Interesting Situation

[MissCroft]

Well, my life is never short of 'interesting situations', lol, but this one's a new one for me...

So I was in a pub last week and met a guy, talked to him for over an hour and he seemed really cool though I don't really have any interest in dating him. He's the kind of guy I think I could be friends with but probably nothing more. I didn't give him my phone number but when I temporarily misplaced my cell phone, I used his phone to call it. Obviously he got my number off his phone by looking at the dialed calls.

Fast-forward to today and I get an e-mail from him sent to my misschloecroft address (as some of you can guess, not my real name. LOL) He says he did an internet search of the phone number and wound up on an escort board with a link to my website, etc. The funny part is now he says he's even MORE interested in me and wants to take me out for dinner. (I'm assuming not as a client).

As I said, I'm not really interested but am a little intrigued that he's so intrigued. However, I'm a little concerned that he was so sneaky. So what would you other ladies do? Go out for dinner with him? Or stay far away? I think I've already made my decision but would like to hear other opinions.

For all I know, he could be reading this as well....

~Chloe~

 

[RTRD]

Not a lady...

Well, my life is never short of 'interesting situations', lol, but this one I find particularly so...

So I was in a pub last week and met a guy, talked to him for over an hour and he seemed really cool though I don't really have any interest in dating him. He's the kind of guy I think I could be friends with but probably nothing more. I didn't give him my phone number but when I temporarily misplaced my cell phone, I used his phone to call it. Obviously he got my number off his phone by looking at the dialed calls.

Fast-forward to today and I get an e-mail from him sent to my misschloecroft address (as some of you can guess, not my real name. LOL) He says he did an internet search of the phone number and wound up on an escort board with a link to my website, etc. The funny part is now he says he's even MORE interested in me and wants to take me out for dinner. (I'm assuming not as a client).

As I said, I'm not really interested but am a little intrigued that he's so intrigued. However, I'm a little concerned that he was so sneaky. So what would you other ladies do? Go out for dinner with him? Or stay far away? I think I've already made my decision but would like to hear other opinions.

For all I know, he could be reading this as well....

~Chloe~

...but yeah, I'd avoid a guy whose instinct was to google a phone number he wasn't even given directly.

I mean...why would you GOOGLE someone number randomly? You do it if you want to find out something about them...yes...but if you are not a PI...why are you doing this with a phone number that was not actually GIVEN to you?

Maybe I am just too much of a (conservative) gentleman...I once blew a chance to follow up with someone i would have liked to speak with again because i refused to call her number that was on my caller ID until she gave me permission...and by time we connected and she gave me permission...it was long gone...

 

[skypilot]

I don't think he was sneaky at all. Good looking woman uses your phone to call her phone then a little research which he tells you about. Sounds like an intelligent upfront guy to me.

 

[lavameltme]

No Just some out and see me instead. Just a thought

 

[RTRD]

Ummm...

I don't think he was sneaky at all. Good looking woman uses your phone to call her phone then a little research which he tells you about. Sounds like an intelligent upfront guy to me.

...if someone doesn't give you their phone number, it is because they did not intend for you to call. You don't then get to call just because you have it thanks to technology...and what reason do you have to go hunting down someone on the internet that you don't even know? And then revealing that he KNOWS she is an escort? WTF is THAT about??? He doesn't have enough sense to know that isn't something she might not want the entire world to know, or have thrown in her face?

Intelligent he probably is. Up front he is too (thankfully for her). He's still a prick however, and yeah, probably a terbite...

 

[whynot888]

you guys had a really good time but t you he's not the dating type and felt uncomfortable giving out your number to him. but, in the end he got it?
maybe it was meant to be?

 

[fjdude]

Tell him straight up that you don't want to date and wanna just be friends. He's probably gonna think of you as a potential friend with benefits if you get to know each other well.

On second thoughts tell him piss off. I don't think his intentions are good anyway.

 

[red]

danger will robinson!!


avoid. if he was straight up he would have called you like a man, not googled you like some teenager.

 

[whynot888]

or maybe he was a fellow terb mate?

 

[skypilot]

...if someone doesn't give you their phone number, it is because they did not intend for you to call. You don't then get to call just because you have it thanks to technology...and what reason do you have to go hunting down someone on the internet that you don't even know? And then revealing that he KNOWS she is an escort? WTF is THAT about??? He doesn't have enough sense to know that isn't something she might not want the entire world to know, or have thrown in her face?

Intelligent he probably is. Up front he is too (thankfully for her). He's still a prick however, and yeah, probably a terbite...

I would have believed that her using my phone to call her phone was a cute little way of giving me her phone number. I always do a little internet research on people I am interested in, to me its the smart thing do do. Finally when he finds out she is an escort, he is up front with her, I don't see him throwing anything in her face where he wants to see her again. If he had called her and said "Nya nya you're an escort" and then hung up, that would be throwing it in her face.
Seems to me the guy is interested in her. Maybe he found out more than he wanted on his internet search. I'll bet he even looked at the pictures on her website (great pictures they are too,) and he is being honest right upfront. I think thats alot better than six months down the road saying "Oh yeah, by the way . . ."
Then again, you could just charge him your normal dinner date rate.

 

[Radio_Shack]

Misscroft, I thought when you used my phone to call yours you were giving me your phone number so I would find you again.

 

[enduser1]

I would have believed that her using my phone to call her phone was a cute little way of giving me her phone number.

I agree. If Chloe is not interested personally she can say: "I only date professionally."

If she is personally interested he is a lucky guy!

EU

 

[RTRD]

I can see that...

I would have believed that her using my phone to call her phone was a cute little way of giving me her phone number...

...except I would assume that was her cute way of telling me she was a child, and not a woman. Either way, she isn't getting a call from me.

 

[biancablaze]

I would have believed that her using my phone to call her phone was a cute little way of giving me her phone number.

And thats how men differ from women. If she wanted him to have her number she would have said "here Ill put my number in your phone" not used it to call her phone.

The guy went a little far by googling a number she didnt mean for him to have. Yes if someone gives you there number google it. But if not then dont it just seems creepy if you ask me.

 

[MissCroft]

Misscroft, I thought when you used my phone to call yours you were giving me your phone number so I would find you again.

???

I really did need to use his phone to call mine because I honestly couldn't find mine. He was quick to offer his phone so I could call it. I admit that later when he asked me for my number I did say, "Well, I guess you have it on your phone now, don't you." However, I did express to him that I had too much on my plate right now and that I was not interested in dating. He said he understood and that he wouldn't call. If I remember correctly, (not 100% certain) he even said he would delete the # from his phone.

 

[enduser1]

Uhm,

After this additional information I would just say no. To me it sounds like you are not interested.

EU

 

[KBear]

Refer him to your rates page for dinner dates. If you have no interest, or no time to date him, then it would seem the decision as to what to do would be easy. Dating the guy will be bad news waiting to happen.

 

[Perry Mason]

I would have interpreted your telling him your number was already on his cell as a coy invitation to call you.

I don't think there is anything wrong or improper in his informing himself to the best of his ability before calling... I would have done the same thing!

IMHO, you led him on... what you do now is up to you, but don't "blame" him!

Perry

 

[Big Michael]

I would have interpreted your telling him your number was already on his cell as a coy invitation to call you.

I don't think there is anything wrong or improper in his informing himself to the best of his ability before calling... I would have done the same thing!

IMHO, you led him on... what you do now is up to you, but don't "blame" him!

Perry

Don't agree, she did say that she was not interesting in dating and he responded by saying he wouldn't call her.

Sounds creepy, don't see him.

 

[buckwheat1]

go out on the town with this poor fella!!!