Companionship is underrated when you've had 17 years of it. To me it sounds like you just need to shake things up a bit... maybe get kinky.The Cunning Linguist said:
There are many people with open marriages... except that the majority of people in open marriages/relationships don't publicly admit it because it's taboo.dudey31 said:
You realize that we are talking about a wife that is selfishly denying her husband sex after choosing to financially burden him with marriage and probably children. Sex is a need and is very expensive for men especially as they get older. Most men can't really financially support a family and a mistress or many prostitutes to satisfy their needs.Kyra_to said:Again I didn't say that she is a good wife, mother, lover or anything like that only the original poster can answer that not any of us. There are plenty of people on here that are in a sexless marriage that they are satisfied with, it's up to them to choose whether to stay in the relationship or not. Relationships evolve over time, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse and sex is one of those variations. If your wife decides that she is no longer interested in sex you have an option, find a way to work around that (ie. sex outside the marriage, other forms of release, etc...) or to leave the relationship you don't have the right to force someone into having sex with you.
I only felt that someone should point out that following your advice could lead to serious consequesnces. We can't know his situation but if she is depriving him of sex because she is angry about something than his decision to "take" it could be very damaging to his life. Hell hath no fury... right?
Oddly enough I also find time to do the dishes, fold laundry, cut the grass and watch Simpsons, Family Guy, South Park and CSI. It's all about time management.Strongbeau said:
Actually we don't know that that's true, she may have a wonderful job pay many of the bills or perhaps he makes enough money that he is comfortable with supporting the kids and her without it being a burden. I'm not making any assumptions here. Really sex is a need for some men (not all) and also for some women, however no one is obliged to perform with anyone they do not choose to. She may also just be biding time until the kids are grown and free to do her own thing, again we don't know their situation her reasons may be selfish they may be understandable. There are two sides to everything and as an outsider we don't see it all.solitaria said:
Talking about forcing sex on anyone whether your wife or a stranger is still wrong. She does have the right to say no as does he, things change over time and the sex may evolve in many different ways. Just as some couples become polyamorous some become celibate, some are happy to have their relationship evolve and some are not.
If you want to enter into a relationship with a man, as I am sure you know, you have to be willing to offer your body to him for pleasure. Otherwise the man will lose interest in you and move on because he has to have his basic needs satisfied.Kyra_to said:
Go for it, I hope that it works for you, no relationship rule applies to everyone. I consider my marriage to be a very good one, but it is quite different than it was early on, for us the keys have been to communicate, and be realistic about how things are.zekestone said:
It's not such a sure thing as you think.lickrolaine said:
