? That what I call it for both of us when the door opens.
I have never had a SB ask for a regular allowance. Either they proposed or I proposed the PPM. Essentially an SB is an escort who will not watch the clock, and I'll almost always go out for drinks or dinner. But yes, its basically a discounted escort if you measure it by the length of the date. However, it is different because the woman also chooses the guy. E.g. the exchange of photos, chatting makes it more of a "normal date" but a sure thing to have sex. If the woman is creeped out or finds the guy gross, she can say no. Escorts are pretty much locked into having sex with everyone.
Splenda daddy might be the funniest thing I have seen on this site. Perfect description.
I tired these sites a couple times and frankly it was too much work/effort for me. I would rather just book someone in most cases.
Not necessarily.
I have no data but my guess is that your experience is likely more common. Talking about Sugaring on TERB is likely a very narrow sub-set of the Sugaring experience since we're all 'focussed' on sex , less on relationships, and likely don't have a provider-mentality that SDs are to stereotypically have.
Sbs are generally different from sps in the sense that some don't look at what they do as selling sex. Lol.
Some of the sbs I have seen have been university students. Nurses. Retail workers etc. Before covid I think the range was 250 to 500 max. Now it's around 400 to 500. The talent seems to be dwindling. My wildest slavish sex has been with sbs.
Btw. Do any of you guys get msgs from other members asking for the contact info of sbs. Wtf is wrong with people asking for personal information? Lol
Some of the sbs I have seen have been university students. Nurses. Retail workers etc. Before covid I think the range was 250 to 500 max. Now it's around 400 to 500. The talent seems to be dwindling. My wildest slavish sex has been with sbs.
Btw. Do any of you guys get msgs from other members asking for the contact info of sbs. Wtf is wrong with people asking for personal information? Lol
What you are describing sounds more like findom. The appeal for me is to have something more consistent than an escort, less commitment than a romantic relationship, and a better time/cost ratio than escorts. I have met a couple of women who are clearly out of my league for a relationship, yet our initial meeting allowed us to see that we would enjoy time together with and without clothing. I'm in my 50s and have a dad bod, but everything felt natural with the women I met. They weren't "perfect" porn star types. They were 28 and 32 , pretty, easy to be with, and loved that I respected and listened to them. One woman I met on Seeking joined me for an amazing dinner and we went back to my hotel for a nice unrushed evening. She was curvy, but not BBW, but I sensed that sex had always been about pleasing guys and not ever receiving satisfaction. She never even brought up money, I saw her a few times until life got in the way for both of us. The other woman was naturally pretty, but brilliant as well. We had amazing deep conversations before any clothes came off. The arrangement was PPM but it really did feel like I was helping her with extra cash rather than paying for "get it in, get it off, get it over with". It didn't cost much more than a conventional date, but there was always a guarantee that we would enjoy our time, and that my face would wind up between her legs and she'd return the favour before the night was out
For me that’s the big difference between a SB and an Escort. A SB wants a meet and greet to scope out the guy, see if there is any sort of vibe, and make sure he’s not a creep. I like this and always want a meet and greet for much the same reasons.
In short and over simplified. Sugaring, the SB chooses the guy from a lot of options on a SB site. Escorting, the guys choose the ladies they want to see.
Hahahaha.I looked up the term. Interesting.
1. A man who strives to be a Sugar Daddy but just doesn't have the funds to pull it off.
2. An older man who dates younger women but nowhere near as wealthy as a "sugar daddy." Not quite the same as the real thing.
3. When the guy your dating isn't a millionaire, but still tries to spoil you.
Shrug - maybe. However,
1. My budget is $800-$1,000 per week. I'd rather see two @ $500 then 1 @ $500 plus providing dinners and gifts that just take time and doesn't really change anything. My "love language" is not gift giving
2. Beat me what wealthy and "the real thing" is. I think both of these are manufactured stereotypes or are really statistical outliers.
3. Who isn't a millionaire but I have no desire to spoil anyone. I'm married and I spoil only one person and it's not an SB nor SPs/MPs asking for gifts. It just is.
From the POV that I'm not a 'real' SD, absolutely correct. I treat it as a different form of Leolist.
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This is standard & normal behavior on TERB for SP/SB/MP. There are a few private chat groups where TERB members get together for this explicit reason. I think it's gross and fucked. I should have accepted a few invites so I can screen shot and call them out.
I agree, some of my wildest sex has been with SBs. I've given out referrals to some members who have asked - not phone numbers but seeking names and received a few good ones in return. Nothing wrong with that and kind of like the purpose of this board.
No doubt the SBs are fully aware that you're giving out their private information (who they are, what they're like) because you first asked them if it's ok. Consent is always appropriate right?
how is seeking handles private information? Isn't it public by definition? Or even saying that PinkCherry12345 is good at sucking dick? Is that really wrong? We need to rethink this and be more open in sharing this info.
SBing is a kind of sex work and we are here to review sex work, aren't we?
Edit - or if one of your Sbs told another prospective SB that she can contact ValuedSupporter on terb or your handle on seeking and see if anything comes out of that, would that be really wrong? Or a privacy breach of any kind at all?
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Oh wow. Yeah I pmd Rocco asking for a profile, and he decided to shame and give me an ethics lesson about the differences between sp’s and sb’s expectations privacy. So I told him to get fucked and now he seems to be passively aggressively trying to rally support here to restore his ego? IMO dude is very confused about what this site is and his opinions on sex work unless it benefits him specifically.
Nobody likes to be reviewed. Plumbers, accountants, SPs or SBs. Nor johns. Nobody. SPs nevertheless are being reviewed here and if they were not the forum would probably die. SBs are a bit in the league of their own, that’s true. But just them not being happy with being reviewed is not enough reason to not review them.
if seeking as an advertiser would make it an issue that would be different. They are a monopolist and can pretty much dictate their views.
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It’s not the same at all. The ladies for most part are looking for a relationship of some scope and not doing it as a profession therefore reviewing them and setting them up to be contacted by others that they didn’t necessarily ask to be contacted by even if on the site is a gross breech of trust in my opinion. Actual professionals are one thing but this is an example of a very low class kiss and tell type of behaviour.
hmm and what if your buddy who’s new to this asked you for a recco? Would you give him a handle of an sb with whom you are finished but who was decent? Or would you tell him to jump in the water and learn to swim?
You asked me to give you the contact information of two sbs I know who are very submissive and into slapping. I then told you it's a bit of an odd question and you perhaps do some leg work yourself. You gave me attitude. I then reiterated your question to divulge information about a civilian is odd and inappropriate and I get frequent messages with your same request and I was fed up with these obtuse questions. I was also snarky in my response but not vulgar. You then went on to debase yourself with vulgarity directed at me.
I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.
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I wouldn’t share any sb info with a rando stranger nor would I share sexual details.
But I am not convinced that if a girl goes into money making business under a nom de guerre she retains right to privacy in that nom de guerre.
this is especially so in light of a simple fact that we all would be considered johns if we were to share our views on this on a proper SB forum such as on Reddit. None of us is that amazing whale daddy who would devote himself to elevating the girl out of her misery and spoiling her silly. It’s all goddamn ppm and she’s taking it. Let’s be real.
Quite apart from that, the girl may be happy that she got a new daddy. I’ve been referred to a few by my buddies and I shared some handles with them and everyone was only better off.
How is it kiss and tell if you only disclose a handle which is public and add that you can recommend her?
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