I've been on three dates with the same woman now. What you're looking for at 50 is different than 25. It's no longer love at first sight when you meet someone at 50 I find. It has gone against me, seeing all of these stunning escorts who are sexually uninhibited for the last 25 years, as it has influenced how I look at civilian women. It has definitely made me a lot more picky, which resulted in me being single for pretty much my entire life.
I've met a lady who is the same ethnic background as me, who has been in Canada for 5 years and is in the final stages of getting her permanent residency card. She married after only 6 months of meeting her husband, as she was quite religious at the time and societal pressures really pushed the tradition of marriage. She is still religious, but now only hopes to meet a man who has good morals, as her former husband was supposed to have been a good Christian, but cheated on her at least once. She was a professional musician, and I guess she had a mid life crisis, in part because of her husband's infidelity and moved to Canada with her two children to start over. They are now in grade 9 and first year university respectively, and are open to their mother dating again.
One of the biggest concerns I have is her financial situation. Unfortunately, as a first generation immigrant, her employment opportunities aren't that good. She's working as a cook right now, but hopes that once she gets permanent residency, she can start teaching music full time. Because of child support, she was able to purchase a townhouse, and drives a small new Toyota SUV. She does not appear to be in urgent need of money, as she only works 24 hours a week. All of her children's education costs seem to be taken care of.
Her father was a university professor who died early, and her mother was a school teacher. She was well raised, and is an agreeable person to be around. In part because of her previous profession as a concert musician, she had to be reasonably attractive and lead a healthy lifestyle to make the audition cuts. She also does not appear to have a wandering eye as she went 5 years without seeing anyone and concentrated on raising her children.
My concern is her lack of any real career prospects and some communication issues. I don't want to hold that against her as her English is better than my understanding of her native language, and because my parents were first generation immigrants, and also had limited opportunities, but it is in the back of my mind.
I have a lot to lose, as I earn over $100,000 a year, am mortgage free, and have been contributing to my retirement since I was 20 years old. I'll also have a 50% pension in ten years. A lot of things seem like they line up, but am wondering if I am making the financial issue a bigger deal than it should be? When I look at her, I'm constantly wondering if this would work out.
I've met a lady who is the same ethnic background as me, who has been in Canada for 5 years and is in the final stages of getting her permanent residency card. She married after only 6 months of meeting her husband, as she was quite religious at the time and societal pressures really pushed the tradition of marriage. She is still religious, but now only hopes to meet a man who has good morals, as her former husband was supposed to have been a good Christian, but cheated on her at least once. She was a professional musician, and I guess she had a mid life crisis, in part because of her husband's infidelity and moved to Canada with her two children to start over. They are now in grade 9 and first year university respectively, and are open to their mother dating again.
One of the biggest concerns I have is her financial situation. Unfortunately, as a first generation immigrant, her employment opportunities aren't that good. She's working as a cook right now, but hopes that once she gets permanent residency, she can start teaching music full time. Because of child support, she was able to purchase a townhouse, and drives a small new Toyota SUV. She does not appear to be in urgent need of money, as she only works 24 hours a week. All of her children's education costs seem to be taken care of.
Her father was a university professor who died early, and her mother was a school teacher. She was well raised, and is an agreeable person to be around. In part because of her previous profession as a concert musician, she had to be reasonably attractive and lead a healthy lifestyle to make the audition cuts. She also does not appear to have a wandering eye as she went 5 years without seeing anyone and concentrated on raising her children.
My concern is her lack of any real career prospects and some communication issues. I don't want to hold that against her as her English is better than my understanding of her native language, and because my parents were first generation immigrants, and also had limited opportunities, but it is in the back of my mind.
I have a lot to lose, as I earn over $100,000 a year, am mortgage free, and have been contributing to my retirement since I was 20 years old. I'll also have a 50% pension in ten years. A lot of things seem like they line up, but am wondering if I am making the financial issue a bigger deal than it should be? When I look at her, I'm constantly wondering if this would work out.
