I share sex and intimacy with married women all the time, in my personal life and also as a Provider - some of them are in open marriages and/or are polyamourous, others are monogamously married to a male spouse.
Particularly in the latter case, some of the reasons that wives have shared for seeking sex and intimacy outside their marriages are:
- their spouse is emotionally distant, or physically unavailable/busy, or maybe even already cheating on them
- their sex drive is significantly greater or lesser than their spouse's; intimacy begins to feel like a chore, or a negotiation
- they have stressful, ongoing family and/or money disputes that make spending intimate time with their spouse seem less desirable
- they just may no longer feel lust for their spouse, or the sex no longer feels good - even though the love might still be there
And, in the case specifically of women seeking women:
- they have discovered during their marriage that they may not be entirely straight, and now they want to explore that interest
- they may have previously enjoyed seeing other women before marriage, but hadn't done so since. They realize now that they miss this experience
Most of them also do not wish to leave their husbands, as they've established a life together, children may be involved, love might still be there, joint assets, family drama and ostracization, ect.
Same as many men say, "something is just missing".
- Addilyn Castle