Geneviene(sp) use to say that is why she hires an agency to take care of all this shit and pay them 40%.
New to this...need advice
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Thank you all, you have certainly gave me some great advice. Mr. Wellhungone...i heard about terb from..a massage parlour. Good call Mr. Bret.
I answered an ad...and worked a shift as a receptionist. So far, I have never provided services.
I am nervous. I cannot be discovered!
Yet i learn for the excitement...and the hope of a better life for me and my kids.
Yes...i am getting a lot of pm's.
No...i trust no one. Lol
I know by these posts that I am basically throwing myself to the wolves.
I would love any info you can provide, Sirs.
I don't even know what SP is!
Also...i wonder if...at 45...i hold any currency.
I answered an ad...and worked a shift as a receptionist. So far, I have never provided services.
I am nervous. I cannot be discovered!
Yet i learn for the excitement...and the hope of a better life for me and my kids.
Yes...i am getting a lot of pm's.
No...i trust no one. Lol
I know by these posts that I am basically throwing myself to the wolves.
I would love any info you can provide, Sirs.
I don't even know what SP is!
Also...i wonder if...at 45...i hold any currency.
A SP is a Service Provider.
A MP is a Massage Parlour.
A MPA is a Massage Parlour Attendant.
There are tons of acronyms here. You'll catch on to the lingo soon enough.
The good news is, most guys here are always willing to help out a pretty lady, as you have probably noticed.
Good luck and don't be shy to reach out.
FYI here is a list of various sex work acronyms and terminology: http://www.rubmaps.ca/rubmaps-slang
I would also suggest starting out as an MPA to get your feet wet, especially since you are already a bit familiar with them. As an MPA you are only obligated to give the client a massage, body slide, and happy ending, but you can choose to do more with specific clients if you want (and the spa is OK with it).
If you are worried about being discovered, work somewhere far away from where you live, e.g. if you live in the east end, work in the west end. Also avoid areas where your family and friends live or work.
Having run the Liberated Christians Phoenix couples group with 350 members (long ago), while we were more into intimacy and communications than a typical swing party, but having attended traditional swing clubs - I suggest that swinging and SP have very different dynamics other than the sex part !
I spoke to the owner at Oasis I met at a sex show. She said the best part is seeing couples become good friends. Dynamics are totally different than SP relationships but still she will learn if having sex with various people is in her comfort level.
Yes, in our group sometimes they woud babysit with each others kids while coming to our meetings. Also had picnics etc. Was a bit more like polyamory with real relationships vs sex of swinging but without living together.
You reminded me of Oasis. I might want to just visit briefly on their singles night (if they still have). Am really not that interested going as an old single male but might briefly and as I recall have some topic nights etc. Would not be interested in paying an escort just to go with me and swingers dispise males with escorts since the dynamic is so different.
Ms Vivian,
Aside from the obvious, (e.g. attractive, horny, adventurous), you will need to be a good sales person, a good actress, a good communicator, and have the ability to network yourself on sites like this.
Some of the most successful SP's are around your age, and have all these qualifications going for themselves as well. Maybe start by contacting some of them, and perhaps they will take you "under their wing" to help out a fellow like minded woman.
Best of luck to you!
Aside from the obvious, (e.g. attractive, horny, adventurous), you will need to be a good sales person, a good actress, a good communicator, and have the ability to network yourself on sites like this.
Some of the most successful SP's are around your age, and have all these qualifications going for themselves as well. Maybe start by contacting some of them, and perhaps they will take you "under their wing" to help out a fellow like minded woman.
Best of luck to you!
As a few others have started, try the massage route first.
Safer, more controlled, support system, you have some say in who you see, can be just as lucrative, and the best part is that you're not expected to have sex with every dude that walks in.
Safer, more controlled, support system, you have some say in who you see, can be just as lucrative, and the best part is that you're not expected to have sex with every dude that walks in.
Ah, I almost ONLY go for ladies 40 plus. I would never consider a woman under 30. I prefer the somewhat curvier build of slightly older women, plus we just get along better. Not much in common with young girls.
I would suggest you try seeing one client a day for awhile - trust your instincts with regards to how they communicate with you. If there Is any indication that they are coming across as pushy or demanding or even crude, you must come up with a way of turning them down. I suppose just let 'em die trying so to speak.
Whenever you get a text, save the guys number on your phone and somewhere , maybe in your phone itself, make a few notes. At the very least don't make th emistake of seeing a guy who texted you a few weeks earlier and you rejected but now you see him because you didn't note his characteristics. Don't even think of relying on your memory.
I think that your screening method is probably one of the most important things for you to learn.
Whenever you get a text, save the guys number on your phone and somewhere , maybe in your phone itself, make a few notes. At the very least don't make th emistake of seeing a guy who texted you a few weeks earlier and you rejected but now you see him because you didn't note his characteristics. Don't even think of relying on your memory.
I think that your screening method is probably one of the most important things for you to learn.
In this business, there's a market for everyone. There's a lady on this board in her 60s, apparently doing well.
