Public perception of escorting?

[torontojohn]

I am saying that a woman or a man has every rite to be with who they want to be with. You do not "own" the person you are with. As far as vows go, as long as a man can handle my bisexuality, I will marry him.

A traditional fundamental part of a marriage agreement is an agreement of fidelity. So, while a spouse may not OWN you, they are certainly entitled to expect you will not have sexual activity with anyone else... or at least they are entitled to expect the courts to support dissolution of the marriage and compensation extracted.

If your marriage agreement is laid out differently, that's up to you. Just don't expect to get married without altering the standard agreement and still sleep around without potential penalty.

Personally, I have no problem with my wife sleeping with other women. She just won't.

 

[amber-jade]

Public perception of escorting?



who cares..?

sorry but really .....someone will always be in your face about something....
ya think lawyers care that they are scum of the earth, probably not...

all but terb members in the field..of course..: ))





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[Angela@Mirage]

If the SO doesn't know, is it really cheating? Sort of like a tree falling in the forest and if nobody hears it, does it matter? Oh no, you swing both ways. I am shocked. As shocked as when that dancer on the Board announced she is not a virgin. What is the world coming to?

Where is the shock value? When i am in a relationship, my partner is treated with the outmost respect and has complete understanding of how i am. I do not give them the rant and rave of what they can do and not do. I am my own person, and make it very clear that i like to share my partner with a lovely woman on occasion. So what? If someone told me that i cannot be with both sexes, I simlpy reply, "Then i am simply not the woman for you."

 

[Cycleguy007]

Where is the shock value? When i am in a relationship, my partner is treated with the outmost respect and has complete understanding of how i am. I do not give them the rant and rave of what they can do and not do. I am my own person, and make it very clear that i like to share my partner with a lovely woman on occasion. So what? If someone told me that i cannot be with both sexes, I simlpy reply, "Then i am simply not the woman for you."

Sounds just about perfect Angela! YOU GO GIRL!

Just out of curiosity, have you ever run into anyone that was NOT comfortable with that arrangement?

 

[Angela@Mirage]

A traditional fundamental part of a marriage agreement is an agreement of fidelity. So, while a spouse may not OWN you, they are certainly entitled to expect you will not have sexual activity with anyone else... or at least they are entitled to expect the courts to support dissolution of the marriage and compensation extracted.

If your marriage agreement is laid out differently, that's up to you. Just don't expect to get married without altering the standard agreement and still sleep around without potential penalty.

Personally, I have no problem with my wife sleeping with other women. She just won't.

Thank you for your response. We all know the fundamental part of a marriage agreement. Does it work? No. If anything, it needs to be updated. I am a realist. Men hobby, married or not. It is a simple fact of life. Seeing an escort, stripper, streetwalker, or a lovely woman in massage; is this infidelity? What is your take?

 

[Angela@Mirage]

Sounds just about perfect Angela! YOU GO GIRL!

Just out of curiosity, have you ever run into anyone that was NOT comfortable with that arrangement?

A past common-law boyfreind. I kindly asked to pack his bags and leave. He was aware of my sexual orientation when he met me. Why the sudden change? It is like asking a heterosexual man to be gay.

 

[Cycleguy007]

A past common-law boyfreind. I kindly asked to pack his bags and leave. He was aware of my sexual orientation when he met me. Why the sudden change? It is like asking a heterosexual man to be gay.

You're kidding right? I asked you as a joke, since I didn't think ANYONE could possibly be uncomfortable with a 3-way with you! Did he suddenly turn gay himself? Finding it incredibly hard to wrap my head around that one...

 

[Angela@Mirage]

I doubt sucking cock is all chocolates and roses, but another angle on the empowerment argument is that they can demand for one hour of work the earning power of around 10-15 average citizens and easily more than the theoretical hourly salary of the PRIME MINISTER of this country.

Kuddos to the beauties in the sex-trade!!!!!!!!!

 

[toughb]

Thank you for your response. We all know the fundamental part of a marriage agreement. Does it work? No. If anything, it needs to be updated. I am a realist. Men hobby, married or not. It is a simple fact of life. Seeing an escort, stripper, streetwalker, or a lovely woman in massage; is this infidelity? What is your take?

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"We all know the fundamental part of a marriage agreement. Does it work?"

Only if one doesn't make it work.

"Men hobby, married or not. It is a simple fact of life."

In marriage is it morally or ethically correct?

 

[RTRD]

All...

Men hobby, married or not. It is a simple fact of life. Seeing an escort, stripper, streetwalker, or a lovely woman in massage; is this infidelity? What is your take?

...men do?

And yes it is - anyone who says different is conveniently delusional. That said, do what you have to do...just don't lie to yourself about what it is - that does a disservice to all involved.

 

[torontojohn]

Thank you for your response. We all know the fundamental part of a marriage agreement. Does it work? No. If anything, it needs to be updated. I am a realist. Men hobby, married or not. It is a simple fact of life. Seeing an escort, stripper, streetwalker, or a lovely woman in massage; is this infidelity? What is your take?

Well, my wife knows I go to strip clubs, and she goes with me maybe 1/2 the time. I may go to the occasional seedy club (I love the atmosphere), but I get nothing more than lap dances... so what I do is not infidelity.

I might prefer to have sex with other women, but I recognize that the majority of women find that absolutely unacceptable so it's something I gave up in return for a formalized long term relationship. I wouldn't have complained if I'd found a woman who was comfortable bringing another woman home from time to time for some play, but if I'd made that a requirement for considering someone 'compatible' I'd probably still be single.

So, if you'll take the word of some anonymous guy on the Internet... Not ALL men stray.

 

[flincher]

c

my answer to the original question would be c

its no ones business especially hers on what mag i m reading or what ads im looking at on or offline.

and Angela from mirage sounds like the perfect future wife!

 

[drlove]

As I always say to men who suggest they would be escort if they could: you can. There's a lot of money to be made in the gay-for-pay business.

Only problem is, I'm not gay.

 

[drlove]

No, that's me saying it. And I would actually disagree that women own and control the means of production in the sex industry. Some women do. Most don't. But generally speaking, the means of production in the world we live in are owned and controled disproportionatly by men.

That may very well be true. However, the majority of the statements I have made in this thread come from paraphrasing actual quotes of women in the industry, gleaned through one on one conversations with them. This is what some of the ladies have told me: Some prefer not to work for agencies (some of which incidently, are also owned by women - hint hint!) but instead work for themselves so that their profit margin is higher. It's basically akin to owning a business with a very good income stream. It's a way to buck the trend and come out on top regardless. That is, these women could care less if their methods are outside the norm or are contrary to the mores, values and societal beliefs that define "acceptable" "decent" or "proper" behavior.

Moreover, social convention be damned! These women are on their way to the top financially. In effect, bottom line means bottom line means bottom line - their cash. Having a large influx of money makes the world easy for them, and they have done so by thumbing their noses at the very social constructs which seek to impede and in effect pigeon hole them back into the status of "have nots" which is the antithesis of being empowered. These women do not take "no" for an answer. They will scratch and claw their way to the top regardless, and as an added bonus don't really have to since they are already there. They are intelligent women with good educations and upwardly mobile careers under their belt. What's more, many have told me they truly enjoy being an escort, love sex and meeting a variety of men. In short, they are doing what they want to do, and won't accept anything less. That's empowerment.

 

[Angela@Mirage]

You're kidding right? I asked you as a joke, since I didn't think ANYONE could possibly be uncomfortable with a 3-way with you! Did he suddenly turn gay himself? Finding it incredibly hard to wrap my head around that one...

This guy was just too insecure for me. It takes a special man to date me, that's all.

 

[Angela@Mirage]

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"We all know the fundamental part of a marriage agreement. Does it work?"

Only if one doesn't make it work.

"Men hobby, married or not. It is a simple fact of life."

In marriage is it morally or ethically correct?

You tell me. I did not write it.

 

[Angela@Mirage]

...men do?

And yes it is - anyone who says different is conveniently delusional. That said, do what you have to do...just don't lie to yourself about what it is - that does a disservice to all involved.

I am a very honest person; a sharp shooter. If i were a man, and i was unhappy and needed to seek something that was missing i would sit my wife down and tell her. Just as i do if i were in a present relationship. It is quite evident that monogamy is a difficult commitment for many. I did not mean to generalise all men. Woman play too. I am not saying that i would sleep with tons of people every day of the week, i am saying that a little fun every now and then should be ok. Live and let live.

 

[Angela@Mirage]

my answer to the original question would be c

its no ones business especially hers on what mag i m reading or what ads im looking at on or offline.

and Angela from mirage sounds like the perfect future wife!

You are so sweet! I was married at one time, and my husband definately charished me for that, but we divorced on completely other personal issues that were my choice.

 

[Angela@Mirage]

Well, my wife knows I go to strip clubs, and she goes with me maybe 1/2 the time. I may go to the occasional seedy club (I love the atmosphere), but I get nothing more than lap dances... so what I do is not infidelity.

I might prefer to have sex with other women, but I recognize that the majority of women find that absolutely unacceptable so it's something I gave up in return for a formalized long term relationship. I wouldn't have complained if I'd found a woman who was comfortable bringing another woman home from time to time for some play, but if I'd made that a requirement for considering someone 'compatible' I'd probably still be single.

So, if you'll take the word of some anonymous guy on the Internet... Not ALL men stray.

This is true. I accept people's views here. I am just giving you mine

 

[drlove]

So, if you'll take the word of some anonymous guy on the Internet... Not ALL men stray.

As far as you know...