smokers and how to get them to quit

[jw01]

So I've been dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months...we click and all so no complaints other than the fact she smokes. I've told her few times I don't like it and I want her to quit. She's relatively young ....so use to chain smoke but bc of me has cut down and doesn't buy packs of smoke. ...Our deal is when she is out partying she can indulge her cravings but lol she parties 4 times a week so lol she ends up smoking a few smokes...



Now I don't want this to be a deal breaker and all but I want her to quit cold turkey ...to which she said is too hard as she's already gone down alot. And she feels I don't give her credit for it lol....Anyhow. ..

Should I be firm and tell her take it or leave it...or see how things progress in the next couple months with her smoking?

Thanks

 

[vulcan99]

she will not quit until she wants to quit, period. Been there done that....nothing you can do to change her

 

[drlove]

she will not quit until she wants to quit, period. Been there done that....nothing you can do to change her

That's true... an ex of mine was very stealthy with her smoking. Only the odd time out on her balcony. She was so good at hiding it that initially I didn't even notice, and I'm VERY sensitive to second hand smoke.

 

[pablice]

she will not quit until she wants to quit, period. Been there done that....nothing you can do to change her

+1


There is nothing you can do to make her stop. I have been in a 5 year long relationship b4 finding my wife and this girl made all these promisses and all but was not strong enough. I was more concerned about the health if she ever had the baby and did not want to contribute to this because I knew she would have smoked if pregnant. This was one of the main reasons the relationship ended.

Nothing you can do, they need to do it on their own and some never do or feel the need to.

 

[mynameisearl11]

Tell her if she continued to smoke,she gets NO SEX from you! On the other hand if she loves you dearly she will quit. Mention deaths from second hand smoke! Try a reward system or bring her on a vacation far away from her friends and parties. Then,see if she can stop cold turkey while she's alone with you. Be supportive because I've seen they worked from number of smokers I have come across.

 

[Marla]

So I've been dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months...we click and all so no complaints other than the fact she smokes. I've told her few times I don't like it and I want her to quit. She's relatively young ....so use to chain smoke but bc of me has cut down and doesn't buy packs of smoke. ...Our deal is when she is out partying she can indulge her cravings but lol she parties 4 times a week so lol she ends up smoking a few smokes...



Now I don't want this to be a deal breaker and all but I want her to quit cold turkey ...to which she said is too hard as she's already gone down alot. And she feels I don't give her credit for it lol....Anyhow. ..

Should I be firm and tell her take it or leave it...or see how things progress in the next couple months with her smoking?

Thanks

Believe it or not, going cold turkey is dangerous. Try and be supportive and see if she will try nicorrette. But she has to want to. She can go cold turkey with nicorette but it is still hard. it is the hardest hting i ever did in my life but i reallly wanted it desperately for myself. If it really bothers you, you may have to exit. She has to want to do it for herself, because it is really really difficult. They say it is harder than coming off of heroin.

 

[Big Sleazy]

I smoked a pack a day ( at least ) for 25 years. It wasn't until I made up my mind to quit that I actually did it. And it wasn't that hard. It really is a case of mind over matter. But if someone is not ready there is nothing you can do to get them to quit. It's the same thing with alcohol and drugs. Or working out. The day's you just want to blow off your workout. You just get your mind to tell your body to F-Off and go do it. It's called willpower.

BS

 

[elwoodinontario]

If you can't accept her as is, where is, move on. Don't settle for someone who might change.

 

[aldrich]

Have her try e-cigarettes. They are smokeless.

 

[buttercup]

My eleven-yr-old daughter spent her own money on a book for me entitled, 'How to Stop Smoking'.

I haven't smoked since that day. I never opened the book.

 

[kkelso]

Have her try e-cigarettes. They are smokeless.

Seems like I've had several acquaintances successfully quit with a combo of e-cigs and patches.

KK

 

[viewsonic]

she will not quit until she wants to quit, period. Been there done that....nothing you can do to change her

Ditto!

Its one of the hardest things to quit, especially cold turkey. Best thing to do is support & encourage the person to quit anything really doesn't work.
The person will quit when they are mentally ready.

 

[viewsonic]

My eleven-yr-old daughter spent her own money on a book for me entitled, 'How to Stop Smoking'.

I haven't smoked since that day. I never opened the book.

:thumb:

 

[Linds]

If she tells you to quit terb and quit masturbating, and quit telling her what to do.... Will you listen?

 

[CapitalGuy]

Dump her now, before something happens to make it too late. If you're stuck with a smoker for like, you're stuck with a partner whose health will deteriorate so much more quickly than the non-smoking population. And, your health will be hit too. Fuck that; drop her and find someone better-suited to you. There are too many other women out there to keep one with a show-stopping trait, no matter what it is.

 

[one.of.a.kind]

Florida jury awards $23.6 billion to widow in smoking lawsuit


http://www.cnn.com/2014/07/19/us/florida-tobacco-verdict/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

This is going to get interesting. The tobacco companies have a lot to loose if this stands.

 

[sauna1701]

23.6 BILLION ??? I'm heading over to the indian reservation and load up my semi with some cigs.

Got to get my bitch to start chain smoking.

And the beauty of this plan is she does not survive and I can spend all 23 BILLION on young asian SP/MP.

Win Win for all.

 

[Lute]

Going cold turkey is probable the most sucessful to permanently quit

 

[MrPrezident]

I always thank smokers for continuing their addiction. Thank them for sacrificing themselves so that our pension systems remain solvent and The Prez will be able to collect. Long ago while writing a college paper I learned the Brits had studied this issue.

While smokers cost us all a lot of money through higher healthcare costs, the British discovered that the costs were very high for their old age pension system if too many people lived to old age. That may be why in subsequent years that anti-smoking measures were phased in gradually.

The next time you see a young person smoking, thank them for their sacrifice. It may make them think.

 

[AK-47]

I briefly smoked in high school and college for a few years. I quit 20 years ago, and it was one of the best decisions I made. It truly is a horrible habit.

Think about it, if you owned a dog would you make your dog smoke 20 cigs a day (assuming your dog could theoretically smoke)?? You'd probably get arrested for animal cruelty. So why if we dont do these things to our dogs, then why do we do them to ourselves??!