How do you want to be “rejected” or “declined” as a client?

[Jenesis]

So if an escort has seen you and they don’t want to see you again for whatever reason - how do you want to be told?

Do you just want her to always be “booked”? Do you want her to just say you don’t have the chemistry she is looking for? Or if there is a specific reason like she doesn’t like how you fuck, thinks you’re too aggressive, or you have hygiene issues, do you want her to tell you the truth? Or if you are getting to clingy, do you want her to tell you that?

So how do you want to be told that she doesn’t want to see you anymore?

 

[jimiagain]

"your dick is too big for me"

 

[mikew1]

Poor chemistry sounds good to me.

 

[kherg007]

Thanks for the date, however, recently I've decided I have to limit my clients. So thank you for booking but going forward I won't be able to take you on as a client. But thanks and good luck!

 

[that6969]

Thanks for the date, however, recently I've decided I have to limit my clients. So thank you for booking but going forward I won't be able to take you on as a client. But thanks and good luck!

I don't mind honesty since it doesn't bother me, but I also have yet to see a SP more than 3 times since I'm not a regular at this hobby with anyone yet.

But it would depend on how the SP feels about clients especially meeting new people once. If I was a female doing incalls at a private res I'd probably stick with the booked excuse or what the above said. It's better to play it safe.

Ghosting works too and if the person still texts often after a few days then just block them. I had to do that the odd time with online dating a few years ago.

 

[Shaquille Oatmeal]

I think being straight forward and telling it as it is will help.
For example:
"While you are a good client I dont think my body can take rough sex. I will cherish our time together but hope you have a good time with other ladies who are more comfortable".
Something like that, maybe?

 

[Robert Mugabe]

So if an escort has seen you and they don’t want to see you again for whatever reason - how do you want to be told?

Do you just want her to always be “booked”? Do you want her to just say you don’t have the chemistry she is looking for? Or if there is a specific reason like she doesn’t like how you fuck, thinks you’re too aggressive, or you have hygiene issues, do you want her to tell you the truth? Or if you are getting to clingy, do you want her to tell you that?

So how do you want to be told that she doesn’t want to see you anymore?

Who did you have in mind?

Personally my best experience was being told after I asked why do you hate me? Answer "your personality. None of the girls like you. If I was your girlfriend I would have got rid of you. You are terrible at sex. You don't know how to make love to a woman. What you do is like porno"
Last time I tried to get in she physically pushed me out the door. Her parting words were "Why don't you go away and take some medicine and die? Nobody is forcing you to come here. Fuck your mother!"

That wasn't quite what I was hoping for, but it got the job done.
I still love that bitch. lol. she was the champ.

 

[that6969]

Why would you go back to see her if she already told you no? I think some of you live in some fantasy "Hollywood" or "porn" world.

 

[jalimon]

If I was an escort i would simply block the number. Not giving any reason. Too many wackos out there.

I once had the opposite. I told a girl i would not see her anymore as I had seen her too often. she got pissed and replied ‘You ass hole will book me once or twice a month is that clear?? I always was super nice to you give me some respect you moron!’ Ok ok i continued to see her. And fuck was it good after that!

 

[Robert Mugabe]

If I was an escort i would simply block the number. Not giving any reason. Too many wackos out there.

I once had the opposite. I told a girl i would not see her anymore as I had seen her too often. she got pissed and replied ‘You ass hole will book me once or twice a month is that clear?? I always was super nice to you give me some respect you moron!’ Ok ok i continued to see her. And fuck was it good after that!

That's what my girl told me. The "I was always nice to you" part. No invitation to come back though.

 

[xix]

I can be told things straight out, so I am a 0.000 001 % of the population. I try to turn it around to make myself better.

Stay with Post # 3 or #4 unless they want or ask for full honest comment.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Why would you go back to see her if she already told you no? I think some of you live in some fantasy "Hollywood" or "porn" world.

Love.

 

[thumper18474]

I actually had an escort say she'd rather not see me anymore..and she is here on Terb.
I know the reasons and Im OK with it..

 

[that6969]

Actual porn shoots, and not the amateur stuff, that is usually 20-30mins is heavily scripted and edited. It takes hours of work and then certain footages are pieced together to make it look like one great experience when generally it isn't all that glamourous. Most SPs who prefer a wild porn type experience generally are into partying stuff to handle it I'm assuming. YMMV. Personally I find a porn encounter to be quite mechanical to a degree and annoying along with too much dirty talk. I dated someone who wanted certain things said to her and I had to eventually just stop myself. I didn't find anything "fun" about it compared to others.

I met someone once briefly who was desperate for funds and she'd tell me some of the stuff she did which included some guys wanting to go very long and she'd literally just pass out and stuff. I cringed when she told me that stuff.

Also what they show on scripted tv isn't how "love" works. Perhaps infatuation or something. If I reject a girl I met and she shows up at my door again to magically win me over there's a 1% chance it'll work and that 1% comes with things like behavioral and personality issues typically. That comes with maturity and communications. However, in real life that person fully changing and things working out are extremely rare. It's like those short clips on social media where buddy's wacko ex who he has a restraining order or something against shows up and he just doesn't wanna deal with all that. Some people are just messed up. Happens to anyone of course. A few people out there think "no means yes" unless you do some roleplay thing with a safe word and that comes with trust.

You find a SP you see as a regular and develop feelings then try asking her out on an actual date. If she declines then remember you're paying for a service for her to generally act a certain way. Strippers deal with this often too and unfortunately their clients generally are under the influence of booze so the experience is worse. That's why some SPs post they aren't into partying or getting wasted nor want to see a client that's clearly wasted.

I had a great FWB experience with someone. Eventually one of us had feelings and the other person made it clear they didn't want to actually turn it into a relationship and the reasoning. Could it have gone back to a decent FWB? Sure as long as both parties agreed. I've experienced both where one person just didn't wanna continue the FWB cause they probably felt bad. And someone I had a short FWB was into me and I told her a few issues I had with her and she showed no signs of changing so that was the end of that besides her sexually being meh.

Sober up and try thinking analytically with your bigger head at times.

 

[Brown Nose Bear]

I'd prefer being told the truth, even if it's hard to hear, that way if I did something wrong I could fix it. If you don't know why you got turned down you'll always wonder what happened. If telling the truth is too uncomfortable, make up something else that's plausible.

Always "fully booked" is the worst because you keep wasting time trying to book until you eventually get the hint. I'd rather just get ghosted.

 

[The Options Menu]

So how do you want to be told that she doesn’t want to see you anymore?

I have a skin condition, and I'm always upfront about it with both pros and civilians. I've had an agency booker mention a couple of escorts who declined to see me. (Fine by me.) I suspect other agencies lined me up with providers who said 'yes', but I'd be fine if they mentioned a specific provider declined.I blacklist any agency that fails to mention my skin condition to a provider for being shitbags.

Most indies haven't had a problem with seeing me. I've had a couple of out of town Leo indies just not respond. That leaves a lingering question of did they just not respond because they got my message late, or was it because of my condition? In that case I MAY try to contact them ONE subsequent time in the future, though I've honestly prefer if they just declined if it's because of my skin thing.

I'm clearly in the, "Just tell me." camp, but I can see that as a bad idea because of creepers, weirdos, and potentially violent or unstable people. So I think some tailored version of response #4 would probably be best. After that exchange you should feel free to block if appropriate.

Always being 'busy' seems like stringing a guy along. Black hole-ing a guy would be effective, but that might lead to bitter guys giving negative reviews or otherwise trolling / shit talking you when given the chance. Being too honest may lead to the same.

So some version of, "I'm restricting my client base." may be best if you aren't confidant guy can take the honest reason. All IMO. I suspect your own judgement on the subject would be better than mine.

 

[escortsxxx]

I have a skin condition, and I'm always upfront about it with both pros and civilians. I've had an agency booker mention a couple of escorts who declined to see me. (Fine by me.) I suspect other agencies lined me up with providers who said 'yes', but I'd be fine if they mentioned a specific provider declined.I blacklist any agency that fails to mention my skin condition to a provider for being shitbags.

Most indies haven't had a problem with seeing me. I've had a couple of out of town Leo indies just not respond. That leaves a lingering question of did they just not respond because they got my message late, or was it because of my condition? In that case I MAY try to contact them ONE subsequent time in the future, though I've honestly prefer if they just declined if it's because of my skin thing.

I'm clearly in the, "Just tell me." camp, but I can see that as a bad idea because of creepers, weirdos, and potentially violent or unstable people. So I think some tailored version of response #4 would probably be best. After that exchange you should feel free to block if appropriate.

Always being 'busy' seems like stringing a guy along. Black hole-ing a guy would be effective, but that might lead to bitter guys giving negative reviews or otherwise trolling / shit talking you when given the chance. Being too honest may lead to the same.

So some version of, "I'm restricting my client base." may be best if you aren't confidant guy can take the honest reason. All IMO. I suspect your own judgement on the subject would be better than mine.

Not the right chemistry, and ideally the option to hear what that means via email or some such.
Some issues could be improved upon, but there a time to hear that info.

 

[wigglee]

"you gave me herpes AND the flu!... Piss off!"

 

[Insidious Von]

Slap me around and call me Susan.

Foggy memory, Tommy Lister was no in the scene. He was In Living Color.

 

[harryass]

Keep it simple. Be tactful and not hurtful/mean. Some of us may bruise easily like a banana. example,

Thanks for ur interest. Comfort and chemistry is very important to me and my clients. Sorry, I'm not comfortable with seeing you again. Please respect my decision. I will not be replying to this message any further. Best of luck to U in finding another lady.