Married Women

[Tony2000]

It's not only for attention.
She may have strong desires to go down that road and felt confident that she could pull it off,
only to realize she couldn't follow through with it. Guaranteed there was a good space of time between the first thought
and eventually contacting you.
The marriage is still young, just had a baby, that's a huge threshold to cross, guilt, confusion, emotional turmoil.
This board cultivates an enormous amount of cynicism, most people are good and try to live up to their values.

Yes, I think you've hit the nail on the head. I imagine a lot of what you described went through her head. I certainly understand that there would be conflicting thoughts and I understand why she didn't follow through.

When she first met her boyfriend (now husband) she was still seeing me as well. Once it became serious with him, she decided to end it with me because she was looking for a life partner. I was just offering casual fun.

 

[GameBoy27]

Another rarity is having anal sex when you and the girl are both 12 years old, as you have once claimed. Sounds like you have led a very charmed life!

What can I say, it did happen. And yes, life has been great so far!

 

[Alexxx99]

On 3 occasions. One situation was a separation and it was like a few days after, I knew her prior and it was largely because of drinking, although there wasn't much regret the day after.

2nd and 3rd situation was just sex-less marriages, like several months without and again drinking was involved. Although in the one instance it was a sloppy quick blowjob where after about half an hour neither of us came and passed out.

None of these instances were what I'd call good sex. In terms of keeping up affairs, it's not my cup of tea. Have no issue doing that for extended periods with someone's girlfriend or even fiance, but with divorce papers I'd stay away from extended relationships.

 

[multimedia]

It's not only for attention.
She may have strong desires to go down that road and felt confident that she could pull it off,
only to realize she couldn't follow through with it. Guaranteed there was a good space of time between the first thought
and eventually contacting you.
The marriage is still young, just had a baby, that's a huge threshold to cross, guilt, confusion, emotional turmoil.
This board cultivates an enormous amount of cynicism, most people are good and try to live up to their values.

Still, while it sounds 'old' to have a baby in your early 30s, it can still feel early for some people and regret or it not feeling right. Meeting someone and having a baby in a relative short time can create tension that was not predictable. Often, 'truths' are discovered among each other. The general benefit is to date longer, and have a more entrenched foundation before having a child so you know what to anticipate and generally more forgiving when the crap hits the fan during such a lifechanging even structurally and internally for the mother especially (not only is the birth giving process trauma to the body, good luck getting a restful sleep for months after it).

 

[Tony2000]

OP here. Yes, I think having a baby was challenging. In many ways, marriage has tradeoffs. You get some of the things that you want but not all of them. She is pretty kink friendly and she indicated to me that her future husband was a bit vanilla. But he brought the opportunity to settle down and start a family.