I have a very serious family dilemma brewing. I have 3 kids, boy 19, girl 21, girl 23, all still at home. My oldest girl is engaged to be married next year. Her and her brother have never gotten along. My son is an ass, there is no doubt about it, but so is my daughter. However there are occasional flashes of great kids in both of them. The problem is I doubt that the daughter is going to invite my son to her wedding because she despises him so much from his past history which I won't get into here, but it is just that ----history. She also has issues with how he looks, multiple piercings etc., and is concerned he will embarass her. The other problem is that my middle daughter and my son get along great. I think my oldest is going to ask her sister to be her maid of honour. The problem ---she won't go if her brother does not get an invite. I am also torn as to what I am going to do. Will I refuse to attend, will I attend the wedding service only, I am at a complete loss. I have suggested to my oldest that it would not be prudent not to invite her brother, and I might add her fiancee has no problem inviting him to be part of the wedding party, but she is adament. To-date she has not raised the issue with my son but I know it is coming. Any thoughts?