Second Visit Disappointments

[Tango Urilla]

Anyone else have the issue I’m having when I see somebody for a second or third time they never look as good as the first time I saw them? The service usually gets better with more appointments, but they never seem to look quite as good as a first time I see them.

It’s happened to me numerous times with numerous different women and again today.

 

[CallMeAImp]

Interesting experience to bring up. I can def see why that happens despite the overall experience improving. I can think of a very popular lady with tremendous presence and on BS and Tryst where I share your sentiment. Experience took a level up (bbbjcimsw) but you are right I found myself thinking she didn’t look as amazing as date 1. Haven’t been back but in no way do I think it’s her. However the flip side is the same coin I can think of another lady where outfits and even some role play helped to change the visual and I think I’m into double digits now.

 

[PointyP]

BS?

 

[marshman]

I’ve got bad news - I’m pretty sure that it’s not the girl fellas. Your best experiences will magnify themselves as you remember them (over & over again) Your mind plays tricks on you so that it seems even better with each rerun. You only remember the best parts, the truly exciting and off the wall moments - never the negatives, just the flat out enjoyment. So visit #2 or 3 somehow doesn’t match up with that amazing memory that you had. That’s life I guess. Sorta the same thing with cities and restaurants - the first great time is a hard act to follow. Just 2 cents from an old timer.

 

[snagglepuss]

I’ve got bad news - I’m pretty sure that it’s not the girl fellas. Your best experiences will magnify themselves as you remember them (over & over again) Your mind plays tricks on you so that it seems even better with each rerun. You only remember the best parts, the truly exciting and off the wall moments - never the negatives, just the flat out enjoyment. So visit #2 or 3 somehow doesn’t match up with that amazing memory that you had. That’s life I guess. Sorta the same thing with cities and restaurants - the first great time is a hard act to follow. Just 2 cents from an old timer.

Think you hit the nail on the head..

 

[Charly_Bear]

I’ve got bad news - I’m pretty sure that it’s not the girl fellas. Your best experiences will magnify themselves as you remember them (over & over again) Your mind plays tricks on you so that it seems even better with each rerun. You only remember the best parts, the truly exciting and off the wall moments - never the negatives, just the flat out enjoyment. So visit #2 or 3 somehow doesn’t match up with that amazing memory that you had. That’s life I guess. Sorta the same thing with cities and restaurants - the first great time is a hard act to follow. Just 2 cents from an old timer.

Hands down what I think might be happening. I mean it happens to me in my personal life so I can 100% believe it to happen to y'all too.

I don't think I can give advice really but I think maybe switching how you view the girls. I mean yes you do want to be attractive to the lady but maybe thinking of the different reasons, not just her body that you are attracted to her. Her smile, her laugh or the conversation you guys have.

But ya our brains are weird sometimes and likes to imagine things a bit more than what is reality.

 

[Mandalorian]

Yup, same thing happens to me too. I’ve also noticed that when I’m repeating (because services have gone up with familiarity) that I am having a hard time finishing because I’m very facially turned on.

Long time ago I found the perfect combo of high service and always facially and body stunning but she has long retired. Since then I’m always hoping to find another but it’s been more of less a bust.

 

[snagglepuss]

Yup, same thing happens to me too. I’ve also noticed that when I’m repeating (because services have gone up with familiarity) that I am having a hard time finishing because I’m very facially turned on.

Long time ago I found the perfect combo of high service and always facially and body stunning but she has long retired. Since then I’m always hoping to find another but it’s been more of less a bust.

Sounds like Selena at Alpha to me . I've been chasing that .never got that good again...not really.

 

[snagglepuss]

I keep seeing Abby...maybe not as exciting as before..but the combo of great massage and service .hard to beat..plus we know each other pretty well...

 

[MikeO]

I’ve got bad news - I’m pretty sure that it’s not the girl fellas. Your best experiences will magnify themselves as you remember them (over & over again) Your mind plays tricks on you so that it seems even better with each rerun. You only remember the best parts, the truly exciting and off the wall moments - never the negatives, just the flat out enjoyment. So visit #2 or 3 somehow doesn’t match up with that amazing memory that you had. That’s life I guess. Sorta the same thing with cities and restaurants - the first great time is a hard act to follow. Just 2 cents from an old timer.

You are absolutely correct, Old Timer Marshman. The same applies very much to my EXs!

 

[Tango Urilla]

Yup, same thing happens to me too. I’ve also noticed that when I’m repeating (because services have gone up with familiarity) that I am having a hard time finishing because I’m very facially turned on.

Long time ago I found the perfect combo of high service and always facially and body stunning but she has long retired. Since then I’m always hoping to find another but it’s been more of less a bust.

Who was it?

 

[stevieman1969]

I think that's how addiction works. The first high is always the best and your brain keeps wanting to reproduce it. Initial excitement, not knowing what to expect on the first visit. You want that same thing on the 2nd visit but your brain already knows what it's gonna get so it's not the same rush of excitement (dopamine).

 

[Charly_Bear]

I think that's how addiction works. The first high is always the best and your brain keeps wanting to reproduce it. Initial excitement, not knowing what to expect on the first visit. You want that same thing on the 2nd visit but your brain already knows what it's gonna get so it's not the same rush of excitement (dopamine).

You might be on to something there too (the academic in me is so interrested!) There is a lot of research going on in research with porn and how our brain reacts to the instant gratification. It might be the same thing going on here.

Anyways I won't be bogging down this thread with all my nerdy interests

 

[Giƅ Sinep]

BS?

Blue Sky

 

[Mandalorian]

I keep seeing Abby...maybe not as exciting as before..but the combo of great massage and service .hard to beat..plus we know each other pretty well...

I like Abby but she’s facially too plain.

 

[snagglepuss]

I like Abby but she’s facially too plain.

Different strokes for different folks

 

[Mandalorian]

Different strokes for different folks

Exactly. I happy she hits all the right buttons for you. I wish it were that easy for me.

 

[heidenk]

I think that's how addiction works. The first high is always the best and your brain keeps wanting to reproduce it. Initial excitement, not knowing what to expect on the first visit. You want that same thing on the 2nd visit but your brain already knows what it's gonna get so it's not the same rush of excitement (dopamine).

Yes - in that the excitement and dopamine from the uncertainty of the first visit can never be replicated.
Even with the greatest providers.
Other aspects can be wonderful, and even get better over time.
But you will never have that same question going in -- who is this woman, and how will our time together be?

 

[itd131]

10 visit rule - must meet at least ten times before drawing any conclusions.

If you never make it to ten, that is also a conclusion.

 

[abbyDD]

I like Abby but she’s facially too plain.

I agree