SPs becoming FWB

[Leimonis]

A FWB relationship with a SP??????? I thought it would be extremely difficult to get one. Many of the girls in this industry (and outside the industry) love money and I would think rarely offer it for free. I've heard that many girls in this industry dislike men because of the abuse they've experienced.

yet many of them would fuck an agency driver at the drop of a hat

 

[sx4play]

Women don't get into these types of situations without thinking that it's going to go further than that. Women who are in this industry, will take things a little bit further with a client because she sees potential in them, but generally they just see a free f*ck and It's unfortunate.

If you aren't equipped to deal with her emotional stuff and the fact that she's a human being, you should leave now and give her the opportunity to find someone who is good for her. She might have gotten into this situation with you for all of the wrong reasons, and and you both don't seem to be on the same page about things.

People like you, make women bitter and angry. They don't understand why men are so callous and uncaring, but it's not that all men are like this... You just kind of find them in all the wrong places. I have met really awesome men through sex work. Incredible men with more emotional intelligence and potential than I ever thought possible.

But for every awesome man, there are twenty incel scumbags that only see women as a hole to park their dick in on occasion.

It's not a great world to navigate, so honestly she might see something in you that's not there and the best thing you can do for her if you care about her at all is to let her find a man who can do more for her. That includes take care of her needs emotionally. Anyone can fuck... Some people can do it better than others and just because you see something you want from her does not mean she should make herself available to you indefinitely.

She's young, she's hot, she could probably have any man she wants, so let her. If her being a human being is too much for you, oh my god stay away from her! You will do more damage to her than can ever be repaired by making her feel like she's too much because you're used to hiring prostitutes.

If you need your interactions to be cold and uncaring and have no connections whatsoever, just stick to that and leave the rest of the female population alone. If she decided to stop seeing you on the clock, it's because she saw something in you, you and wanted more. You saw a free fuck. That's why we always say to never meet clients outside of work. There are like only so many rules we give each other when we first start out and everyone's rules are different but right at the top of everyone's list is

"don't meet people off the clock"

"They're f*cked" , " they're cheaters", "they're liars", "they're just looking for free shit"

She broke rule number two or number three depending on whose list we're talking about for you... and you repay her by putting all her b******* online and saying you don't want to be with her because she's a human being who expects you to support her emotionally because you expect her to be your girlfriend without commitments.

She'll learn. You'll break her heart and someone who really could be excellent to her will get shut down because of what you did to her. She'll be mean and heartbroken for a while, but she'll find the right person. She's just gotta sift through guys like you that are a dime, a dozen.

Bragging about using a woman because you think she's less than, but you still need her for something is really sad and I wish I knew this person so I could tell her to stay away from you. She deserves better

Social circles mean literally nothing.I couldn't be more different from my partner and his friends. They accept me and I accept them. We would have been enemies at different parts of our lives. That's just a cop out, because if you were really honest with yourself, you think that being with her brings down your social status and your value as a man... but real men don't care.

Let her find a real man. You are just going to reinforce to her that men can't be relied on and they can't be trusted, and then she'll get deeper into sex work. She'll never want to leave because everyone around her has just failed her over and over again and disappointed her and the only constant is a fistful of money.

Im not holding her back and she’s not waiting for me to become her bf. She knows I’m not available to commit to her and she has gotten into other relationships of her own (albeit maybe not the best of the bunch). I’ve always treated her well and never like a piece of meat. We shared good chemistry and enjoyed each others company and hence why it was no longer on the clock. Im well aware she has feelings for me, cause she can get dick anytime she wants and be paid for it, but yet she keeps me around. She can end our FWB thing anytime because I’ve told her what I can and can’t give her to satisfy whatever it is that she sees in me. But I would never simp and pay some girl repeatedly a couple hundred dollars per hour to have dinner with me or do an activity or to sit and talk.
Even if she weren’t an SP and say I met her on Tinder instead, I still would not be having her as my gf. There exist certain qualities I’m looking for in a girl beyond beauty and great sex, and she doesn’t check off enough of those boxes. It’s not about social status.
My relations with her is more complex than what I’ve indicated but none of it needs be elaborated on. The point of my post was to see others who entered into similar FWB situation on how they felt afterwards when things change.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

yet many of them would fuck an agency driver at the drop of a hat

It's expected. They don't want to fuck the driver, he just expects it. It's exploitation. Everyone is always trying to take advantage of them everywhere they turn. A lot of people refuse to work closely with men in this type of industry. Every man thinks they can get a piece for free.

Every "driver" is a piece of sh*t. I've never met or been contacted by one that wasn't a slime ball.

A lot of them think that's their "tip" for doing a good job. I don't need one but when I did, you couldn't just pay these losers to do their job and f*ck off. They always wanted more. I wouldnt hire any of them because they were gross.

I had a couple cab drivers pull that crap when I worked at a strip club and then at a rub and tug. They want to charge full price and then get a "tip". Told my bosses the one guy made me late because he took the wrong way to take me to a parking lot and expected a bj and the one guy was never a problem again. Never saw the guy after that. He picked me up almost everytime to take me to my job and I never saw him again after that. I heard some things. They had a reputation for that stuff. They also had a reputation for pissing people off and getting beat up.

 

[Jenesis]

Im not holding her back and she’s not waiting for me to become her bf. She knows I’m not available to commit to her and she has gotten into other relationships of her own (albeit maybe not the best of the bunch). I’ve always treated her well and never like a piece of meat. We shared good chemistry and enjoyed each others company and hence why it was no longer on the clock. Im well aware she has feelings for me, cause she can get dick anytime she wants and be paid for it, but yet she keeps me around. She can end our FWB thing anytime because I’ve told her what I can and can’t give her to satisfy whatever it is that she sees in me. But I would never simp and pay some girl repeatedly a couple hundred dollars per hour to have dinner with me or do an activity or to sit and talk.
Even if she weren’t an SP and say I met her on Tinder instead, I still would not be having her as my gf. There exist certain qualities I’m looking for in a girl beyond beauty and great sex, and she doesn’t check off enough of those boxes. It’s not about social status.
My relations with her is more complex than what I’ve indicated but none of it needs be elaborated on. The point of my post was to see others who entered into similar FWB situation on how they felt afterwards when things change.

I think you're taking advantage emotionally. You know she wants more. She is incorrectly holding out for more. You are fully aware of this. This is why she drama dumps on you. You should be the bigger person and end it.

I know it is not the advice you want but it is really no different then an escort knowing a client has fallen for her and taking advantage of him financially. Once you are aware that feelings are involved above what the status of the relationship calls for, a responsible person walks away.

Just my two cents. Take it or leave it.

 

[Valcazar]

From the get go FWB is a myth. Your benefit is physical intimacy and her benefit is emotional intimacy. That's called a relationship... a shallow one albeit but that's the basis of one.

FWB isn't a myth.
It is, however, a relationship.
All friendships are relationships.

I wouldn't even call it a shallow one, necessarily. (That would depend on the specific relationship. This one might be, we don't really know enough. )
It's just not a romantic one (or not romantic in the way lots of people usually define romantic).