And they say that women are the one who can't separate sex from love...
What many of you fail to understand is that being treated like a client by your sex worker (SP, strippers, MPs) is not a comment on your potential as dating material or friend material. She treats you like a client because that's her job, that's what you are paying her for.
As I said before, but it bears repeating, you can't at once pay for a fantasy and bitch that you're only getting a fantasy and not the real thing.
As I've also said before, you wouldn't expect your therapist to treat you as anything less or more than a client/patient. She won't see you outside of your professional appointment. And she won't call you, like a friend would do, just to check up on you. If she does call you, it will be as a professional. Your therapist provides you with a very intimate, personal, caring service: she is there to listen to you, to help you understand and process your feelings and emotions, to give you support and guidance in dealing with whatever is going on in your life. In many ways, the service she provides you with resemble what a friend, family member, or partner would do for you. But she's not a friend, family member, or partner. And while she most likely genuily care about your well-being, in order to the the job you pay her for properly, she will refrain from getting emotionally involved in the relationship you have with her, and she will always treat you as nothing less, nothing more than a patient/client. And if she needs debriefing or support to deal with her own emotions and needs as they relate to her job, she will seek the assistance of another professional therapist, not you.
My job as an SP is to provide you with a fantasy, to cater to your sexual needs and desires. This is not a reciprocal relationship: it's all about
you, what
you want, what
you need, how
you want to fuck me, how
you want me to cum, how
you want me to dress, how
you want me to make you feel. You are paying me to be a fantasy version of me, to not have emotions and feelings of my own outside of the limited ones that you want to inspire in me, you are paying me to not bother you with the mundanity of my life, you are paying me to be always smilling, always happy to fuck, always wanting to fuck more, you are paying me to not care about my own orgasms unless you want me to make you feel like the best lover on earth.
In order for me to do my job, and to do it well, I have to treat you as a paying client, not a friend, not a lover. And in order for me to keep my own sanity and to not be hurt and frustrated by the non-reciprocal, unidirectional, and sometimes very instrumental aspect of my relationships with my clients, I have to keep the boundaries very clear between my professional and personal life.