Interesting Situation

[dreamblade]

It's 2008, and who hasn't heard of call logs? True, digging into what you do is bad form (read: creepy), but you calling your # from his phone would absolutely come across as a "call me".

I admit that later when he asked me for my number I did say, "Well, I guess you have it on your phone now, don't you." However, I did express to him that I had too much on my plate right now and that I was not interested in dating.

You reminding him that it's already on his phone just reinforced the message that you DID want him to call. It is the type of mixed message women tend to send out.

My take on it: He might have been a potential friend, or even a potential interest. But having revealed he knows your profession (an understandably sensitive subject), you're slapping your forehead over giving him a way to contact you... and rightfully so.

If he contacts you again, tell him plainly: Don't contact me again.

 

[Uzo]

i know girls that have googled my cell # online along with my name to get 'dirt'...i think its the age we live in now....i cant deny the fact that some girls that I have met in clubs or airport lounges that I have felt a spark but been on the fence with - i have looked up their info online to see what was what...i might sound creepy but I know I"m not a minority.

Another weird thing is, every BBQ/gathering/Club event/etc...i always seem to get a bunch of girls trying to add my via facebook..how they find me is beyond me...but its obvious they are searching online...

bottom line, i wouldnt be creeped by the guy finding your info online. You must have known that your cell # is conencted to your site...so it was bound to have been found out by somebody and some point in your career.

The fact that he knows your a SP might not change the fact he also might want to remain on the friend level until some point down the road...all us guys have done that "park and wait" thing...I know a few SP's that I know I can call up to hit up a club downtown or just chill at a bar and nothing is expected..its company and is not spent talking about clients and crap becuase you ladies are more than that...

 

[RTRD]

No sweetie...

And thats how men differ from women. If she wanted him to have her number she would have said "here Ill put my number in your phone" not used it to call her phone.

The guy went a little far by googling a number she didnt mean for him to have. Yes if someone gives you there number google it. But if not then dont it just seems creepy if you ask me.

...he isn't that far off in his characterizations of SOME women, and you are being a bit broad in your characterization of men.

That said, yeah, your general point is right. An ADULT woman has no problems giving her number to a man that she would like to call her - she doesn't need to be coy.

"Well...I have had a really great time talking with you...and wouldn't mind doing so again. Here is my number...I sure hope you use it".

I guess if you aren't the sort of man things like this happen to, then you don't know that this is how it really does work...at least when we are talking about teenagers, and 100 IQ Paris Hilton wannabes....

 

[Perry Mason]

WOW!!!

The paranoia!!!!

Perry

 

[wonderboy007]

Refer him to your rates page for dinner dates. If you have no interest, or no time to date him, then it would seem the decision as to what to do would be easy. Dating the guy will be bad news waiting to happen.

So this is what it all comes to. Paying a woman to have a dinner date now....

Thank god fembots are coming out soon.

 

[MissCroft]

It's 2008, and who hasn't heard of call logs? True, digging into what you do is bad form (read: creepy), but you calling your # from his phone would absolutely come across as a "call me".

You reminding him that it's already on his phone just reinforced the message that you DID want him to call. It is the type of mixed message women tend to send out.

When I think about it, maybe subconsciously I did sort of want him to have my number but I think that's just because I enjoyed talking to him so much. But I DID say I wasn't interested in any sort of dating relationship with him and he DID say he wouldn't call...

I would've preferred a phone call over a message to my misschloecroft e-mail stating that he knows I'm an escort. It is a tad creepy...

I've been going to this pub for a few years - albeit very sporadically - and I know quite a few people there. This was supposedly his first time there - I'm slightly concerned that he may 'let my secret out' but he doesn't strike me as the type that would do that (especially since he's been upfront with me).

Anyway, thanks all for the advice!

 

[james t kirk]

I say see him, what the fuck do you have to lose.

At least he already knows your employment so you won't have to have THAT conversation in the future.

You never know, it could be the start of something interesting.

That said, if all he wants to do is talk about your current employment situation, drop him.

If he's a really cool cucumber, he'll talk about everything but.

BTW, I would suggest you have a business cell phone and a personal cell phone from now on to avoid these kind of issues.

 

[Francesca22]

Send him a text message.

OR

email.

leave this number;

647-476-4910

That should say everything without saying anything.
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[MissCroft]

Well, I've already made my decision - I'm really not interested and am going to leave it at that. (I will politely let him know). I just thought it was a pretty interesting story and was looking for opinions, etc.

As for the business and personal cell phone, I don't give out my number to many people and when I do it's usually my landline number. After this, it may still be a good idea to get a separate cell phone anyway.

 

[smylee52]

Well, I've already made my decision - I'm really not interested and am going to leave it at that.

You gave him a mixed message by putting your number on his phone and then reminding him of that fact . You really should be clear with him and politely tell him to lose your number and your Email address . Afterall you may run into him again in that bar and its best he knows exactly what the score is IMHO .

 

[drlove]

Well, I've already made my decision - I'm really not interested and am going to leave it at that. (I will politely let him know). I just thought it was a pretty interesting story and was looking for opinions, etc.

As for the business and personal cell phone, I don't give out my number to many people and when I do it's usually my landline number. After this, it may still be a good idea to get a separate cell phone anyway.

So, what happens if he calls your work number and says he wants to book an appointment Would you see him as a client?

 

[drlove]

Send him a text message.

OR

email.

leave this number;

647-476-4910

That should say everything without saying anything.

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Who's number is that, anyway?

 

[Francesca22]

Who's number is that, anyway?

Call it and find out.


Keep it handy
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[skypilot]

Send him a text message.

OR

email.

leave this number;

647-476-4910

That should say everything without saying anything.
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Frannie, you are cruel.
I get called regularly from the rejection hotline.
Throughout this thread I keep seeing the word "creepy."
Whats so creepy about a man making a play for an attractive woman who led him on just a little.
Leaving her phone number and then talking about it, then saying "don't call" makes about as much sense as lying on a bed, naked, with your legs wide open saying lets not fuck.
Nothing at all creepy, and I know creepy.

 

[biancablaze]

...he isn't that far off in his characterizations of SOME women, and you are being a bit broad in your characterization of men.

That said, yeah, your general point is right. An ADULT woman has no problems giving her number to a man that she would like to call her - she doesn't need to be coy.

"Well...I have had a really great time talking with you...and wouldn't mind doing so again. Here is my number...I sure hope you use it".

I guess if you aren't the sort of man things like this happen to, then you don't know that this is how it really does work...at least when we are talking about teenagers, and 100 IQ Paris Hilton wannabes....

Yes I agree that was a bit of a characterization on my part. I didnt mean it as all men I probably should of been specific and said difference between you and I instead. Im sure theres atleast a handful of guys that a have used a girls phone to call thiers and had this happen we just always hear about the girls alot more.

 

[Francesca22]

Frannie, you are cruel.
I get called regularly from the rejection hotline.
Throughout this thread I keep seeing the word "creepy."
Whats so creepy about a man making a play for an attractive woman who led him on just a little.
Leaving her phone number and then talking about it, then saying "don't call" makes about as much sense as lying on a bed, naked, with your legs wide open saying lets not fuck.
Nothing at all creepy, and I know creepy.

I don't recall giving my personal opinon....

or asking you for yours.



I thought there was an obvious twist of charasmatic wit in my original reply.

If you think I'm cruel, then- so be it.

and just for future reference;
My name is Francesca, not frannie.



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