I didn't give up on dating, but I did get demotivated. I was a bit of a slow starter had my first girlfriend last year in my mid 20s. I loved her and she was always withholding sex,saying she wanted to go slow which really was fine with me. I would've married her,cept she broke it off telling me she never felt anything for me and their was no romantic chemistry,this after she told me she was scared I might've left her when she said she wanted to go slow, and after we met each others parents etc. I'm new to the hobby but I think I do it because my heart isn't on the line (although some sps are pretty good at getting you to fall for em lol).
It's weird to say but with an sp I think I'm compensating from my ex, this time I'm in control and it's pure sex. I still date,just haven't felt that connection to anyone else yet kinda feel a little broken to tell you the truth, but I try mainly because I still believe having sex with someone you love and who loves you back must be the best thing in the world (haven't felt it yet).
i don't think I'm undesireable, a little chubby but 6 ft 3, well groomed, good job, education, personality lol although a minority but honestly dating I've learned is a game and I don't really like the bs and dishonesty associated with it, lol but I'm totally jaded at the moment.