red said:
its not an experiment. should we take all the children away from single parents because the kids don't have the influence of a father or mother? at the end of the day- their choice to have or not have children is their business and not yours or mine.
No, we shouldn't take away kids from single parents for the obvious reason that sending them to foster homes or orphanages is even worse!
Society permits heterosexual couples to decide without interference whether or not to procreate because society presumes, correctly, that men and women together offer the best possible parenting for a child. Society does not presume that the man and woman will not stay together or fulfill their roles as father and mother.
However, there's plenty of evidence that children raised without a father or mother are less well adjusted, are more prone to be involved in crime, are subject to more abuse, and are less likely to be successful parents themselves.
Single parenting is a tough job and anyone who does it deserves a lot of credit, unless they intentionally created that situation for themselves!
However, the real issue is whether parenting without both a father or mother is optimal - and it isn't. Any honest single parent would tell you that. Why would anyone want to intentionally subject a child to the disadvantages of being raised without a father or mother? There's just no reason that could justify it.