I don't get it.

[OddSox]

I'm at the bar tonight - there's a bunch of us drinking so I buy a round of shooters plus one for the tender - like 8 drinks. Then the girl next to me (who already bought a pitcher or two before I arrived - and I know she can't really afford it) buys the next round of shooters.

Then, nothing. After an hour or so everybody has pretty much disappeared - either gone home without a word or sitting elsewhere.

These are all good people with good jobs, all over 35 years old, but this is not the first time it's happened. And it often seems as if it's the same people who end up paying...

WTF is wrong with people? It's not that big a deal to me, spending $50 or so for a round is not really the issue, but...

 

[university kid]

Happens all the time. You are going to get the people who say "you don't buy a round to receive one"... But that's bull.

Most in today's world would much rather take rather than give. Stop being generous, buy drinks for those who ill appreciate, and then recipricate (sp?.)

cheers
-kid

 

[MarkII]

Some people just know their limit and head out....YOu bought them a round...it's not a commitment.

 

[5hummer]

Lesson learnt -- there are A LOT of leechers in the world.

 

[OddSox]

Some people just know their limit and head out....YOu bought them a round...it's not a commitment.

You're right - it was my choice to buy, and I'm not saying I expected reciprocation - I usually don't. Just, for some reason tonight I thought that there was a bit of a fairness issue involved...

Maybe I'm just in a mood...

 

[Questor]

Some people just know their limit and head out....YOu bought them a round...it's not a commitment.

I agree. Unless there was something else going on. For sure some people will avoid buying a round. That's life. But sometimes, if there's 8 people at a table, people don't want to sit and drink 8 drinks. They go home or switch tables or go to another bar, or just don't drink very much.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

I'll give you one better. I was out with friends. One lady friend quietly asks me to loan her the money to buy a round. She will pay me back tomorrow, she promises. She is always good to her word and she was. I was paid back the very next day. As for the round that evening, - she bought drinks for everyone at our table except me.

 

[nolabel]

Where I'm from, this would be sufficent cause for a lynching! One possible explanation is that you're not from Canada originally, and your expectation of social etiquette hasn't encountered the Canadian reality of leeching being relatively common (acceptable?). I do like Canucks, but have noticed this leeching happens frequently. Basic etiquette should be the following: if you don't intend to reciprocate, because 8 drinks is not your thing (fair enough, I hate shots, for instance), then either decline, or accept the 'shout' (someone buying you a drink) and just buy that person one back (not the other 7). This is not a hard thing to figure out! I'm not sure why alot of Canadians leech, in this circumstance, instead of decline or do the one-buy-back thing. Odd, because Canucks are polite and decent in so many other ways.

 

[Ironhead]

Where I'm from, this would be sufficent cause for a lynching! One possible explanation is that you're not from Canada originally, and your expectation of social etiquette hasn't encountered the Canadian reality of leeching being relatively common (acceptable?). I do like Canucks, but have noticed this leeching happens frequently. Basic etiquette should be the following: if you don't intend to reciprocate, because 8 drinks is not your thing (fair enough, I hate shots, for instance), then either decline, or accept the 'shout' (someone buying you a drink) and just buy that person one back (not the other 7). This is not a hard thing to figure out! I'm not sure why alot of Canadians leech, in this circumstance, instead of decline or do the one-buy-back thing. Odd, because Canucks are polite and decent in so many other ways.

You got to laugh at idiotic statements like this, lumping ALL CANADIANS together. Leeching never happens anywhere on earth but Canada.
With my friends, of which zero are CEOs(CEO > in other words people with high paying jobs), if there is a group of six or so, by the time it gets to your turn you would have a buzz on because of the first four or five picked up by others in the group.
All in my cicle of friends are born and raised Toronto, Ontario Canadians.

 

[Questor]

Where I'm from, this would be sufficent cause for a lynching! One possible explanation is that you're not from Canada originally, and your expectation of social etiquette hasn't encountered the Canadian reality of leeching being relatively common (acceptable?). I do like Canucks, but have noticed this leeching happens frequently. Basic etiquette should be the following: if you don't intend to reciprocate, because 8 drinks is not your thing (fair enough, I hate shots, for instance), then either decline, or accept the 'shout' (someone buying you a drink) and just buy that person one back (not the other 7). This is not a hard thing to figure out! I'm not sure why alot of Canadians leech, in this circumstance, instead of decline or do the one-buy-back thing. Odd, because Canucks are polite and decent in so many other ways.

Well, I think there are all kinds of rules and expectations in different situations. Age and income are 2 important variables that determine people's expectations. Also important is the relationship between the people of the group. But certainly the courtesy of buying the person who bought the round a drink as you depart is a kind gesture. I hardly think that the failure to do so classifies one as a leech though.

 

[nolabel]

You got to laugh at idiotic statements like this, lumping ALL CANADIANS together. Leeching never happens anywhere on earth but Canada.
With my friends, of which zero are CEOs(CEO > in other words people with high paying jobs), if there is a group of six or so, by the time it gets to your turn you would have a buzz on because of the first four or five picked up by others in the group.
All in my cicle of friends are born and raised Toronto, Ontario Canadians.

Actually, what you've got to laugh at is the inability to read all of the qualifiers, such as "relatively common" and "alot", which clearly imply not all and not all the time. Nor was it implied anywhere that it is only Canucks. Maybe you just need to take some remedial English lessons?! After you've taken those, maybe you would like to consider that some of us have lived in quite a few different countries. Of course it is a generalization, and you do note I complimented Canucks in general, right? Your post just reads like a person unable to fathom that, in comparison, not EVERYTHING about Canucks comes across to all others as always polite. I'm sorry if some here are offended that the word leeching is used to describe lack of reciprocity, but whatever word you do feel comfy with, it's still lack of reciprocity. And, yes, not everyonbe does it and not just canucks. I'm just saying to the OP that it is more prevalent here than other places I have lived in. Don't know why, I'm just reporting it.

 

[Ironhead]

lol

Keep digging, Nolabel.

 

[nolabel]

lol

Keep digging, Nolabel.

Why? Your brain is already enough of a hole for both of us