Never told anybody but I have a feeling my brother knows and obviously my doctor cuz I usually get checked
Question for clients: Does anyone know you see providers?
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I won't reveal too much details, but people should be careful where they park, what areas of Now they read and ensure that their smartphones are not visible from certain angles.
On the other foot, a good friend of mine who was a SP, started hanging out with another girl in her apartment. They became pretty good friends, so after a time, she confided she was an escort. The other girl didn't take it too well and kept wanting to get help for her. My friend said she didn't need any. So the other girl called the police. The Police came over, told her to cease and desist, and she had to move to a new building...... so the girls have it much harder in this regard.
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To Alison, the originator.
At hockey scrimmages, on the ice, I quickly ask one of the guys on the other team if he has seen my recommendation to him lately. He says yes, and gives me the thumbs up...... he was very specific about the service. Just an example of, the talk. I don't think it is gossipy or anything like that... just help pointing someone to their preference, or a recommendation.
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To Alison, the originator.
At hockey scrimmages, on the ice, I quickly ask one of the guys on the other team if he has seen my recommendation to him lately. He says yes, and gives me the thumbs up...... he was very specific about the service. Just an example of, the talk. I don't think it is gossipy or anything like that... just help pointing someone to their preference, or a recommendation.
Hell yes a couple buddies and I openly talk and compare various SP, but of course we're all single, by the way it upsets other friends that are married and stuck with one girl. They claim they are true to thier wives, right!!!
This was a couple of hundred years ago, but when I was young and foolish some of my friends and I would hire escorts for stag parties:Eek:.
Thank you!
I doubt your neighbors know what's going on.
I love this quote from this article by Melissa Gira Grant http://jacobinmag.com/2012/08/happy-hookers/
basically says that providers are "able to sweep through the lobby of the Palace Hotel, unnoticed and undisturbed, on her way to an assignation, not because she didn’t “look like” a working girl, but because she knew that too few people understood what a working girl really looked like."
Many people have no idea that there is such a community around this.
I had a client who was talking about escorts negatively, and I asked HAVE YOU MET WITH AN ESCORT? And he said, yes a few times. I asked him what it was like. He said they were all great, lovely, smart, charming, women. I asked him if his own personal experiences are telling him one thing, why is he still spewing stereotypes out as if they are facts.
I'm going off on a tangent.
Sometimes after a really good session with a client I want to TELL SOMEONE! Do you guys ever feel this way? If there is no one to confide in, maybe that is why reviews take on a penthouse fourm-y feel rather than just a "pictures were accurate" type thing.
Also, when articles come out in Toronto Life about sex work, and people discuss them around the water cooler - do you add anything? Or avoid the conversation completely?
Do sex trade workers tell anyone (mother, father, friends, neighbours, etc.) outside the trade what they do to earn some money? One of my dancer friends tells nobody. She even has a full time civilian job to cover up this part of her life..
I don't think the default assumption is that you see escorts - I think it is that you are gay. I don't think the normals really think a lot about escorts as an option, it is just too offensive to their world view. (Which is often pretty screwed up - lots of girls I know are looking for Dr. Money to marry.... and guys assume that if they put their money out, they are owed an awesome blowjob at the very least.) In any even, I don't care. Call me gay. I tend to find gay folks more interesting anyway, except for the sex part. No penis for me, I already have one.
basically says that providers are "able to sweep through the lobby of the Palace Hotel, unnoticed and undisturbed, on her way to an assignation, not because she didn’t “look like” a working girl, but because she knew that too few people understood what a working girl really looked like."
Yeah - just act normal and you look normal. If normal is confident and beautiful, you will get looks, not because you look like a working girl, but because you look like a confident beautiful woman.
I had a session last week with a really lovely woman, she said she felt a little overdressed and felt she looked out of place coming into my building. I told her she looked totally normal for a stunning woman, but that she should dress down a bit if it makes her more comfortable.
Generally, I think people involved in the hobby might be aware of telltale signs, but the normals are really out of the loop. And whatever they might suspect, THEY KNOW NOTHING!
Yeah - just act normal and you look normal. If normal is confident and beautiful, you will get looks, not because you look like a working girl, but because you look like a confident beautiful woman.
I had a session last week with a really lovely woman, she said she felt a little overdressed and felt she looked out of place coming into my building. I told her she looked totally normal for a stunning woman, but that she should dress down a bit if it makes her more comfortable.
Generally, I think people involved in the hobby might be aware of telltale signs, but the normals are really out of the loop. And whatever they might suspect, THEY KNOW NOTHING!
Not until couple week ago. My future ex knowI am curious about this. I have met a couple people who pop out during work, and their assistant at work knows where they are off to. Others that absolutely no one knows except them and the provider. Do clients ever discuss this with anyone outside of Terb? Is this part of why Terb is popular - to create a sense of community?
Do you ever wonder if your friends or co-workers are doing the same thing? It's possible they are on Terb. Toronto is a small city.
Do you ever wish you could tell your boss or friend about this, because you know it's something they would really like?
I'm sorry if this has already been discussed. I did a half-assed search, if it's been done to death a mod can just delete this.
"Sometimes after a really good session with a client I want to TELL SOMEONE! Do you guys ever feel this way? If there is no one to confide in, maybe that is why reviews take on a penthouse fourm-y feel rather than just a "pictures were accurate" type thing."
I think there are probably two different drives to talk. Some can get into the bragging thing. Others might want to talk to understand the situation better. Why was this so good (or bad or creepy or strange)? What made that difference? Was it my mood, or the other person's mood, what they did, what I did, the moon, the stars, are you from Mars?
I love to analyse these situations. Often I find myself writing it out for myself. I also repeat with women whom I connect with, so I tend to talk about it with them. I don't repeat primarily for that reason, I do it because I enjoy the session, and that conversation is part of the pleasure. Repeat appointments make extended conversation possible over a period of time, and very often I connect with women who are as curious as I am about the mystery of human sexuality.
I have one rather sad tale to tell in this regard - I had a long time repeat provider decide she didn't want to see me for a while, and though I haven't talked to her about it, I think it is because we were becoming too close for her comfort. It wasn't that she was falling for me, or I for her, it was just too genuinely friendly, and I think she wanted to keep her personal life and her professional one completely separate. I totally understand that - she is in her early 20s and I was among her first clients, so her relationship to the work evolved and she became uncomfortable with the possibility that our friendship might extend outside of the business relationship. In fact we had discussed an extended friendship, and I had assumed that, since we had established that the sex was only going to take place within the business relationship, she was cool. Well, she was for a while, then she wasn't.
I totally get why she made the choice - she has something at stake that I don't. She has the rest of her life to think about, and one bad leak could, in the internet age, mark her for life. I'd really enjoy being her friend, but I respect her need to keep that barrier up. Maybe if she was a little older, or more seasoned in the business, she wouldn't be so concerned... but it would require her to trust me, and for her the risk was just too much. Sad, but ok. I will always think of her very fondly.
I think there are probably two different drives to talk. Some can get into the bragging thing. Others might want to talk to understand the situation better. Why was this so good (or bad or creepy or strange)? What made that difference? Was it my mood, or the other person's mood, what they did, what I did, the moon, the stars, are you from Mars?
I love to analyse these situations. Often I find myself writing it out for myself. I also repeat with women whom I connect with, so I tend to talk about it with them. I don't repeat primarily for that reason, I do it because I enjoy the session, and that conversation is part of the pleasure. Repeat appointments make extended conversation possible over a period of time, and very often I connect with women who are as curious as I am about the mystery of human sexuality.
I have one rather sad tale to tell in this regard - I had a long time repeat provider decide she didn't want to see me for a while, and though I haven't talked to her about it, I think it is because we were becoming too close for her comfort. It wasn't that she was falling for me, or I for her, it was just too genuinely friendly, and I think she wanted to keep her personal life and her professional one completely separate. I totally understand that - she is in her early 20s and I was among her first clients, so her relationship to the work evolved and she became uncomfortable with the possibility that our friendship might extend outside of the business relationship. In fact we had discussed an extended friendship, and I had assumed that, since we had established that the sex was only going to take place within the business relationship, she was cool. Well, she was for a while, then she wasn't.
I totally get why she made the choice - she has something at stake that I don't. She has the rest of her life to think about, and one bad leak could, in the internet age, mark her for life. I'd really enjoy being her friend, but I respect her need to keep that barrier up. Maybe if she was a little older, or more seasoned in the business, she wouldn't be so concerned... but it would require her to trust me, and for her the risk was just too much. Sad, but ok. I will always think of her very fondly.
The only person that knows about my activity is my girlfriend and that's because she was an escort I used to see!
