Something I've always wondered.

[wm1734]

I'm going to try to make this as politely as possible...

Suppose if you are a SP. That in your career you may see x number of clients. I was just wondering what happens when the SP decides that they want to move on with life, ie) get married, have a family... How would they tell their SO that they were a SP before, and have been with x number of clients.

And how should their SO feel to know that they are number x+1 to be with them.


x is an element in the 0 and positive integer set.

Hope that makes sense.

 

[scarlet6969]

usually SPs keep their past a secret and their spouses never learn of their past life

 

[AllishaMyst]

I agree...there isn't a reason why you should disclose that information. Many women have become sp for many reasons and when they move on they are entitled to have everything they want out of life. I personally don't care how many sexual partners my boyfriend or spouse has had ( nor would I ask) because its knowones business but your own. YOur with them now and that is all that matters.

 

[thagibbler]

I personally wouldn't care if my SO had done this or does it. I respect it as a very lucrative business and I respect those that treat it as such. Period.

Then again I am pretty "weird".............

wm1734......you're an integer.

 

[freestuff]

usually SPs keep their past a secret and their spouses never learn of their past life

+1 .
Do johns tell their fiances/SOs that they "use" to see prostitutes/MPAs?

 

[Rigel7]

Now....if I was to get married and if she was available, I would marry Allisha any day.

 

[wm1734]

And if they were to find out? and would it bug you if you kept that secret away from him, knowing that he is the x+1th person, while in his mind, he is thinking you've only had 4 SOs, but in reality...


Sorry if my questions seems weird...

 

[centreofmass]

... how should their SO feel to know that they are number x+1 to be with them.

x is an element in the 0 and positive integer set.

Well, as long as the SP remains true to her marriage vows and does not change the above equation to

"number of sex partners" = x +1 + y,

where y >= 1 and refers to the number of sex partners AFTER the marriage, then she will live happily ever after.

 

[mb12ca]

+1 .
Do johns tell their fiances/SOs that they "use" to see prostitutes/MPAs?

I do. The key is to be upfront, honest and without apology regarding your hobbying.

 

[Ibeefat]

I agree...there isn't a reason why you should disclose that information. Many women have become sp for many reasons and when they move on they are entitled to have everything they want out of life. I personally don't care how many sexual partners my boyfriend or spouse has had ( nor would I ask) because its knowones business but your own. YOur with them now and that is all that matters.

agreed, its all about the here and now, who gives a fuck about who or how many you've done in the past, if the SP is willing to drop her life to marry you, then your lucky

 

[SS Sharla]

Personally, I would be upfront about being in the business. I think if you are marrying someone you should have already had an open and honest talk about sexual history.

Personally I hope anyone marrying me will accept me for who I am and where I have been in my life and appreciate that the experience has made me the person I am today - the person they want to marry.

I can see how it may be weird, but he will be marrying a weird girl and will have to deal with many "outside the box" things. I hope to marry someone who is a little "outside the box" as well and accept his history.

I think it is negligent to not inform your partner of your significant sexual history and negligence of them to not ask. It's not a prefect world and it's nobody has a perfect past, but if you love someone you should protect their sexual heath and allow them to make informed decisions about who they will spend the rest of thier lives with.

 

[Brill]

I think it's best for her to keep it a secret from him if possible.

No matter how loving, nice and understanding he is there's a point where the relationship isn't working and out of anger he's apt to throw your past in your face, possibly even telling your friends and family.

 

[Twinklegirl]

If you love her, it wouldn't matter how many men she's had before you. Love is about accepting and respecting someone regardless of their past.

I keep trying to tell people that sex as an SP is a job, no emotional attachment. Sex in a relationship is very different.

 

[wm1734]

what about the feeling of ' used' that the SO may have? ( no offence)

 

[Hangman]

I do. The key is to be upfront, honest and without apology regarding your hobbying.

LOL. Bullshit detected!!

 

[Art Mann]

(but on a high note........she probably gives a great blowjob....and that's not all)

(fixed your post)

 

[danzer26]

People use equations and carefully defined math condition in the post here. That is freaking awesome!

 

[Gunhed]

Honestly If I were to start dating someone who then told me she used to be a SP, I would feel honored that she felt comfortable enough with me to tell me

 

[coolcat]

Honestly If I were to start dating someone who then told me she used to be a SP, I would feel honored that she felt comfortable enough with me to tell me

Here...here, I totally agree with you Gunhed.

 

[DocOdd]

Honestly If I were to start dating someone who then told me she used to be a SP, I would feel honored that she felt comfortable enough with me to tell me

+1. If I were as uncomfortable with what SPs do as so many guys around here seem to be, I don't think I could enjoy seeing them. Not everybody is bothered by the same things.